How I have done in my life, I can't do it like cooking, and I can't concentrate all the ingredients before I get off the pot.
"Eating Men and Women" is the third part of the "Father Trilogy" filmed by director Ang Lee after "Wedding Feast" and "Push hand". The film tells the story of a retired chef who waits every weekend for his three daughters to come home for dinner, faces family problems and two generations of conflict. The bland details of life highlight extraordinary ethical concepts, warm and touching.
In the Book of Rites: The Ninth Book of Rites, it is written: "Men and women who eat and drink, the great desire of man to survive." The meaning of this sentence can be interpreted as: eating and dressing, male and female love, is the greatest desire of people's existence. The film opens with people unable to move their eyes to eat, showing Master Zhu's unique skills. It started out" "Duang, Duang, Duang." "It lasted for tens of minutes, and the fire, the wok, the crackling.
Chef Chu is the head chef at The Garden Hill Hotel in Taipei, retiring at home. Every Sunday, a sumptuous table was painstakingly prepared to bring the three daughters together. But as the daughters grew older, the three daughters began to have their own lives, and the dinner had gradually become a cold and complicated form. The resulting family problems and the conflict between the two generations gradually unfolded. Through each other's lives and conflicts, the film constructs the values of different ages and occupations, and describes the relationship between the two generations in China
After the TV series "All Is Good" was broadcast a few years ago, the professional psychological term "native family" also entered the public eye. The original family refers to the environment in which a person is born and grown, and the parents in the original family are the role models that the children follow from an early age, and the life results of each child have an indelible relationship with the parents in the flesh and blood. We will choose how to get along with the other half according to how our parents got along when we were young. After watching this movie, my biggest feeling is that the original family will really affect us unconsciously.
The eldest daughter in the movie, Jiazhen, is a chemistry teacher, and she believes that the atmosphere between her parents is warm and harmonious, and it is a plain life after a warm love. After the death of his mother, he assumed the role of a mother, taking care of his sisters, and when he was a child, he was obviously eager to go to the big kitchen with his father, but he had to give up because of the responsibilities of the eldest sister. The same is true in adulthood, where the reason for pretending to be single for years is because he was abandoned by his college boyfriend, heartbroken, and unwilling to continue into the next relationship. In fact, it is because of the lack of time to take care of the father and sisters and do not know how to fall in love.
The second daughter, Jiaqian, is an airline executive, and believes that the quarrel between her parents is a manifestation of bad feelings, and her mother's departure is a relief for both parties. It is difficult for her to establish a stable relationship after she is an adult, and she cannot get along in a romantic relationship, and although she is often noisy and noisy with her boyfriend, she can share her thoughts and weaknesses by living peacefully after breaking up. Eager to leave home, but finally because of his father's "loneliness" and "poor health", he chose to give up the public mission overseas and stay at home.
The third daughter, Jia Ning, is well-behaved and sensible, works in a fried chicken shop after studying, and always plays the role of a peacemaker at home. However, Jia Ning and her girlfriend's boyfriend exchanged feelings, and replaced him with his children, and was the first to leave the house. The second daughter Jiaqian, who most wanted to escape home, stayed at home for various reasons.
We may have heard the saying, "Happy people are healed by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people use their lives to heal childhood." "There is a clip in the film describing the father losing his sense of taste, and finally the father remarries, the second daughter invites the family to dinner at the old house at home, only the father comes, the daughter cooks the soup, the father tastes, the father recovers his sense of taste, and finally the second daughter inherits his cooking talent.
After watching the film, I can't help but feel that the family is actually very important, when I was young, in order to be busy with work, I ignored the family children, in the blink of an eye, many years have passed, I am also old, retired, the children are busy with their own business, there is no time to accompany their parents, even if they do the food that the children like to eat, at this time they find that the children have been too far away from themselves.
Although "Eating Men and Women" is a film from more than twenty years ago, when you look closely, it seems bland, but it is thought-provoking. Director Ang Lee uses the story of slow stewing with a thin fire to present the true meaning of life and the truth of the family in front of his eyes, and it seems that he has said nothing, but he seems to have said everything.
Eating men and women, people's great desires, do not want to be difficult.