Soya once read an article written by a little sister on the Internet about her experience as a student, and perhaps many people have had such a similar experience.
(Described below in the first person)
When I was in middle and high school, I didn't care much about dressing up, tying a ponytail, no bangs, and my forehead was full of closed mouths and I especially liked to use my hands to cut it.
High school transfers to a new school, and when the school starts, the teacher requires each student to prepare a talent show.
I was the only girl in my class who had danced from elementary school, so I was ready to perform the dance. However, there was a female classmate in the class who was 170+ tall, white-skinned, and particularly good-looking, and happened to have prepared a dance program.
When the teacher announced the list of performances, a boy said to me, "Do you still dance?" Even if you strip naked like this, no one wants to look at it. ”
Although the teacher criticized the boy, this sentence has been engraved on my heart. Since then, I have become extra attentive to my appearance, careful and sensitive.
Went to the barbershop and cut the bangs, covered the closed mouth and acne on my forehead, and was so inferior that I kept my head down when I talked to others. Later, my family found out about my abnormality, they gave me great support, did not blindly say "you just need to have good academic performance", under the encouragement of my family, I began to treat acne, skin care, makeup.
Even if my closed-mouth acne is cured, my skin has become better, and I have learned to make myself beautiful, but when I face the original camera of the mobile phone, I still feel very depressed, and I feel that I am not beautiful enough and not good enough. Especially when I brushed short videos, after seeing various beautiful women on the Internet, my frustration gradually escalated.
I don't know when I can get rid of the beauty camera, become frank and confident, no longer afraid of other people's words, no longer care about other people's eyes.
Soya was teased by male classmates because she was too flat in high school, and I was like the little sister above, I didn't know how to refute it, and I could only hear the laughter of the classroom.
Now I can say my shortcomings very generously, because I know that people who can accept me and love me will accept my shortcomings.
In fact, everyone, more or less, will have all aspects of anxiety, appearance anxiety, body anxiety, age anxiety, money anxiety...
A beautiful woman who grabs a large number of people on TikTok, while admiring each other, will she feel that she is not good enough?
Regarding love at first sight, I have heard a very heartfelt sentence: "If you don't look good, how can you fall in love at first sight, I'm afraid I don't even have a better understanding of each other's ideas." 」 ”
This sentence may be too arbitrary, but it is indeed very real, explaining what we are anxious about in the era of "beauty economy" now.
How many people try to learn how to dress, skin care, and makeup because they don't look good enough?
How many people work so hard to change themselves just to get a compliment from their friends?
"You're so pretty today!"
"How do you feel like you're different from before?"
"Your lipstick looks good, what color is it?"
"This dress is very good for your skin tone."
……
However, pleasing yourself is the most important thing.
Why do we care so much about what other people think?
The photos of Shu Qi and Yuan Yongyi were pictured by netizens, and their responses are worth learning from each of us
We need to learn to get rid of this frustrating anxiety, to face ourselves, to accept ourselves, and to recognize ourselves.
Tell yourself that I am already beautiful and can choose to become better, but I can also accept who I am now.
No need to pursue white skinny, fat sister can also be super cool;
Don't worry too much about that imperfection on your face, because this is the unique you.
Don't go along with others, be yourself.
If the skin is very poor, go to the doctor and learn skin care; if you don't pick clothes, learn to wear them; and learn makeup if you want to become more beautiful.
However, aesthetics are never cookie-cutter, don't magnify your shortcomings, and learn to love yourself more and more.
Women's charm is not only in appearance.
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