Hello everyone, I am your TCM, Xiao Liu.
Some time ago, a female reader wrote to me privately and said something about the way of husband and wife.
Teacher Liu, I was recently newly married, and I practiced the way of husband and wife about four times a week, but it became a shadow in my heart.
To be honest, these things, telling the teacher a little embarrassed, but can feel the happiness is very few, every time when I enter the state, the other party is already finished.
This feeling makes me a little scared, after all, I am only in my 20s, life has just begun, what should I do?
Today, I will take this problem to popularize the way of husband and wife with everyone, men are always "quick to fight and make quick decisions", but women are "unfinished" What to do?
In fact, regarding their problems, it is not uncommon in life, and many families will have such a situation.
Chinese medicine believes that the kidney is the "innate foundation", the most basic guarantee for maintaining the growth of the body, and once damaged, it will affect other aspects of the function, such as the way of husband and wife today.
On this issue, we can usually explain it from three aspects.
Aspect one; the body structure of men and women.
The body structure of men and women is not the same, so it is inevitable that there will be some differences when practicing the way of husband and wife, and studies have found that the phenomenon of "male fast and female slow" usually occurs.
In this case, you should pay attention to the control of time, do not directly enter the theme, you can do some preliminary preparatory activities, let the other party enter the state and then drive the man's rights.
Aspect two; physical fitness is too low
Now a common disease of many young people is to stay up late, alcoholism, smoking, etc., these long-term bad behaviors make many young people's kidneys hit hard, like the "engine" of the car, long-term work but not timely maintenance will fail, resulting in a lot of parts problems, the kidneys are the same, once there is a problem, not repaired in time, it will cause problems in kidney deficiency.
Zhang Zhongjing left the man to hide the fang, and the (bo) Ling Ginseng recorded in the Yellow Emperor's Inner Classic in the early days was called the "gospel" of men.
It belongs to the plant family Ofent five plus, has a variety of rich plant alcohol elements, of which the representative of the plant alcohol zinc, manganese and saponin and other elements, literature records, these plant alcohols can not only help the initial swelling of the prostate, for kidney deficiency has a good achievement.
And Chinese medicine commonly used goji berries with it, you can take 10 goji berries, 3 grams of ginseng, 5 grams of yellow essence; put the three flavor ingredients together to soak in water or decoction can be, one dose a day, even after several weeks, can greatly improve the quality of life, for wilting, lack of time, hair loss and waist and leg pain and other issues are helpful.
Aspect three; mental instability
After many young people encounter this situation, they will have a burden in their hearts, and they will cover their hearts with a layer of gauze, which is difficult to tear open and be able to get out.
My reader is the same, from the heart has created a burden, this is a negative emotion, not only can not change the status quo, but also affect the happiness index of the family.
When encountering this kind of thing, you should not shy away from it, it is recommended to communicate with men directly, but do not hit each other's self-confidence, pay attention to the way of language, give each other encouragement, and cooperate with each other, so as to come out of the shadows.
Finally, Xiao Liu suggested that when in the way of husband and wife, after encountering problems, we should bravely express them, do not be too conservative, and do not communicate with each other, if this state is long, sooner or later there will be problems.