Suppose you have two leaders, one day you reported to one of the leaders, and the last sentence of this leader said: "What did you just say to Mr. Wang, see what his opinion is?" ”
Sorry, this question is a pit, because the two leaders have different personalities, different styles of doing things, and different points of view, so a question will have different answers, if you don't understand what kind of person he is, then you can't understand what the other person really means.
People's communication styles are divided into four types: controlling, phenotype, cautious, and gentle. The corresponding four animals are tigers, peacocks, owls, and koalas.
Next, the personality characteristics of each animal are elaborated, and the people encountered in life can be distinguished into categories.
Control type = tiger
For tiger-type personality people, the desire to control is stronger, they are generally more active, if you pay attention to the way this type of person speaks, like to use prayer sentences, expression is very direct, do not like to go around in circles, if you want to report to this type of person, they like you to say the theme directly, rather than do the preparation, go around in circles.
This type of person has a strong sense of purpose, always makes a decision when things happen, and is easy to identify in the crowd.
Phenotype = peacock
Peacock type people, try to open the screen, show themselves, attach great importance to feelings, and when communicating with this type of person, you will find that the characteristics of this type of person is "self-familiar", often put relationship maintenance in the first place, like to please each other, hope that the other party likes themselves, often because of pleasing and put the specific need to communicate the matters shelved.
Don't think that these are the shortcomings of the peacock type, it is precisely this point that it is easy for peacock type people to be competent for public relations work.
As a type of person, there is also a characteristic that likes physical contact, the peacock type "does not go the usual way", often has not really become familiar with you, you can put your arm around the shoulder and go to the canteen to eat.
Cautious type = owl
Owl type of people, more cautious, well-thought-out, pay attention to the facts as the basis, belongs to the social slow heat type of a category, you seem to feel that the crowd they are more "high and cold", in fact, in the secret observation, do serious analysis.
This type of person is obsessed with structures, systems, and processes, and likes to do things step by step.
Mild type = koala
The koala type of person is the most gentle and easy-going of the four kinds of people, often easily ignored in the crowd, will not take the initiative to pull into the relationship, always show no aggressive goodwill, and often hang on the lips of a sentence: "All right, ok, listen to you". Don't argue, don't grab, don't sin.
From the above description, you may have a clear position in your mind, have you already fitted yourself with one of the animals?
It is not difficult to find that the four animal communication types, tigers and peacocks are active, but differently, the tiger's initiative is to control the overall situation, and the peacock's initiative is mostly to please each other.
Owls and koalas are passive, owls are passive in observing the next step in order to gather evidence, and koalas are originally intended not to offend people.
Recognize the personality characteristics of the four animals, you can consciously identify the people around you, if you are still not sure about the type of animal, about these four types of people to eat a meal, from their performance it is easy to distinguish the type.
At the dinner table, whether the tiger is a guest or not, he does not like chaos and enjoys control over the push and shove of the order, and when you are still worried about what to eat, the tiger type mostly takes out the menu and starts to order.
If you haven't decided where to eat after a meal, Tiger's approach is to open the group buying app to see which restaurant is ranked first? The first place on the list is usually the object of his choice.
At this time, the peacock stood up and said, "Or let's go to so-and-so's house, where my friend opened the shop." "Yes, the peacock shows itself while pleasing its companions.
What about owls? After everyone's discussion, a reminder will be: "We are still cautious, we have to look at the comments first, the first place may be cheap or the first in the list." Maybe he will also remind everyone, "We have to see if the path takes too long and whether there is any traffic jam on the road." ”
Koalas usually have no sense of existence, and when everyone thinks of him, he will attach a sentence: "I can do it, you will." ”
If you can quickly distinguish the type of animal corresponding to each person in interpersonal communication, you will find that the ability to quickly understand the communication object and choose the corresponding communication method according to their characteristics is greatly enhanced.
It is recommended that today's article point a collection yo, every time you need to communicate, take it out to review it, first give the communication object a position according to different animal types, and then consider the corresponding communication methods and skills.
I believe that through such efforts, you and I can eat less losses and be more calm in life and workplace communication.