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"I long to see you, But please remember, I'm not going to ask to see you. It's not because of pride. You know I have no pride in you, It's because, Only when you want to see me, It only makes sense when we meet. ”
The above passage is both a love letter and a love poem from the French female writer Simone de Beauvoir's "Love Letter Across the Ocean".
Nowadays, this passage is often used to describe a relationship that should go in both directions, not only love, but also family, friendship, teacher-student affection, etc. Even between people who have never known each other, they also need to go to each other, more care, more friendliness.
The film to be talked about today seems to be about a person waiting alone and secretly lonely emotionally and ideally, but in fact, it is a process of emotional waiting and ideal wandering, with the self-consciousness awakening at the personal emotional level and the original intention at the ideal level to show the pain and happiness in self-growth.
The movie "Waiting Alone" tells the story of Chen Wen, who loves to write, and his iron brothers team up to open an antique shop called "Xianrenju".
Chen Wen and his classmates and brothers each have different dreams, but they can only linger and wait in eating, drinking and having fun. Chen Wen was also waiting for his feelings. Acquainted with actor Liu Rong, Chen Wen felt that he had found his ideal emotional home. Although Liu Rong also has a good feeling for him, the relationship between the two people has always been in a state of ambiguity.
In the end, the two still couldn't come together. The good brothers all went their separate ways, and only Chen Wen was still waiting for his writing ideals and emotional hopes. Li Jing, who had a crush on him for a long time, did not get a clear echo from Chen Wen.
Everyone was changing, as if only Chen Wen had stopped where he was, but only he understood that he was no longer the self he used to be, and the waiting now was different from the waiting he had been. The film is to intertwine the love and ideals of young people to discuss and tell.
Chen Wen can be said to be obsessed with Liu Rong at first sight, and he hates late at first sight. No matter from which aspect, Liu Rong is very much in line with Chen Wen's imagination of a future partner. It is precisely because of this that Chen Wen fell into a passive love dilemma that was always chasing and waiting. It seems to more or less confirm Mr. Gu Long's sentence that "whoever moves the heart first, whoever loses the game." ”
Of course, the reason why Chen Wen has always been in the emotionally weak camp may not only be that he has moved Liu Rong's heart, but also the inequality in identity status, economic foundation and emotional values, but also an important reason why Chen Wen is often in a complex situation of contradiction, restlessness, self-touching, and self-doubt.
Liu Rong found a person who seemed to be "right at home" with her, although they also failed to go to the end, although Liu Rong had also gone to find Chen Wen, but after experiencing an emotional setback and the regaining of self-knowledge, Chen Wen had understood the true meaning of waiting alone.
Waiting alone is not to be in a passive, contained, and neglected situation at all times, but to be pampered and rational and calm in the heart. Waiting alone is not to lie flat in loneliness, squander life in wandering, and lose faith in waiting, but to be an independent and self-reflective, self-improvement, and hard-working person.
Endure the loneliness and depression of being alone, can also calmly enjoy peace and tranquility, endure the unknown and suffering of waiting, and can also carry hope and dreams.
As Li Jing said to Chen Wen when she said goodbye: "I think you should write something sincere and from your heart." ”
For the dream of writing, only by writing what you really want to write, what is true in your heart, can you let the reader see a true heart and the true feelings between the lines.
In terms of the ideal of love, only by guarding the sincere heart that is always enthusiastic and warm can we cross the long waiting period and find a person who can run in both directions with herself, so that the waiting alone is more meaningful and the two-way rush is more motivated.
Chen Wen must have understood the true meaning of the phrase "Only when you want to see me, we have meaning to meet", and he finally found the right way to open it alone.
Whether it is waiting alone or running in both directions, it is actually an inevitable state of life and emotional sustenance with a certain rationality.
We all long for the emotions that run in both directions, so that every time we miss it can have a proper echo. But no matter how you go, there will always be one party who seems to be in a relative state of waiting, but there is no need to be too harsh on everyone to rush to each other at the same speed and acceleration, which is unrealistic and irregular.
What is important is to have such a tendency and attitude of daring to go and being willing to go, to have the consciousness of taking the initiative to get close to each other, to have the courage to face indifference, to have the same enthusiasm as always, and to have the determination to be unswerving.
This is enough, not to live up to the quiet years of waiting alone, nor to live up to the enthusiasm of the two-way rush.
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