Text: Qianya
There is a saying in the movie "Become Jane Austen": "Don't lose yourself in front of anything, even if it is dogma, even if it is the eyes of others, even if it is love." "
The famous British female writer Jane Austen was born in Steventon, Hampshire, England, just like countless young girls, she is full of vitality, kindness and enthusiasm, and more rarely, she has an independent and brave heart.
At the age of twenty, Jane, who had just opened her heart, met the clever and humorous Lefroy, and they fell in love at similar ages, starting a beautiful romantic love time.
It is probably that love in the world cannot be without a material basis, and their fierce love ends in poverty—Jane's parents want her to marry a rich man in order to improve the poverty of the family, and Lefroy needs to inherit his uncle's rich inheritance in order to continue to help his brothers and sisters in the countryside.
Perhaps because this love is too unforgettable, Jane Austen did not marry again for the rest of her life, and she devoted herself to writing, proving to the world the strength and independence of women.
Some people say that the reason why people are unhappy is to shut themselves in a place where they can't run.
In England at the end of the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, it was shameful for a girl not to marry, and when she passed away to become an old girl, she would become the gossip of others' small talk. As for marriage, it is only the product of financial inducement.
Jane Austen broke through the shackles of worldly ideas, she did not limit herself to the definition of women in society, even if she grew old alone, she would never spend her life.
Backward and decadent moral thought is tantamount to a cage in Jane's terms, and the discrimination against women in traditional society constantly hinders her progress, but her fiery soul does not allow others to be shackled, and her heart is free and happy.
As the classic quote in "Head Text d": There is only one kind of success in this world, and that is to be able to live your life in the way you like.
The long road of life, I only hope that when the prosperity is over, we can all live into the appearance we love, it is mature, and it is also the best fulfillment of life.
A good life, not a good life
The story takes place in a remote village in Hampshire, England, where there is no bustling bustle of urban traffic, no dazzling fireworks, but it has large expanses of woods and endless blue skies.
Jane Austen's father was a poor pastor, and in such a poor family, girls could only rely on marriage to change their troubled fate.
It happened that at this time, the beloved nephew of the famous local Lady Graceham, Wesley, fell in love with Jane and continued to propose.
This should be the most enviable marriage, Wesley will inherit a huge fortune in the future, he can give Jane a rich life, and importantly, this opportunity is unattainable for a materially scarce girl.
But Jane didn't love Wesley—he was a somewhat dull man, he wasn't sociable, he didn't have high insights, he didn't even know how to be humorous, and he was far from Jane's level of thought.
The mother was furious, she did not understand why her daughter refused the marriage, and during the quarrel Jane's mother said to her: "You can't get a son, only your in-laws." "
The mother, who was accustomed to living in poverty, did not want to see her daughter live like this for the rest of her life, and the father hoped that Jane would agree to Wesley's marriage proposal.
The German philosopher Paul Kim said: Life is like a book, the fool hastily turned it over, and the wise man reads it carefully. Why, because they can only read it once.
Apparently, Jane Austen chose the latter. She didn't want to give up her life, even if it could be exchanged for a comfortable and comfortable life of abundance.
Choosing love, choosing to be true to herself, seemingly childish and stupid, is actually a powerful force from the depths of her heart, and she is carefully reading her life.
If Jane had married the stupid Wesley, the outcome of a marriage without soul resonance might not have been a happy outcome, and her enthusiasm might have vanished.
Life is the same, every fork in the road in the future, are full of choices and considerations, there is no right or wrong, only wish you can not be on your own life, is courage, but also wisdom.
The most rare thing for a person is to cultivate a normal mind
Lefroy was probably Jane's lifelong favorite.
Because of his loose and unmotivated life style, he was sent to the countryside by his uncle, who was a famous judge, and the two became acquainted and fell in love, but this was a love that was doomed to bear no results.
LeFroy had six siblings living in the countryside, his mother married a poor husband for love, and most of the family's life depended on Lefroy ' helpers — of course, his uncle did not know it.
In fact, Lefroy's uncle was furious after learning about Jane's family situation because he saw the hardships of a poor marriage, and he could not let his nephew take such a destitute girl.
Unfortunately, Lefroy was not yet independent at this time, and his financial resources could only rely on his uncle, and if he wanted to inherit the property, he had to follow the plan that his uncle had made for him.
In this way, their love only stayed in the best memories of the future.
"After that, I never met anyone whose soul was so compatible with me."
She is not indifferent to reality, and he is not chaotic, but their encounter is not appropriate, and their love is not a good time.
Jane Austen devoted herself to writing for the long rest of her life, bringing six immortal masterpieces to the literary world in Britain and around the world, and she never married, only doing what she wanted.
As for Lefroy, he married the right wife according to the arrangement, and his life was smooth after that, and he was eventually promoted to chief justice of Ireland.
They are unfortunate and at the same time lucky.
If the couple really enters the palace of marriage, will they really be happy?
I think the answer is not necessarily.
Lefroy did not have the financial gifts of his uncle, he could no longer have a decent life and social status on his own, and in the face of economic pressure and life oppression, Jane may not be able to devote herself to creation and immortality.
More importantly, when romantic love gradually fades and the passion fades, can they join hands to move towards a poor chai rice oil and salt life?
There is a saying that prevails on the Internet: If it backfires, please believe that everything is the best arrangement.
Deeply. Learn to treat the small blessings and unsatisfactory in life with a normal heart, without excessive participation, without excessive rejection, it is not a great wisdom in life.
Haruki Murakami wrote in "1q48": Don't worry too much about the present, don't worry too much about the future, when you experience some things, the scenery in front of you is different from before.
For the rest of your life, please grasp the present, do not indulge in the past, do not worry about the future, brew a leisurely tea fragrance for life, and taste the long road in it. Ordinary mind is also the best state of life.
Encourage with the King.