Friends are friendly, I am Miao Baoping, a psychological counselor, and the name of the network is like dust.
Today we continue to read Dr. Yue Xiaodong's book", "The Feeling of Ascending to Heaven: I Did Psychological Counseling at Harvard University": "Chapter 3 Career Choice: Listen to Your Own, Or Listen to Your Parents".
Text: Case analysis (continued above)
3. Turn on the brain engine - be the best version of yourself
Often, when people enter their teenage years, they have a kind of self-talk: How about me? What kind of person am I? What can I do in the future?... Rigaku boils it down to the problem of psychological identity. If an individual can well integrate past life experience and grasp the direction of his own life development during this period, it will be a very fortunate thing.
Jiahui in the case started from her own interests, and during her studies, she took the initiative to experience news writing and won the appreciation of her peers. At the same time, I also got a real self-identification, and gradually clarified what I wanted to do in the future. This is a major sign of an individual's growth.
In the consultation, I made a "three circles" game with Jiahui, and now I will share it with you: please draw three circles on the paper, and mark the three circles on the three circles that I like to do the most, what I am best at, and what I think are the most valuable. If your answer overlaps as much as Jiahui's, then I want to congratulate you. Because your personality integration has reached a relatively perfect state!
I found in later research that when our "three laps" are one, the resource integration of the left and right brains will reach the best state, gaining more lasting motivation and better creativity and willpower. The brain's reward circuits are also naturally formed and strengthened.
Therefore, if the personal career orientation can take into account his own interests and hobbies, he will get the best achievement experience in the profession and climb to the peak of self-realization! Use what you are good at to do meaningful things, then you are a successful and happy person!
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Entering the youth period, the physiological level and psychological development reach the mature level, and the dialectical, relative, and practical thinking form gradually becomes an important form of thinking. Living space expands. Start taking on social obligations and start falling in love with marriage.
Psychologists have many descriptions of adolescence. For example, E. Spranger (1924) described adolescence as a "second birth", the first born for survival and the second born for life. Hall believes that youth is from "stormy winds" to "relative balance". Others argue that individuals in their youth are "marginalized", meaning that young people, especially university students, have been separated from the children's group but are not yet able to fulfill their adult responsibilities and obligations. As a result, they are often excluded from the ranks of adults.
Therefore, for young people, parents still play an important role in the development of life, although the attachment to parents begins to weaken, but most people have to discuss important issues in life with their parents. In the same way, parents are still paying attention to the growth of young people, including life, career choices, love and marriage, etc.
Since society gives young people more roles, in this sense, young people not only assume the responsibilities of husbands and wives in the family, but also perform the tasks of work in society, which is not only economic reasons, because adults mean independence, and work is also an important part of life happiness. Not having a job means not being able to integrate into society and not being conducive to the further growth of personality.
Therefore, young people should consider their own abilities when choosing a career or profession, not simply consider economic income and employment opportunities. Because only by choosing a profession or major that you love, are good at, are interested in, and that suits your personality characteristics will improve your learning and work efficiency, enhance job satisfaction, and reduce burnout, which is an extremely important stage of development in your life. Here, what young people need to discuss is to reduce the desire to be in a hurry, because just entering the society, your knowledge, ability, your book knowledge and occupation have the problem of integration with each other, and practicing true knowledge is the truth. Because the years of time can most sharpen a person's patience and will, down-to-earth, diligent and inquisitive is the ladder of success. Of course, if you are smart enough and lucky, it is not impossible to shorten the time to success.
The correct cognition of society, the integration of their own identity into the mainstream society, can resist all kinds of bad temptations, take fewer detours, and be the best of themselves, which is the more sensible result of the career path of young people!
The emotional experience and career success of jiahui, a college student in this article, are a bit enlightening for us young people!
November 2, 2021 #Counselor said #