01
Some sages have said that they know how to advance and retreat, tremble and tremble, protect themselves, and enjoy peace.
Throughout their lives, the most important thing for people to do is to "protect themselves." When we can't even save ourselves, how can we talk about living a stable and happy life?
When we are young, maybe we struggle hard, have the spirit and energy, so we can make a certain amount of money in the workplace and live a good life.
In middle age, although we have to face many problems, we are still healthy and have a good source of income. At this time, the days are still relatively happy.
However, old age is the most "dangerous" time for everyone. Because people in their later years have neither good health nor a fixed income. At this time, all problems will arise.
If your child is filial to you, then you are naturally blessed and especially lucky. But what if your child can't be filial to you, or if he doesn't have the heart at all?
Over sixty people, people with real foresight have grasped these five hole cards and saved themselves.
02
When a person is over sixty, keep a proper distance from his children.
As the saying goes, too close to each other is a disaster.
If you get too close to your friend, your friend will calculate you and even plot against you. If you get too close to your children, your children will reject you and even have conflicts with you.
This is the "hedgehog effect" in psychology. As long as people are too close to each other, it is believed that the two sides will have disputes and even become enemies.
For the elderly, whether they have money or not, they must not be too close to their children, but need to keep a certain distance from them. This distance, we call "a bowl of chicken soup" distance.
The distance of the so-called "bowl of chicken soup" is that you bring a bowl of soup to your children, but the distance in the middle will not let the soup cool down, nor will it make the soup too hot.
Only when the distance between parents and children is appropriate, can family affection be maintained for a long time.
03
People over sixty, to have a good relationship with their wives.
The reason why people get married is not only to "pass on the generations", but also to have a lover to accompany them in their old age.
In your opinion, when people reach old age, are their children more intimate, or their wives more intimate? In fact, after all, it is the wife who is closer.
No matter how good the children are, they still have their own families to take care of, and it is impossible to have too much energy to take care of their parents. As parents, we can't rely too much on our children.
From another point of view, the wife is the one who "shares honor and disgrace" with us. He and we are all in agreement with our goal, which is to "enjoy the old age in peace." If so, why don't we have a good relationship with it?
Don't ignore the relationship with your wife, maybe he is the one who accompanies you to the end of your life.
Our wife is not only our lover, but also our comrade-in-arms in life. Therefore, you and I will work together for the rest of our lives, which is a safe approach.
04
When a person is over sixty, he must grasp his own money.
I have seen some elderly people who, in the year of retirement, gave their money to their children so that they could take care of their parents for the sake of money.
Do you think this is correct? In fact, after all, it is the act of "gambling".
You "bet" on filial piety, which is why you gamble. If you "gamble and lose" and your children are not filial at all, then don't you even lose "money"?
In later life, children can not be filial, this is not something we can decide. However, we must take good control of our own money.
The so-called "rely on everyone to run, rely on trees to fall, rely on water flow." Many people and things in the world are unreliable. Compared with feelings, money is the most reliable guarantee.
At least your money will not betray you, it will only accompany you.
05
When a person is over sixty, he must know how to cultivate his "heart".
There are many elderly people, as soon as they retire, they lock themselves in the home, completely isolated from the world, and become a member of the "house".
This kind of isolation will only make people more and more paranoid, more and more grumpy, and more and more suspicious in their hearts.
Why do old family members after retirement always like to quarrel with their children? Perhaps because the old man's mentality is not good, he is always embarrassed for his children, and finally leads to a dispute between the two sides.
After retirement, you should not let yourself live a closed life, but to contact the outside world, more with old friends, even if you go to chess, climb mountains, travel, you can also nurture your own soul.
People with a good attitude will naturally have less pain. And people with a bad mentality can only live more and more sadly, and finally become plagued by diseases.
06
When people are over sixty, they must exercise well.
The ancients had a saying: "Ten thousand two gold, it is difficult to change a body easily." ”
We have a lot of money, and as long as there is a physical problem, it is a tragedy. The so-called "people in heaven, money in the bank" is this truth.
For ordinary families without money, an old man's illness may make the family "return to the pre-liberation period overnight."
There is a saying that is very realistic, between the rich and the poor, there is only a distance of a hospital bed.
In order not to make ourselves sick, we need to exercise well, even if we take a walk and ride a bicycle every day, we can't let ourselves stay at home, and the more we live, the worse our health.
Health is the foundation of happiness. Only when there is health can there be happiness. And without health, everything is empty talk.
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