"My mom used to say,
The one you like the most is never the one next to you.
But I was thinking...
If someone wants to be around me and listen to me all the time, that's fine. This is a sentence that her heroine Zhou Yi said lying on her boyfriend Gu Qiuzai. It can reflect how much this girl lacks love, the father does not appear in the movie, but the mother travels abroad all year round, and basically has no time to accompany her. It can be seen that her family can't give her basic love, so she can only keep falling in love to make up for the emptiness in her heart.
The heroine presented in this movie in just 1 and a half hours is an abusive person, easy to fall in love, and also easy to be hurt. Gu Qiuzai sent her to a hospital, and then they were together at night, did not know each other at all, and finally dumped by Gu Qiuzai. The little writer Ah Shu helped her make a copy, and then the two were together, and finally betrayed by Ah Shu. In the film, she is sensitive and suspicious, grumpy, loves to throw things, and is a proper female artist. But all of this comes from the lack of love in her heart. She spends a lot of time in love, crying for it, making trouble for it, laughing for it. Unable to take care of anything else, not even a stable job. She was so dependent on others that she needed someone else to take her on a trip she longed for.
In fact, there are many such girls in reality, and they talk about a relationship not because they like each other, but because they don't want to be alone, they want to have someone to accompany.
They are afraid of loneliness, they want to go shopping with someone, they want to eat with someone, and they want to hear breathing next to them in the middle of the night. In fact, this insecurity, lack of love is a manifestation. Lack of love is from the original family, school or society, through the entire growth process, a feeling of emotional lack. It may be the original family, the parents are less accompanied, less communication, and not giving the child enough love. It may be discriminated against in school or society, ridiculed and as inferior to the heart, resulting in not having too many friends and less interpersonal communication.
It's not your fault for lacking love, but it's your responsibility to get it. So how do you get love? Start with yourself.
First, only people with strong hearts will not easily knock them down. So first of all, you must enrich your heart and read books."
Wang Qiang once said: "The more people read, the more they read,
The more you will not be bothered by the external environment,
The more you will not be lonely,
I was overwhelmed by such a terrible thing as loneliness.
Because, books are gradually in the human mind,
A kingdom was built completely independent of external forces. ”
In the book, you can have a direct understanding of life, life, the world, aesthetics, and feelings, if you can feel from other people's stories, then you will suddenly be enlightened, and find that life is not only love, there are many things worth trying.
Second, to travel, in the journey you can feel the scenery of nature, feel the humanistic customs of the place, and accept the washing of the heart. Travel is a place to be born again, to gain inner fulfillment. At the end of the movie, there is no happy ending where the hero and heroine are reconciled, and the heroine travels alone. Maybe after returning from the trip, even if the two of them meet again and meet again, it is impossible to love again. Because Ah Ping is no longer the one she will never forget.
If you are brave, you can go to the disaster area, go to the nursing home, go to the hospital, go to the orphanage, go to the disabled rescue center and other places to take a walk. You will find that people who are worse than you are trying to live, so what is this emptiness and loneliness in your heart? If you feel that you are unloved and miserable, then please go to the hospital and see the patients who are tormented by the disease, who have lost their loved ones. You're at least healthier than they are, and you're at least lucky.
Fourth, if you have a job you like, you must work hard for it. When your time is filled with work, when you achieve in the work you love, your heart will be very satisfied, and your feelings will be sufficient. When you're fully engaged in your work, you don't have as much time to feel lonely.
Finally, I want to tell friends who lack love or have low self-esteem that the love they get from themselves has a sense of security, and others can't take it away. And the love given by others is very happy when given. But when it comes to losing, it's also painful.