Through a person's 4 words and deeds, it can be judged whether a person's heart is lacking or abundant:
First, when things are worried and afraid, the six gods have no master
Second, when you see that others have, you don't envy and envy yourself
Third, dress, very able to pretend, ask for attention, seek recognition, and seek praise
Fourth, the bar, very able to bar, ten sentences and nine sentences are proving themselves
1, when things are worried and afraid, six gods and no masters, lack of security, the whole life is troubled by fear, no matter what happens, worry about fear, nothing is empty and boring.
2, see others have, they do not envy and hate people, lack of trust, the whole life is not confident, doubtful, gain and loss of heart trouble, they dare not set goals, afraid of disappointment, see others have and do not get used to it.
3, pretend, very able to install, all kinds of clothing, attention, recognition, praise of people lack of presence, such people are troubled by the fragile and sensitive glass heart inside, extremely eager for the affirmation of the outside world, extremely afraid of the outside world's doubts.
4, the bar, very able to bar, ten sentences and nine sentences are proving their own sense of value is missing. Such a person is plagued by his own incompetence. He did not dare to admit that he was incompetent, always defending his own correctness, afraid that others would look down on him.
If people with four senses are missing, the whole life is a disaster, an accident. Sealed by fear, lack of self-confidence, glass heart, inferiority and death, living anxiously, painfully, helplessly, desperately, physically and mentally exhausted, exhausted, life is worse than death.
How to break? Self-awareness, open the heart, see your own shortcomings, make up for the deficiencies, heal the wounds, unload the burdens, raise the four inner children, and build a safe, rich, free, and powerful inner world.
At this time, we can be reborn in nirvana and get rid of the problems of fear, lack of self-confidence, inferiority, and glass heart. Start a second life, your own life has just begun, and you will start to create your own wonderful life. #原生家庭 #
An adult who uses the mind of a child who waits, depends on, and wants to face his own life and death, gain and loss, honor and disgrace, love and hate, must live a painful life.
Waiting for rescue, waiting for care, waiting for help, waiting for protection, waiting for companionship, the subconscious mind thinks that he is still a baby who can't move and can't solve the problem, and thinks that if he leaves someone to take care of him, he will die without someone to accompany him. Therefore, when you encounter some problems, you are scared to death, collapse when you encounter abandonment, and panic in the face of loneliness. It's all an automatic reaction in infancy.
Face what you want, face what you want to do. Always want to take ready-made, ask for thoughts, open your mouth, shut your mouth to arrive, get angry if you don't have it, see others have it, envy and envy and hate if you don't have it. Because it is a taking thinking, not a value exchange thinking, so the heart is weak, afraid of rejection, afraid of cheating, afraid of losing.
[Want] Seek attention, seek recognition, ask for praise, and want to gain dignity and recognition by currying favor. The subconscious mind thinks that he is still a child who has no ability to survive, whose life and death are manipulated by others, and who can only survive by pleasing him. Without consciousness that they have grown up, flattery is worthless in the adult world, and only altruism can win respect and attention.
[Please] Either seek comfort and understanding all over the world, or fill the world with fear and the whole world, thinking that he is still the teenager who is limited everywhere and has no ability to obtain resources. I don't realize that I have grown up, that I am not limited, and that the resources of the whole world are used. Victory or defeat is a common affair of soldiers, as long as they do not give up on themselves, they can definitely speak with the results. Instead of talking with your mouth.
People who have not grown up in their inner children have been afraid all their lives, resisting, and exhausted all their lives, living physically and mentally exhausted, exhausted, and miserable.
How to break? Self-awareness, opening the heart, seeing oneself, filling in the gaps, healing wounds, unloading burdens, raising the four inner children, and building a safe, rich, free, and powerful inner world.
At this time, nirvana can be reborn, start a second life, focus on growth, focus on creation. #原生家庭 #
The inner child has not grown up, focusing on fear, avoidance, resistance, taking, complaining, flattering, pretending, self-abandonment, self-closure.
Inner children grow up with a focus on bravery, challenge, surrender, growth, creation, altruism, openness, never give up, self-breaking shell.
The direction of focus is wrong, the harder you try to live, the more painful it is, is your focus right? Is it going in the right direction? #原生家庭 #
Deception is based on the fact that you entrust your expectations to others, and there will be deception. If you put expectations on yourself, there is only trial and error.
Only the man of the child's mind says all day long that others have deceived him. Because he is not responsible for his own expectations, he always entrusts his own expectations to pay, looking for others to commit, looking for others to get results.
People with childhood minds do not even have basic common sense, how can there be casual success in this world? Which person's success is not nine deaths?
Adult minds know very well that there is no casual success in this world, and success is tried and done, not promised, not guaranteed.
Only a lot of trial and error can find success that suits you. A bird standing in a tree is never afraid of a broken branch, because she believes not in the branches, but in its own wings.
External forces are always the icing on the cake, it is impossible to send charcoal in the snow, it is you who have paid 99% of your efforts, and you have been stuck by 1%, and then God has sent someone to help you get through 1%."
Instead of paying 1% yourself, 99% want others to help you get through, you lie down and earn, where is such a good thing? #原生家庭 #