I believe that everyone is interested in Confucius's "thirty and standing, forty not confused, fifty and knowing the Mandate of Heaven, sixty ears obedient, seventy and from the heart's desires, not excessive." "They're all very familiar. Confucius said that this sentence is a summary of his own life experience in his life, and it also has a certain universality, and we can sit in the right seat to see if we have really done it.
It seems that these languages are very concise, but in fact, following such a development step, you can gradually reach a very high level. When people reach middle age, they are not confused forty, and the so-called "not confused" is really not confused about all things, and there is no doubt? That's certainly not possible. The so-called forty is not confused, depending on whether you are confused about the following three things, to see if you have done it?
The first thing is not to be fooled by fame and fortune. Sima Qian once said, "All the hustle and bustle in the world is for profit, and all the hustle and bustle in the world is for profit." There are only two kinds of people in the world, one for the sake of fame and one for profit. Other than that, there is no third person. Although we can't say it so absolutely, the word fame and fortune already reflect the lifelong pursuit of the vast majority of us.
When people reach middle age, we have already had certain experiences in life, work, family, emotions and other aspects, and life is almost halfway through, you should understand that fame and fortune are things outside the body, life does not bring, death does not bring. You are too much chasing fame and fortune, and even if you get it, there is actually nothing to be proud of and show off.
On the contrary, the greater your fame, the higher your status, the greater your wealth, and the greater the responsibilities and obligations you bear. You should do your best to be more altruistic, to help others, to give back to the whole country and society. It is no longer to fight for more fame and fortune, this must be understood.
Second, don't be fooled by socializing. In a good word: the more friends, the better the road will naturally be. Indeed, if you want to develop your career, life, and work, we can't do without the help of friends, and we can't lack the company of friends.
But after people reach 40, no matter what kind of wine bureau dinner, or a small party, we should have a choice to participate, rather than blindly accepting or blindly rejecting, because many are actually unnecessary social. When we are young, in order to work hard for our careers, we may go to some kind of dinner party with a strong sense of purpose.
But in the end, these meals are actually a vanity fair, in order to obtain fame and fortune, eat and drink, blow nonsense. In fact, after the wine bureau and dinner, all that remains is endless emptiness. So you don't want to be too obsessed with all kinds of interpersonal relationships, please choose to socialize, and promote your inner growth.
Third, don't be fooled by unrealistic fantasies. When we are young, we always make very good plans for our lives, with very lofty and lofty ideals. But in fact, after we have a certain amount of social experience, we will find that many of our ideas are actually imaginative and completely unbounded.
There will always be a huge gap between what we think and what we think and reality. We should know what we are striving for in our lives, what is real, that we can bring benefits and help to ourselves and others, and what is meaningless, whether for ourselves or for others, some fantasies that are completely meaningless.
After you figure this out, your next life will have a very clear direction and will make more correct trade-offs. What you can do and what you have to do. You will better grasp the rest of your life, and you will definitely be happier and happier!