As the old saying goes, thirty stands, forty is not confused.
Thirty and standing is very easy to understand, that is, after thirty years old, they have already established a family, even if they have not yet established a family, they will become mature in life and shoulder their own responsibilities.
So forty is not confused? Whether you have no doubts about life when you reach the age of forty, seeing that you are about to be forty, but you still have a lot of doubts about life.
I have even dared to wonder whether as long as I reach the point of forty years old, all the doubts in life will be solved in an instant, no longer doubting, no longer at a loss.
Just like the dawn comes, the moment the rising sun rises, when the light sprinkles the earth, all the darkness will be expelled in an instant, and there will be no more fear and wandering in the darkness, and everything will become transparent and bright in the sun.
Later, I finally understood how life can be truly without doubt, forty years old will not, eighty years old will not, everyone's life is the first time, this road itself is a process of exploration and confusion.
People often say that living to learn from old age, this learning process itself is a process of solving puzzles, using learning to solve the doubts encountered in life.
Therefore, the so-called forty not confused is not that there is no doubt about this life, nor that all the things in this world have been clearly and understood, but that they have their own cognition and understanding of whether they understand or do not understand this world.
After forty years, the doubts are still there, just learn to be calm and calm, for the doubts encountered in life, no longer blindly ask why, but understand, some things are like that, can not say why, there is no why.
When you are young, you may complain about the impermanence of the world, you may be angry about the injustice of fate, but at the age of forty, you will gradually lose the anger and indignation you once had, and you may still be dissatisfied with life, but you will no longer be hysterical and roaring with fate.
After all, one day will understand that the trajectory of this life is the spread of inner expectations, but some are not satisfactory, some can get what they want, some are good and some are bad, no one will be targeted by fate, and no one will be treated with eternal tenderness by years.
Forty is not confused, is no longer doubting themselves, in the ups and downs of the years, precipitated to the depths of the heart, is a clear understanding of themselves, no longer because of the denial of others and doubt themselves, will not be because of the unintentional praise of others to forget.
Instead, it is to understand what kind of person you are, what kind of life you have experienced, and you don't have much to do with others, life may blend together, but the trajectory will always be in your own heart.
At the age of forty, you will understand that the path of life is your own, and you will no longer feel uneasy because of the words and accusations of others.
Life is your own, you don't have to prove anything to others, after washing away the lead, the most worthy of care in the heart is the true feelings of this life, living your own life, and everything else is a cloud smoke dream.
Forty years of confusion, began to no longer be too harsh on the world, began to gradually accept the goodwill and gentleness of this world, no longer complain, no longer ignorant, but more to examine their own hearts, all kinds of things in the world, are the heart's dependence.
If you want to live happily, work harder, if you are tired, don't be too far-fetched, simply rest in time, adjust well, in order to move forward better.
The gains and losses of life will no longer make the heart have too many ups and downs, whether this life is what you expect, or not so beautiful as you think, you have gradually understood that even if there are all kinds of dashing lives in the world, only your own life can be regarded as a real fireworks in the world, whether good or bad, accept it calmly, and love it deeply from the heart.
【Text: Yotani Emotional Rambling】
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