In today's society, the issue of letting go of the three-child education has once again been brought to the table, and when the second child is released, it has been discussed: can parents treat two children equally with a bowl of water? The answer is not necessarily.
Even if parents make solemn commitments, they may occasionally favor younger children, and words such as "the brother wants to let the younger brother" and "he is still young and does not understand things but you should understand" once caused a hot discussion on the Internet.
Whether the boss should be humble has become a hot topic, and when everyone is thinking about how to be fair, some people take the extreme route and begin to be completely biased towards the big children, which has developed into another trend, that is, not to take care of the children's emotions and blindly pursue the satisfaction of the older children.
This extreme is actually not conducive to family harmony, and the emotions of the two should be taken into account to achieve fairness, and the education of children cannot be stopped.
Humility is a traditional Chinese virtue, and it teaches them to learn to share, just like Kong Rong let the pear, although he is the younger one, he knows sharing and humility.
Kong Rong makes the story of the pear
The story of Kong Rong's pear is well known, and it first appeared in the "Shishu Xinyu Shu", which tells the story of the child Kong Rong who ate pears with his brothers when he was 4 years old, always picking the small ones.
When the adult asked the reason, he replied: The amount of food for children is small, and it is reasonable to take small ones. This statement was unanimously praised by the elders.
Children in 2-4 years old is the sensitive period of order, for some things have a strong sense of stubbornness, such as every day before going out must say goodbye and then wave, if you wave goodbye first and then goodbye he will be angry.
And babies in this period are also the most likely to be self-centered, they do not understand that there are many other ideas in the world, they will cry and scream if they do not get the toys they want, and they will lose their temper if they are unevenly distributed.
Kong Rong is obviously not, showing a sense of maturity that does not conform to age, and parents tell this story to their children in the hope of telling him that everything should know how to abide by public order and good customs.
Just as we treat our elders with courtesy is the knowledge that has been taught since childhood, Kong Rong has made pears a well-known story and a protagonist in textbooks.
But what happened to him when he grew up? Why doesn't the teacher talk? Because if you talk about it, you may not learn this virtue.
True hole melting
Kong Rong was the nineteenth grandson of the great sage Confucius, his father was also an official, he showed intelligence from an early age, and when he died when his father died at the age of 13, Kong Rong was too sad to need help to stand up.
Anyone who sees such a situation will think that he is a great filial piety and famous, but he has also done many heinous things.
After growing up, he became the Marquis of the Northern Zhongjun, became a General of the Middle Lang for three days, and was later recommended by Dong Zhuo to be the Minister of Beihai, and encountered a funeral on the way to office, it turned out that both parents had died and his son was crying.
Originally, this was the common sentiment of people, "Parents are here, life still has a place to return, parents go, life is only a journey"
The child whose parents died was extremely lonely in this world, but Kong Rong felt that the young man was not sad enough to conclude that he was not filial piety, which gave rise to a terrible idea: the child killed his parents viciously.
The more I thought about it, the more reasonable it made, so I ordered someone to kill him.
In fact, people's inability to accept the sudden event will cause a state of ignorance, and it will take a while to react to what happened, especially the death of a loved one.
It turns out that many people have been in disbelief, often showing that they are overwhelmed, and it takes a few days to truly experience the grief.
Kong Rongjin concluded that he was not filial piety just by relying on his temporary reaction, and subjectively guessed that hurting people's lives was too arbitrary, which is the "weeping grave is not emaciated" in the 262 citations of the "Imperial Dictionary" in "Qin Zi".
During his tenure as Beihai Minister, he also had absurd deeds, because the environment was not good because of the seriousness of the uprising, Kong Rong still had to pay taxes to the people, and he could not pay it out that it was the fault of the rent collector, since the failure was the inability of his subordinates to keep what use? So several rent collectors were killed.
Such Kong Rong seems to be the same as Kong Rong of The Pear, and if the teacher tells these deeds, the students will think that his misconduct is not worth learning, and he will not follow public order and good customs.
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