Story 1:
26 years old, never had real love.
As a man who is not short or ugly, but is not good at sports by nature, cannot learn to be "bad", sometimes extremely rational, sometimes extremely emotional.
For me, the word "love" does not see the beauty and goodness of the poet's pen, but only the narrowest wooden bridge in the world.
Once, after entering the university, I finally felt the atmosphere of tolerance and had the high-quality friendship I had dreamed of. At that time, I had unprecedented happiness and self-confidence, and I thought that I had finally come to a tolerant world.
At that time, I never thought about falling in love. However, not long after, a friend told me that such a character could not find a girlfriend.
That night, I fell from heaven to hell. More than 20 years on, my lifestyle and way of thinking have been denied, and I never thought that my personality and hobbies were wrong.
I thought they were equal hobbies, so why is it suddenly divided into this "fun" and that "boring" 369 and so on.
I started falling into depression, hating the world, hating my gender.
It wasn't until the summer of 2016 that my parents saw my condition and introduced me to a girl. She was quite happy with me at first and didn't pay much attention to jokes. I thought I could finally have the happiness of being in love. However, when the topic of WeChat chat is less and less every night, I can feel more burden than sweetness.
Finally one day, she lost patience and proposed to end. After all, she didn't wait until the day when the relationship was actually established, but it was always the closest experience to love.
After this experience, I got rid of a lot of previous fantasies about love, and finally realized that in real love, compared to the daily disguise of myself and guessing each other's subtext, those romantic scenes in the TV series are really only nine cows.
Therefore, I began to look at the matter of love rationally. Maybe the happiness that love can bring me is really not the same as forcibly changing my personality and hobbies, not living according to my own inner standards, and not being sincerely painful all day long for "extra points".
I'm not a very emotional person. I yearn for love mainly because of my spiritual beauty. But when I look at my own life rationally, I find that these spiritual experiences are not exclusive to love, nor do they need to change their hobbies or put on a mask, but can be possessed in other ways.
Story 2:
Before going to college, I had been focusing on learning, never considered feelings, went to college, participated in student organization mixed clubs, coupled with the obsession with programming at that time, so I did not have time to seriously consider feelings, I felt that I was not mature enough, and I was more cautious about emotional things, and I did not dare to easily promise anything.
When I was in graduate school, I didn't meet anyone who moved me, and the uncertainty of the future made me afraid to think about it. In fact, after being single for a long time, the biggest experience is that I am used to a person's life and am used to loneliness.
I don't know how to care about a girl, and I don't know how to make the other party satisfied, which is a great sad thing for me, and it feels natural to be an ordinary friend with a girl, but if you imagine becoming a couple, you feel at a loss and don't know how to get along.
Sometimes think about the future, can only hold a step by step to see the mentality, hope to have a person who understands themselves and meet themselves, single for a long time also has benefits, feel able to calm down to think about things, get used to loneliness, accept loneliness, be alone. In short, I hope to have someone who understands each other, does not dislike themselves, and can tolerate each other, and is waiting for me somewhere.
True love can not be sought, at a certain point, there will be a person who loves you, waiting for you, she will not care about you fat, thin and tall, just because you are you and love you.
So, 25 years old has not been in love, there is no shame, as long as he is the right person!