We all know the word "Yamato", the main ethnic group in Japan; but what about "Fuzi"? Do you know?
"Fuzi" is a plant, often called caryophyllus or quercus, which is delicate in form and is not actually squeamish.
Recently, Maruko often heard such remarks, saying that Japanese women are gentle and virtuous, husbands and godsons, good wives and mothers, how good it is to find a Japanese woman to be a wife... Something like that. But is it actually?
Let's first look at the accepted standards of Japanese men for "Yamato Fumiko":
Hair should be black (light brown is also available), and the length is not limited;
Black face, high-soled shoes, not allowed;
Doesn't need to be too beautiful, common sense can be;
Unlimited height;
Don't talk too much, and don't be too quiet;
Some personality (but don't get too on trend);
I hope to have 60% of the time a day to hang a smiley face;
Being able to speak Japanese spoken by ordinary people (as you would say to a teacher, a full of hidden language is the worst);
Don't speak evil words, don't talk too vulgarly;
It is also possible without kimonos.
None of these standards are related to "husband and son" and "respectful family management". To sum up, it is a woman who does not need to look at her face, does not need to look at her body, is not kitsch and vulgar, has a cheerful and straightforward personality, and can maintain her independent personality.
In fact, the image prototype of "Yamato Fumiko" is Shizumi, and the point of respect and commemoration by later generations is also "resistance", not "suppleness". The excellent women in the minds of the Japanese are actually soft on the outside, strong on the inside and full of resistance, and blindly obeying and being a cow and a horse cannot get a recognized favor.
But seeing here, there will be readers who ask, then why are many Japanese families now male and female, and women are at home to marry and teach their children?
In fact, in Japan, the so-called "husband and son" is not obedient to her husband and has no opinion, but plays an admonition and management role for her husband.
The japanese woman's willingness to be a "housewife" guarantee comes from the Japanese custom that women are in charge of the financial power, including living expenses, children's education and husband's pocket money. Most Japanese men go home at two o'clock in the morning and go out at six o'clock in the morning, only to exchange their wives for "husbands and children" at home, so one of the ills of Japanese society, "overwork death", not only has the pressure of work, but also includes the pressure of family.
If you are not willing to hand over your financial power, then the probability of divorce is very high. And divorce in Japan is extremely simple, you don't need to come forward in person, you can send an email. And Japanese law stipulates that who takes care of the child for a long time, who the child is awarded to, plus after the divorce, the woman has the right to share half of the marital family property (if there is no fault), including the maintenance of the future child, so as long as it is not a rich family, divorce is generally unfavorable to the man.
There is a Japanese TV series "Mature Divorce", that is, women who have been housewives for a lifetime recognize their own values and pursuits, and choose divorce on the day of their husband's retirement, and their husbands are surprised and confused. This reflects the social reality of Japan, many elderly men are abandoned by their wives due to their perennial appearance, because they cannot do housework and cannot live well.
It is precisely this kind of society that gives Japanese women the confidence to be willing to be "housewives" and becomes the guarantee for their husbands and godsons.
Therefore, most people who know nothing about Japanese culture have a big error in understanding the Japanese people's requirements for traditional women with only a shallow superficial phenomenon.
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