The picture of this article comes from the film "Fashion Pioneer Chanel"
The first point of human existence in the world is independent support. In the material life, we must be able to support ourselves and be economically independent; in the spiritual life, we must also be independent and supportive, and we must not rely on anyone, whether it is the evaluation of others, the love of others, or the emotions of others.
The old-fashioned women are just "married to the man and dressed and eat", raised by their husbands, without their own independent income, and have no complete personality. To see the husband's eyes alive, to be bullied by the husband, not to like him also have to endure him, can not get rid of him. Therefore, the independent support of material life is the basis for a person to have a complete personality.
It is said that after a person can support independently in material life, there is no absolute reason not to be independent in spiritual life, the problem is that when love occurs, once love occurs for someone, it will have a spiritual dependence on the other party, attaching joy and sorrow to each other, paying too much attention to each other's evaluation, each other's recognition, and each other's love, thus forgetting that the other party is also a living individual with his own joys, sorrows, loves and evil desires, and the focus of his life is not necessarily in harmony with himself. At this time, if you rely too much on each other, you will also lose your spiritual independence and freedom.
If a person always pins his life and his emotions on others, it is the worst kind of self-willed fall. Not necessarily depraved, but it is a fall, a fall from an independently supported personality. Man should always choose to support himself independently, like a big tree standing proudly on a high mountain, rather than being a spring vine around the tree. Man may lose everything, but he may not lose his freedom, the freedom of the material spirit. And this freedom can only come from the courage of man to be independent of the world.