Dear old friends and new friends who love chess, Happy New Year, here to give you a good old age.
I'm sorry that this month's letter came a few days late, I am like all parents, this Spring Festival holiday is with the children, every day tired and half dead, really can not arrange a full time to write, please forgive me.
During this holiday, I accompanied Ann on a trip, accompanied her to see some scenery that she had never seen before, tried some games that had never been tried before, and it should be said that she was very happy.
It is reasonable to say that parents should be happy to see their children having fun, but as a parent of a first-year freshman, I still have some entanglements in my heart.
I remember when An An was just in school, I saw that An An's time to learn Go was greatly reduced than before, and at that time I said to myself, when it came to the winter and summer vacations, I must let An An learn Go well, and I must not let my children play crazy.
Having said that, when it comes to the holidays, it seems that I am more than a child looking forward to taking her out to see the world, and while taking my child out, I criticize myself in my heart that I am really not a parent who combines words and deeds.
As some compensation, An Ann traveled with a homework and tablet computer that loved chess, and only had time to listen to lectures, do problems, and play chess. Of course, even so, the time invested in learning is not comparable to my original expectations.
That is, in the few days of the holiday, I took a look at the Japanese genius girl who was recently warmly reported by the Sino-Japanese and Korean Go media on the Internet, and several chess games set at the age of ten as the beginning of her career, and if I didn't look at it, I would take a breath of cool air after reading it, and I couldn't help but sigh, how can a ten-year-old girl have such a strong strength?
Seeing Zhongyi's chess score, and then looking at An An's chess game, a sense of loss suddenly struck in his heart.
Later, I read some reports about the life of Zhongyiyi, and there were a few keywords that impressed me, such as learning chess at the age of 3, training for 10 hours a day, getting up at 5:30 every day to play chess with my father, giving up my daily study, my father accompanied me to leave my hometown to study in Korea, etc. Each of them is full of emotions.
In order to become a professional chess player, not only the children, but also the whole family have to pay what kind of hard work, which can be seen from this.
Neither An An nor I paid so much, and the huge gap in strength is actually the fairest result given by the god of Go.
Of course, the reason why Zhongyi has such strength is not only her rigorous training, but more importantly, her own obsession with Go, which is the biggest motivation to support her to persevere.
In zhongyi's past few years of devil training, I believe that she will not feel hard, because her favorite is Go.
Others only saw her hard work, but the happiness she gained on the chessboard was incomprehensible to others.
And the reason why I can have such an understanding of her is precisely because I myself have gone through such a life course.
Seeing Zhongyi in front of the chessboard, facing the camera with a sweet smile, at that moment, I suddenly envied her father - Zhongyi Xinye Jiudan, also a professional chess player, I also want my daughter to have such strength, to live the life of a professional chess player, if An An can win the world championship in the future, I am willing to exchange everything I have.
Compared with Zhongyiyi, the main reason for An An's poor go is this obsession, if she also has such an obsession with Go, I believe that I can do everything that Zhongyiyi's father can pay for his children.
Parents are really most afraid of comparing their own children with other people's children, and all the sources of trouble come from comparison, and this sentence is indeed not false at all.
I used to think that I wouldn't compare An An with other children, but now it seems that I still haven't met a child who really makes me feel lost, and my own inner cultivation is still far from being in the realm.
After a brief but intense loss, I was also completely relieved about whether An An wanted to become a professional chess player. Everyone has their own talent and corresponding life trajectory, must not be forced, if the child is not special talent, then absolutely do not force the child to challenge the difficult unknown because of the parents' own ideas.
In that case, it is likely that what you will get is not a good result and a happy process, but an endless defilement.
Like all six- or seven-year-old children, An An is very playful, hungry, loves smelly beauty, eats her sister's vinegar, grabs toys with other children, and likes to argue with me, and when she writes homework, she can make me and her mother half dead from time to time.
Every time she was asked to go to training, she would also reluctantly put down the toy or game in her hand, and slowly move to the chessboard in three steps, at that time, the depression in my heart was indescribable.
Sometimes I even think that I owe her a debt in my previous life, and I need to pay it back to her in this life.
But when An An can quietly do dead and alive problems, play chess, even when doing handicrafts and painting, I will feel that in fact, as long as she is happy, it is not so important to be a professional chess player.
This time I went out with her and saw her riding a roller coaster, playing on a big slide, shouting and laughing happily, and this feeling was especially strong.
Regardless of whether An An can become a professional chess player in the future, before An An himself shows his obsession with Go, I will still insist on the goal of training for no less than 10 hours a week, and I also believe that as long as I can stick to it, An An will definitely be able to reach the goal of amateur 5 dan before the age of 10, and when An An reaches this level, I will discuss with her again, formulate a training plan, and work hard for the goal of amateur 6 dan.
Of course, if An An wants to work hard for the goal of a professional chess player one day, then I will do my best to help her achieve it.
From now on, I will no longer let myself feel lost because of other people's children, and what I want to do is to pay attention to the growth of my own children every day.
As long as An An continues to improve, even if its speed is not so fast, I will not be disappointed in her, because for people who learn Go, upgrading and even winning the world championship is only the goal, and having a better life through the study of Go is the ultimate purpose of life.
Not giving up, not giving up, surpassing yesterday's self, is my greatest expectation of An'an.
I wish that all parents with chess children can have a strong and firm heart, and do not be happy and sad with their children's short-term achievements. Let us adhere to the concept of a pawn in the day, not to donate, accompany the child to continue to invest time in Go, and go to a better life with him.