Recently, Guo Jingjing rarely posted a video of three children diving on social media. The boss first made a 360-degree turn, and then jumped into the water, Guo Jingjing also ridiculed that the water splash was not good enough, and then the second and third elders also jumped directly into the water, and the two had a lot of fun.
The family is happy and harmonious, once the diving queen, now has become a mother of 3 children, the focus is on the family, the child. Participating in the East Olympic Games in Japan as a judge this time is her first return to her old business in the ten years after her marriage, and it is also a recognition of her ability.
In her Weibo, I can feel that although there is reluctance to the child and worry about the epidemic, the responsibility behind it, as well as the strength to never compromise and not be sloppy in what she wants to do and likes to do.
She wants her children to see that mothers also have their own values to strive for. Becoming a mother does not mean giving up everything, and sacrifice is not what a mother should do.
First, the mother is occasionally "selfish", and the child will be happier
Last year, "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves" dominated the screen hot search, those who were once active silver screen first-line actresses, each of these 30+ women can become a model for mothers to dare to realize their self-worth.
As far as Yi Nengjing is concerned, the eldest son is 18 years old, the younger daughter is 4 years old, when interviewed why she came to participate in the show, she said: "Moms not only have to be at home, but also have a self-worth. And this is also the first time that her daughter has left for so long, although she can only go through video chat, but she does not regret her decision.
Winnicott once said: A 60-point mother is a good mother. 40 points are reserved for children, so that children have more room to grow.
60 points I can occasionally miss the child's life, go to work, go to travel, the child has more space for himself and the opportunity to get along with people.
I can also occasionally be lazy, make mistakes, lose my temper, and the child knows that the mother is also an ordinary person, and can also perceive the existence and boundaries of emotions.
I also have limited ability, I can do as much as I want, and I can't send you to the ideal school even now, but I believe that there are children with internal drive, and they can shine wherever they are placed.
The "selfishness" of parents can let children see a mother who has never given up on her dreams and has gone all out.
Second, self-sacrificing mothers, what will become of the child
The Chinese Academy of Sciences once released a set of statistics: 82% of parents are ready to make sacrifices for their children's success, and more than one-third of Chinese parents have completely lost their personal time.
Song Qian in the TV series "Little Joy", Tian Yulan in "Little Shed"...
They surround their children 360 degrees without dead ends, pay energy, lose time, have no self, and become a "superb" mother who tires her child. Overwhelmed by the child, Hideko feels that her mother's love - unworthy. Zi You thinks that her mother who has a perfect score on the test loves.
The excessive sacrifice of parents is sometimes exchanged not for the gratitude of the child, but for the child's escape, or the child's collapse, or for a child with a distorted mentality. Some time ago, the peking university talent Wu Xie Yu murdered his mother in the public trial, the details of the case were disclosed, and there was a sentence "help the mother to get rid of it as soon as possible" which made people shudder.
The educator Makarenko said: "Everything is given to the child, sacrificing everything for him, even sacrificing his own happiness." This is the most terrible gift a parent can give to a child. ”
Third, mother self-growth is the best education for children
Fu Seoul, the debate queen of "Strange Story", said that she has achieved today, and she should thank herself for the child who slept and insisted on reading night and night.
And the mother's efforts, the courage to realize the value, but also encourage the son. Fu Seoul has been happy to have sunbathed her son's excellence: Fu's mother, who was busy returning home late at night from work, was pleased to find that her son had won a gold, a bronze and a fifth place in the school sports meeting, and the medal was hung in the most conspicuous place. Faced with her sleeping son and about to fly again the next morning, she wrote a congratulatory letter to her son, with praise, respect, and encouragement.
The famous writer Long Yingtai's "Children You Take Your Time" was written in the process of raising Hua'an, when the children went to school, she began to read in the study, write manuscripts, and write every bit of it with the child into this book. Fifteen years have passed, Long Yingtai has not only become the most influential pen in the Chinese literary world, but also in the process of realizing her political career, using her unique female wisdom to find a balance between the conflict between personal career and mother's role, "Dear Andrei" has brought touch and enlightenment to countless readers.
Parents are the most important color in a child's life, and they are also the child's silent ferryman. Your hard-working, diligent knowledge, courage to explore, the efforts you show, and the optimistic spirit will give your children a good exemplary role and the best education model.