Shrimp Head (Yang Shimin) has always taken the comedy route, recently attended the radio program "Music Says" when the confession, the appearance of funny and cheerful, she was once trapped and injured to use work to anesthetize herself, and finally more dangerous to suffer from depression.
On an earlier show, she shared her emotional experience with former manager Shao Zifeng. Shrimp head who has now come out of love hurts learns to love himself and will not seek perfection in a relationship
The shrimp head entered the house with a funny, exaggerated, optimistic and innocent image, and never thought that the shrimp head with a smiley face was full of scars behind it.
In an interview with other media, Shrimp Head revealed that behind his happiness is a gap of "thirst for love", and this gap has also caused Shrimp Head to constantly fall and be injured on the road of love, and even to seek perfection in a relationship and lose himself.
Behind the optimism and innocence is inferiority? Thinking that being a third party can be exchanged for more love
The 44-year-old shrimp head confessed that she was born in a big family and was loved by thousands of people from an early age, but when her brother was born, the family put all their love into her brother.
In addition, his father, who was regarded as an idol by Shrimp Head since childhood, actually cheated, and was limited by the haze of the failure of the marriage between the original family and his parents.
The shrimp head indicates:
Since there is no love at home, I desperately look for love outside. From the first time I patted drag at the age of 18, my life was always like being a third party.
In the love of young people, the two parties are always immature enough, it is easy to separate or let the third party take advantage of small problems, and sometimes because they want to be loved and unintentionally do someone else's third party.
Shrimp Head is because he needs love very much, and he is a third party of others, and he loves and pursues the feeling of being pampered by men. Over time, Shrimp Head thinks that being a third party will make the other party love himself a little more.
Yang Shimin (Shrimp Head) is called "the almighty king" by netizens.
But the "not necessarily light" love is always fleeting, the boyfriend was found cheating, decided not to be entangled with the shrimp head, then the shrimp head only blamed his own bad fate, but did not consider that this love from the beginning is the wrong beginning, or even fruitless love.
Shrimp Head gathers with his mother and brother's family, and Mother Yang now lives with Shrimp Head.
I have chased a male teacher for only 26 days of short-term love
In an interview with the program "About The Girl Yama", Shrimp Head said that his heterosexual relationship is actually very good, he has known many men along the way, and he has also filmed 5 to 6 long-term relationships, and there are also a lot of short-term relationships.
Shrimp Head mentioned on the radio program that he had the idea of getting married at the age of 27, wanted to find a lifelong partner, and just happened to like a male teacher when he was teaching drama, so Shrimp Head persistently chased after each other for several years until the other party accepted that she was willing to be with her. Unfortunately, the relationship lasted only 26 days before it ended, and the man asked shrimp head to "stay by his side" when he broke up, so the two had to break up at that time.
Shrimp heads lost 35 pounds in four months, while shrimp heads dropped from a peak of 154 pounds to 117 pounds
After the shrimp head met the manager Shao Zifeng, the two in 2015 high-profile to the outside world to disclose the news of love, the two from time to time as a couple to attend the event and work, plus the two sides in the work position is very compatible, the initial relationship in front of the people very sweet, but also planned to get married.
Shrimp Head once thought that with Shao Zifeng was a pair of thin water and long streams. (deansiu@ig)
Unfortunately, a couple with stable feelings in front of everyone's eyes was exposed by the media that Shao Zifeng was suspected of carrying a shrimp head and talking with a girl's video, and then Shao Zifeng announced on social networking sites that he and Shrimp Head had already broken up in June 2017, and the reason for the breakup did not involve a third party.
Shrimp Head and Shao Zifeng used to be both lovers and work partners. Although he broke up with Shao Zifeng, the two were still friends when they said goodbye.
Shao Zifeng also thanked the shrimp head for not abandoning him when he was suffering from depression, and said:
If I hadn't met you in my life, I might have committed suicide a long time ago.
Shrimp head more simply leave a message:
Thank you for everything you have done for me, I will always love you!
The shrimp head and The Shao Zifeng are very well matched in appearance. In the past, Shrimp Head and Shao Zifeng always attended the event as a couple from time to time.
The two broke up, and in order not to let Shao Zifeng's family worry, Shrimp Head has continued to cooperate with him in the eyes of his family or the media to pretend to be his girlfriend, which actually requires a lot of sacrifice.
Losing yourself is risking depression and realizing that love doesn't need to be humble
Shrimp Head and Shao Zifeng used to seem happy in front of people, but in fact, there was bitterness to say, and finally the two also ended the relationship by breaking up and saying goodbye to each other as friends.
Shrimp Head frankly said:
In the relationship, I became very humble, as if begging for his love for me. After pleasing too much, I don't even know what I like.
The feelings of Shrimp Head and Shao Zifeng have long been full of contradictions, although Shrimp Head has thought that the marriage object is Shao Zifeng, but unfortunately Shrimp Head and Shao Zifeng are both people who are eager to be loved, but they do not know how to deal with love, in fact, they do not know how to love people.
So this love has become a fight, shrimp head is more to say that the two have too many relationships, and the manager will cooperate to create, sometimes in order to maintain the relationship with each other, would rather seek perfection, and even look down on self-worth, in order to complete and satisfy each other.
We stimulate each other, but also nourish everyone, both can cooperate, but also can communicate spiritually, but unfortunately we are too similar in personality, only long to be loved and do not know how to love, this relationship is doomed to failure, only separation.
Until the shrimp head consciousness this relationship reached a critical point, the two need to be separated, but this separation made the shrimp head lost, because this love failure broke the ideal couple model she has been pursuing, and the original love will make people feel pain when people really lose.
When the shrimp head was really separated from Shao Zifeng, the shrimp head who buried his head in work saw a psychologist under the persuasion of his friends and found that he almost suffered from depression, but fortunately the shrimp head received psychological treatment as soon as possible, walked out of the pain, and also found another realization in the love pain:
The most attractive thing about a girl is actually to enjoy her own life, and then share the joy of life with the people you love, which will make people like you.
Therefore, girls must learn to love themselves before they learn to love others. I hope that Shrimp Head can find the true destiny as soon as possible and have a love she wants.