In September 1704 a Scottish sailor named Alexander Selkirk quarreled with the captain at sea and was abandoned by the captain on the island of Ann Fernand in the Atlantic Ocean of South America, and four years later he was a savage when he was rescued back to England.
Robinson with Friday
The famous British writer Defoe took the legendary story of Selcock as a model, poured his years of maritime experience and experience into the characters, and fully used his rich imagination for literary processing, "Robinson Crusoe" came out, and this book made "Robinson" a hero in the minds of the petty and middle bourgeoisie at that time.
Today, we talk about why we respect the differences in each other's concepts from robinson Crusoe, the hero robinson Robinson, who wants him to believe in God as much as he does in the process of educating Friday, and the performance of the mother's controlling motherly love in 囧Mom
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01 Robinson, like Lu Xiaohua, mistakenly believed that controlling thought was the shortcut to success</h1>
Friday, as a tribe of cannibals, believes in crocodiles, is brave and good at war, and the strong are kings. And Robinson believed in God, God created the world, and man must worship God, and how much god is disrespectful to kill.
Because the two have different beliefs, they have differences. After a few weeks, Robinson knew that God was to him as much as a crocodile was to Friday, so he no longer insisted that Friday join him in believing in God
Because of religious beliefs, there are differences
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When the puppy was killed, Friday became Robinson's only friend on the isolated island. Friends, on the other hand, are equal relationships. Maintaining respect for your friend's faith, and not having to obey anyone, is the right way to get along.
Being friends is like this, and being a mother and son is even more so. In "囧Mom," Ivan's mother puts all her energy into her son, whether he gets married, when he has children, when he eats, how much he eats. Mother and child should also be an equal relationship, and it is not necessary for anyone to abide by the habits of whom. Mutual understanding and respect are prerequisites for a harmonious life.
It is called love, but it is the mother's love of control
Unlike Robinson Education Friday, Robinson initially used Friday as a slave and wanted to control his thoughts. Ivan's mother, on the other hand, imposed her own thoughts and will on Ivan in the name of love. As soon as Ivan started to resist, mom began to say, "Why aren't you good?" I'm all here for your own good. ”
But at the end of the day, both make the same mistake, and Friday and Ivan are mature people with thoughts, decision-making powers, and habits of their own behavior. If you are forced by others to think, or even control, of course, you will rebel, and the relationship will deteriorate as a result.
Controlling maternal love
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 True friendship is to seek common ground while reserving differences and respecting each other</h1>
My girlfriend Rong Rong and I are friends who grew up together, we live together, elementary school, middle school, high school, we are all in the same school. At that time, we giggled every day. But the change just happened when I went to Guangzhou to work and she went to Wuhan to go to university.
After working for a few years, I gradually became able to afford some of the things I liked. Every time I go back, I bring her small things like powder, lipstick, eyebrow pencils and other makeup tools. Because I think girls need to dress up. Pack yourself up a bit, a little more refined. Not just for others to see, but also to be able to please yourself.
Good girlfriend
But as a student, she thinks that you are very good at makeup, and makeup is not what students should do. In my mind, she became a stupid student who didn't understand fashion. In her heart, I became a person who loved stinky beauty. So, when she was a junior or a senior, I didn't buy her cosmetics anymore, but bought some study books for her.
It wasn't until she also worked and understood why I was buying her these gifts at the time, that we started to stink together again.
So why do we disagree? Is it because our friendship is not strong enough? Of course not, because of the different locations. I am a social person, and my main job is to go to work, and it is basic etiquette to wear light makeup when I go to work. She is a student, her main job is to study, and she does not wear makeup to show respect to her classmates. So, we had a contradiction at that time.
Friend
Euripides said: Since we are all mortal, it is better to keep friendship at a moderate level and not to get too deeply involved in each other's spiritual lives.
Friends who can accompany each other all their lives are mostly not forced to accept their own ideas. With a moderate respect for each other's positions and perspectives, the flower of friendship can last forever.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 Mother and child, living under the same roof, if they cannot respect each other's ideas, it is easy to contradict each other</h1>
My cousin is 30 years old and unmarried, which may not be a big thing in the big city, but in our thirty-second-line small countryside, in the words of the villagers, "what a filial piety person."
Where is filial piety? Parents are almost sixty, and they have not yet hugged their grandchildren, are they not ashamed? You're 30 and still not married, are you worthy of your parenting grace? We have been working hard for half a lifetime, and we are counting on you to get married and have a child, is this too much to ask?
Mother and son have differences
And whenever my cousin rebelled, saying that I was not married, or that I would start a business and then start a family. My aunt always had a look of pain on her face: "You are not married, what do you really want to do?" Others and my age have hugged several grandchildren, I don't have any, where is my old face? Then there is the unchanging sentence "I am all for your own good!" ”
This year's New Year's Road closure, the family looked up and did not look down, and the contradiction finally broke out. The cousin said to my aunt, "You are for my own good, have you asked me what I really think in my heart?" At this point, the family crowd of loving families is full of aunts' complaints every day.
Why is this happening? Is it that the aunt doesn't love the cousin? Or is my cousin unaware of my aunt's hard work? No, the aunt loves the cousin very much, and the cousin also knows the aunt's hard heart. The reason for this is that the two have different ideas.
Mother and son quarrel
Aunts are traditional, and they feel that people are going to have a family after all. Earlier, the old man can still help. Moreover, the gossip of others is really hard to hear. And the cousin feels that it doesn't matter if you get married sooner or later, and getting married is not something to do on time like clocking in at work. Therefore, no one can convince anyone, and contradictions arise.
Parents always thought we were children and didn't grow up. They want us to take on the responsibilities of a home, and we are obsessed with a person's freedom. They always feel that we are relieved to have a family. And young people feel that they have not yet matured, because they are not quiet.
Mothers and sons are educated differently and naturally have different views on things. Mother and child who can live in peace should respect the differences in each other's concepts, and communication is a bridge of respect.
Mutual respect is the foundation
Write at the end:
People get along with each other because our beliefs are different and our positions are different. So everything starts with mutual respect. Man is an emotional animal and needs equality and democracy, understanding and trust.
Buffett once said: "A person should always respect others and respect different ideas." "Whoever has their own beliefs and choices, their own direction, even if it's an animal. Only by giving enough understanding and respect for the choices and directions of others can we win the favor of others.
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