Text: Autumn sunset geese
Figure: From the network
In the countryside, there is a special group, their husbands because of the needs of the family, all year round in the city to work, and they have to stay in the countryside because of the entanglement of their children, they and their husbands are separated, the opportunity to meet in a year is very small, this group of people, known as "left-behind women", and I am one of the left-behind women.
I am married for 13 years, and the time spent with my husband after marriage adds up to less than half a year. And every spring when the husband comes back, his task is to "build" children.
Today, I take two sons and a daughter at home, take care of them every day, pick up and drop off my children from school, and usually do farm work, and most of the family's expenses depend on my husband's income.
Although the husband is the only child in the family, his family conditions are not good, the mother-in-law often gets sick for three days and goes to the hospital at both ends, and the little money that the father-in-law has worked hard to earn is basically spent on the mother-in-law, and there is no substantial help for us, even the debts we owe when we got married, the husband himself also paid back more than 30,000.
In our village, there are seven or eight of my peers who live at home with children, and they, like me, live helplessly and numbly every day. When everyone gets together, they talk about their own heartache and sleepless nights, because they are also human beings, and they also have their own spiritual needs!
Because of the long separation, three young couples in our village divorced.
Some people think that it is an easy thing to take children at home, but in fact, it is not, children are sick, they need to rely on myself, the tutoring of children's homework needs to rely on myself, even if I am sick, I still have to insist on picking up and dropping off my children.
I've found that women are very adaptable to anything and can tolerate even if a person is lonely for years. The romantic affairs between the lovers who were once envious also had to close the door of their hearts with the reality of their husbands working outside. Sometimes when I rush to the store, I look at the couples who hold hands and go shopping, and my heart is always sour.
My husband and I "meet" basically every day when my husband returns to the dormitory after work, and we tell each other about missing each other in the video.
Some people may say, since you are not willing to be lonely, why don't you live with your husband in the city? But you must not forget such a sentence, "I can't hold you when I pick up the brick", the husband left the country, the fundamental purpose is to make more money, so that the children will have the opportunity to go to college in the future, so as to change their fate. If I go with my child and can't go to school, he will earn very little money except rent and the cost of the family.
As a left-behind woman, I feel that my current situation is too difficult, and I don't know when this situation will change. Every time I think of this, I always sigh insincerely.