Introduction: There has never been a "giant" that Cinderella and poor dick silk can climb, if there is, it can only prove that they are not ordinary at all, because "door-to-door pairing" not only includes the reciprocity of material conditions, but also contains the commonality and mutual appreciation of intellectual spirit.
The fairy tale "Cinderella", although there are many versions, but the basic content is roughly the same:
Cinderella lost her mother, lost her father shortly after her stepmother entered the door, was bullied by her stepmother and two sisters, and acted like a slave in the family, doing all kinds of dirty chores for many years. Once the prince held a ball, and with the help of some external forces, Cinderella got a beautiful dress and crystal shoes, and had the opportunity to dance with the prince, and the two of them fell in love. After the ball, the prince finds Cinderella after several twists and turns, and finally the two are happy together.
On the surface, this is a fairy tale of a kind girl meeting a beautiful love.
However, from the perspective of adults, the happy ending of fairy tales actually hides the actual law of marriage.
First of all, Cinderella's origin, originally the daughter of the count, although some versions do not explicitly introduce, but since her family can be invited by the royal family, it is enough to show that her origin must be either rich or noble.
Moreover, if Cinderella is just a girl from an ordinary family, even if she is provided with a beautiful dress and crystal shoes and a platform, she may not be able to seize the opportunity to dance with the prince.
Therefore, Cinderella must have been well trained and educated in the original family, and when she relied on external forces to get the opportunity, she could dance with the prince generously and have enough charm to attract the prince.
Many girls have also had similar fairy tale dreams, hoping that their ordinary selves will one day be deeply loved by a man like a prince or a girl like a princess.
In many novels and TV series, it is also popular to have such a story: one of the male and female protagonists is from a wealthy family, while the other is just an ordinary family, and their love is not favored by the people around them, and they will be maliciously ridiculed from the outside world.
The two will always work together to eliminate the prejudices of others, and finally get the recognition of the family and usher in a happy and happy ending.
However, in real life, such a combination of great contrasts rarely occurs, because it is really difficult to fill the gap between the two people in terms of growth environment and educational cognition only by relying on love.
The reality is that two people often walk and walk and can't continue.
How beautiful the ending of a fairy tale is, how cruel the ending in reality is.
Just like Cinderella's enviable crystal shoes, it is natural to wear it lightly and elegantly; if it is not suitable to wear it, you have to endure the pain of cutting off your toes and heels like two sisters.
Circles are different, strong but incompatible.
Some time ago, the popular TV series "Flowing Golden Years", Jiang Nansun, played by Liu Shishi, and Zhang Anren, played by Yang Jiu, are two types of people with completely different living environments.
Jiang Nansun's family conditions are excellent, in order to cultivate Jiang Nansun's famous temperament from an early age, his father did not hesitate to cultivate it with heavy money.
In this carefree family environment, she is innocent and simple, like a "little princess", living a delicate and tasteful life.
Compared with Jiang Nansun's rich family status, Zhang Anren's family conditions are general, and he only settled in the city by his own efforts.
Some people say that if there are not various changes between the two, there may be a perfect ending.
However, in fact, their patterns and thinking have long been destined to drift away.
There is such a plot in the play: Jiang Nansun's aunt wants to transform a homestay, and Zhang Anren's profession is architectural design, in fact, for him, it is not a difficult thing. However, he was afraid of his aunt who returned from abroad, and he did not have much confidence in himself, and in fact, his aunt was really dissatisfied with his design.
Because what the aunt needs is the demand for the quality of life, and Zhang Anren's design concept is to pursue high cost performance. In the end, the drawing that Zhang Anren used for a few days was actually inferior to the sketch that assistant teacher Wang Yongzheng drew on the dinner paper.
Even Nansun's father saw through his essence and evaluated him as not big enough, and it was difficult to do anything.
It can be seen that despite economic conditions, those things engraved in the bones are the most difficult to be compatible.
There is another thing in the play that is enough to see the gap in the thinking of the two people.
When Jiang Nansun and Zhang Anren were like glue, Jiang's mother offered to buy an apartment for her daughter to live in, and Zhang Anren accepted the kindness of her future mother-in-law with peace of mind.
However, when the Jiang family was bankrupt, the old man wanted to come and live together, but Zhang Anren kept resigning.
Whether Zhang Anren is selfish or a small citizen, these are things that Jiang Nansun cannot bear in his cognition after all.
In addition to the reasons of the family environment and material conditions, the most important thing is the gap between the two people's ideological concepts that is difficult to narrow.
The woman's advantage has become the man's capital to show off outside, but once he returns home, it has become his pain point. Without the same three views and equal relationship, even if love is generated, sooner or later it will be defeated by reality.
Therefore, Cinderella counterattacked, and the white and rich beauty on the dick silk were just ordinary people thinking about it. If it really happened, if it was really happy, it can only be said that Cinderella was never an ordinary Cinderella, at least an independent and self-motivated Cinderella.
And Di Si is not really as ordinary as people see, and it is bound to have unusual potential.
The spiritual fit is also a true door-to-door pair.
There is such a couple around, they go from school uniforms to wedding dresses, and their love is enviable. However, their journey has not been smooth, because the woman's family environment is different from her husband's family, and their love has also suffered some obstruction from the in-laws' family.
It's just that in their hearts, they have long become each other's soul mates.
When they were students, they had common goals, supported each other and helped each other, and both were admitted to prestigious universities and successfully graduated.
All witnessed the progress and growth of the two. Especially girls, although their families are ordinary, they work hard and are not humble in front of their in-laws with a sense of superiority.
So that soon the in-laws were captured, and the two of them lived a good life.
Therefore, truly happy love and marriage, what is needed must be "door to door".
And this kind of "door-to-door pair" not only contains the reciprocity of family background and material conditions, but also contains the commonality in the realm of academic cultivation. These external and internal gaps will be stumbling blocks on the road of love.
Rational lovers, who want to be together for a long time, will definitely pay attention to the "door to door". Because they know the pressure and impact of the huge gap between two people in some aspects.
Therefore, if you want to challenge the marriage of "the wrong door is not right", it is not enough to rely on a momentary passion, but to really make some efforts to narrow the distance between the two and eliminate the psychological gap.
Instead of fantasizing that the ordinary self can get lucky enough to meet the Prince Charming in his heart, he fantasizes that the ordinary self can have the opportunity to meet a white rich beauty. It is better to work hard to improve your knowledge and vision, so that you can seize the opportunity when you encounter it, rather than passing by.
Only when two people are highly consistent in spirit, have similar three views, and get along equally, can they be called truly "door-to-door pairs".
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