Lee Kai-fu sighed after the illness: This serious illness pushed me in front of life, and asked again and again: After fading these false names and achievements, what is left in your life?
A person who has achieved fame, but unfortunately learned that he suddenly had cancer, or advanced, from the initial resistance, anger to later acceptance, along the way, a lot of hardships, a lot of pain. He was lucky to overcome cancer and move towards rebirth.
Only a person who has been close to death knows what life is. Let's walk into his mental journey together and live our future lives.
Cover of Born to Die
Unexpected accidents
Let people face life and death
Kai-Fu Lee, who worked for Apple, founded Microsoft Research China Research, and left in 2009 to start his own company.
Shortly before his 52nd birthday, he unexpectedly discovered stage IV of lung adenocarcinoma during a routine physical examination, and when death was imminent, when he was defenseless, he was shattered by death.
That was the year his career was booming, and he was full of love for life. He has a wife who loves him, a lovely daughter, a sister who loves him.
Lee said that when he heard that he might have cancer, he felt like he had fallen heavily from the clouds.
It was as if he saw his own beautiful experience and future, and it fell like a piece of shredded paper in an instant.
This should be the feeling of all people who know that cancer has happened to them.
In our ears around us, we can always see and hear, there are some people, usually without warning, a routine physical examination may be unexpectedly found to be terminal cancer, and then a good person began to lose weight, go to the hospital for various treatments, but still died soon.
I sometimes wonder, if I hadn't gone to the physical examination and found out not so quickly, wouldn't I have left so quickly?
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Had to accept reality
Survival becomes the only idea
"How could it be! I didn't feel any discomfort! "Despite what I knew, I protested with the doctor.
In despair, I could not help but emerge a humble hope, and comforted myself: Maybe the film was not from my stomach, but the doctor took the wrong data: when I wake up tomorrow morning, I may find that it is a nightmare that scares me."
Everyone is like this, in the face of love death, misfortune, pain, death and other things that we do not want to love, instinctive resistance, unwilling to believe.
But not wanting to believe does not mean that it does not exist, do not want to accept, but also have to receive love. This is the helplessness of people, in the face of life and death, people are really weak.
Kai-Fu Lee began to reminisce about his previous life, what exactly pushed him into the abyss, the smog of Beijing? Is the work stressful? Is it a competitive personality?
In fact, there is no result, all bad living habits can lead to the occurrence of cancer, accept the reality, and move forward, is the only thing that can be done now.
Elizabeth Kubler Ross, a master of the philosophy of life and death, pointed out that when people face major losses such as illness, death, and sadness, they have "five stages" of psychological reactions - denial, anger, bargaining, frustration and acceptance.
In the eyes of the god of death, as ordinary and small human beings, it is estimated that the only thought left is to live.
A patient with osteosarcoma
Day by day, Kai-Fu Lee began to try various treatments he could think of, Chinese medicine, dietary therapy, pranic therapy, body and mind therapy, and Gerson therapy
Although various therapies claim to be able to treat cancer, but there is a lack of credible data, in the face of death threats, he still followed the public, believing in the treatment of general medicine.
Just wandering the wrong way, looking around at a loss, what to do next.
Unknown death knows life
Only when you lose is that you know how to cherish it
Confucius said: "Unknown birth, knowing death." Perhaps only those who have truly walked in front of the god of death know better what the meaning of life is, the brevity of life.
We always feel that death is far away from us, for the sake of small things, for the sake of work to do our best, quarrels with our families, and obsess with outsiders.
We always say with a sneer: tomorrow and accidents do not know who will come first, in fact we never think that accidents will come.
After chemotherapy and targeted drug therapy, Kai-Fu Lee was given a new life.
He began to re-examine himself, working hard, never paying attention to the constant warnings of his body, the small illnesses and pains in ordinary life, and never taking some medicine to mix it up; once his greatest desire was to change the world and make the world different from me.
A death passed by, and he suddenly found that in the face of cancer, everyone was equal, fading all the aura and titles of the past, but it was just an ordinary person with naked eyes.
A teacher at Fudan University mentioned in "Why I Have Cancer": I never thought my personality was good. Until I fell ill, I knew that I was too competitive, too fond of doing the best, too much of the domination of the overall situation, too much of the worry, too unwilling to do nothing.
The greatest wisdom of people is not to use their own experience of suffering losses to learn lessons, but to understand the suffering of others and grow their own ambitions.
Only when you have lost it can you know how to cherish it, and the ordinary days are the most beautiful, because living, everything has hope.
Don't let the floating clouds cover your eyes
Family is the final bottom line
When we were young, we felt that our parents were nagging, thinking of growing up early and leaving our parents;
When we were young, we were young and crazy to prove our ability to stay away from home;
In middle age, we treat work and friends as all, eating, drinking and having fun.
But at any time, once the accident comes, all you can think of is your loved ones, and the only place you can return is your family.
After falling ill, Lee Kai-fu took out all the letters his father wrote to him and opened them to re-read, and found that every letter of his father implied some life advice, teaching him how to be a person, not to make himself too busy for some worthless things, to be humble and not proud.
Kai-Fu Lee's family
Bonnie Weir, a nurse who has cared for dying patients all her life, says the five things people regret the most before they die:
I wanted to have the courage to live the life I really wanted, not the life that others wanted me to live.
I wish I hadn't spent so much energy on my work.
I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I could have kept in touch with my friends.
I wish I could have made my life a little happier.
Accidents will really come unexpectedly, in a limited life, really live a little happier and live for yourself. These five sentences hope to encourage everyone and take them out from time to time.