Wen | Zhang Ping
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The year is approaching, I don't know if you leftover men and women are under pressure?
To tell the truth, forced marriage has become a phenomenon-level major problem, many people in the face of being urged to marry by their parents, but also from the previous panic, to the end not moved, insist on their own life, I think ideologically, everyone has progress.
But in terms of behavior, I think that some people are actually too picky, after all, no one is perfect, if everyone goes to the standard of a perfect lover to find the other half, it is estimated that it is really difficult to get off the list.
And can't get rid of the single, the final sadness is really the parents? No, I think it's you!
Although marriage is no longer a necessity in life, for long-term lonely people, there must be some kind of happiness with someone to accompany and do what you want to do with you, I think this is why many people, although they are old, have not given up finding the other half and finding a reason for true love.
Blind date is not better than free love, it depends on the conditions and character, so in this relationship, what conditions you have, how others treat you, I think it is very realistic.
Friend Jasmine is 35 years old this year, as a senior leftover woman, she is also a travel and food expert, and spends countless dollars on it every year, which is why she is 35 years old and has only 50,000 savings.
Many friends around jasmine were initially impressed by her exquisite life, thinking that they must live like her, so that they could not live in vain, but in the end, after everyone discovered her true situation, many people retreated, saying that although they did not reach the level of Jasmine's free will, but looking at the increasing sense of security accumulated, no one could compare.
Jasmine looks beautiful, plus good personality, so there are still a lot of people introduced to her, which also causes Jasmine to be a little unclear about her current situation, she is picking men who are not tall, unsatisfied with their looks, and do not have enough savings, in fact, others are also criticizing her.
Last month, an enthusiastic elder sister introduced a boy to Jasmine, who works in an internet company and is usually very busy at work, but the relative salary is also very high, with more than 20,000 after taxes every month.
The first time they met, Jasmine and he made an appointment for afternoon tea in the café, according to Jasmine's meaning, if you think it is okay to have a meal together, otherwise you will quickly slip away after drinking afternoon tea.
The boy looked very ordinary, and he did not dress up carefully, and from the appearance, he was very unqualified, so After Jasmine symbolically chatted for two sentences, she began to fiddle with the coffee in front of her.
The boy also knows that Jasmine is not interested in her, but he has a good feeling for Jasmine, who looks good and looks exquisite, so during the blind date, he is still very active in finding topics to talk to her.
But when he learned that Jasmine's monthly salary was basically spent on eating, drinking and having fun, and now her savings were only 50,000, and she had no house and no car, he gave up.
Obviously, the two people who looked down on each other eventually broke up unhappily.
Before Jasmine left, she was arrogant to the boy, and the boy understood that his appearance was not in her eyes, maybe it was also to anger Jasmine, or to win back a little face, so the boy said to her after walking out of the café with Jasmine, "You are 35 years old, the deposit is only 50,000, sorry, you are not worthy of me!" ”
Before Jasmine could react, the boy drove away.
Afterwards, Jasmine complained to us, he said what is wrong with the boys now, do you require girls to be beautiful, but also to save money? So let me ask, if the girl saves all the money, how can she stay beautiful?
At that time, there were a few men and women around us, and some people echoed her, yes, I really don't know what they think, but some people have been laughing and not talking.
To tell the truth, in fact, girls like Jasmine are not uncommon in life, and they are not very demanding of themselves, but they are very demanding of others. Obviously, his own savings are only 50,000, but he hopes that the other party has 500,000 or even more.
I don't have a house or a car, but as soon as I open my mouth, I ask the other party how big the house is and how much the car is.
If I were the boy who was dating Jasmine, I would also hate her because she had saved so much money for so many years, of course, I don't mean that she is incompetent, but I think she pays too much attention to feeling life and ignores how to plan how to live better.
A woman reaches the age of 35, it is not small, all aspects of thinking should be mature, for the future also need to have a more detailed plan, including the cost of marriage and children, the education of children, etc., should be put on the agenda to consider.
But at this time, if she still thinks about how to eat and have fun, I will feel that this girl is not suitable for being a wife, and there is no way to become a qualified mother, because parents are role models for children, how parents are, and how children will end up.
Finally, I want to give a thumbs up to the blind date man, you directly put forward your dissatisfaction, although it seems to be more unforgiving, but for some of the "older women" who regard themselves as high, they need to be reminded, although this reminder is actually useless, but I still think it is better to say than not to say.
In the world of feelings, appearance and material are all outward things, which will pass with time, and only the thoughts that remain in people's hearts will not disappear.
So a lot of times spend time to spend money to improve beauty, retain youth, it is better to spend more time to accumulate their own inner, to make the heart more open-minded, more wise, this is the eternal wealth, but also let others respect you.
There is no unearned gain in life, I hope to remember!
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?