Have you ever met such a person?
Ta often sighs: I want to fall in love;
I also occasionally wonder: Is no one really like me and want to be alone for a lifetime?
I would even crave: I would like someone to love me.
But when someone was about to confess, he changed his face in an instant: Stay away from me!!
In terms of the current social distance, no one is not anxious in the face of love.
Even Cecilia Cheung is no exception:
"I don't like it very much, and I don't like it if I don't pester;
Too good for me can't work, too bad for me can't do. ”
So what kind of likes? Just to do it?
I'm afraid they don't know the answer themselves.
In "500 Days of Love with Summer", the heroine Summer is such a person.
She is beautiful, generous, lively and talkative, but she has always made Tom feel unattainable:
Even after dating, kissing, and making love, I still dare not confirm the current relationship between the two.
Because Summer is always saying "we don't need to label this relationship".
The first time I saw this movie, I wondered the same as the male protagonist Tom; how could there be such a person?
But he was just as determined that such a person would change if he was loved wholeheartedly once.
But in the end, Summer married someone else.
When I revisited the film again, I found that Summer had actually "revealed" more than once the reason for her constant rejection of the relationship —
Never had confidence in Tom.
Even after meeting again after marriage, she still repeats: I don't believe you.
Psychologically, there is such a kind of avoidant attachment personality.
It is not that they are not without a heartbeat, but they will feel cringe when they are moved.
As Summer thinks, "Love is too troublesome, and someone will always get hurt."
Therefore, I will always "smartly" protect myself and remind myself repeatedly in my head:
As long as it doesn't start, it never ends.
But it's also silly. After all, all the bonds associated with love need time to be forged.
The moment you choose to escape, the hurt has already happened.
In "Fangfang", Ariel is a person who is very insecure about love.
When he met by chance, he fell in love with Fangfang.
But he never invited Fang Fang to date, did not intend to express his heart, and would not make love to her.
Just look at it from a distance and make up your mind:
I will always pursue Fangfang, but I will never let her know my admiration.
This "grand" spiritual unrequited love, the result is not satisfactory:
One day Fangfang directly brought her ex-boyfriend home and said in front of Alex that she was getting married.
Alex, who faced all this, although he never got it, was still very painful.
When I was hesitant to move forward during my entrepreneurial period, a senior once said this:
It is impossible to avoid risk and avoid suffering by "not starting".
Intimate relationships are especially true, otherwise there wouldn't be so many sad crushes.
In fact, the Alex in "Fangfang" is so evasive because of the concept of "intimacy" in childhood, which has left a shadow.
I have a friend who is like this, who has a good feeling for each other tomorrow morning, but has always pretended that nothing matters.
If the other person took a step in her direction at this time, she would immediately take ten steps back.
Not only dare to take the initiative to move forward, but also afraid of others taking the initiative to approach.
In Mindcatcher, Will is a mathematical genius, but also a troubled teenager.
Orphaned from an early age, he was adopted by multiple families, but never felt loved.
He has been fighting and causing trouble, making a living as a cleaner, and going to bars with friends in his spare time.
In fact, in his world, there are many achievements that no matter how hard others try, he can easily obtain them.
Even so, in the face of the person he loves, he still has inferiority.
The other party invited him to go to another city to study and live, thinking that he was looking down on his origins.
So preemptively, proposed to break up, and at the same time hurt the other party with the most cruel words.
I thought that I would not be sad in this way, but in fact, on the contrary, in addition to heartache, there was also a sense of guilt.
Love is actually very sensible, if you are lucky enough to meet it, don't run away again.
Believe me, when you open your arms ready to embrace, it will stop.
Be bold, and regret it in the middle of the night,
It is better to bravely leave a story of aftertaste back to Gan first.