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Li Yan felt that her husband Pan Song must be someone outside, even if he had not yet developed to the step of derailment, he must have an ambiguous object. How did you find out? One is the woman's intuition; the second is the knowledge of him in the seven years of marriage; and the third is Pan Song's recent series of unusual behaviors.
Pan Song has been a little abnormal these days.
He loves to dress up, he doesn't bring perfume on weekdays, and now, not only does he spray perfume, but he also looks in the mirror from time to time when he goes out, and even what clothes he wears have to be considered for a long time. When he answered the phone, he deliberately avoided Li Yan, and obviously he could answer it at the dinner table, so he had to run to the balcony. When he looked at the phone, he would smile inexplicably, and that kind of smile Li Yan hadn't seen for a long time. In addition, Pan Song came home later and later, and whenever Li Yan asked him what he was busy with, he always swallowed.
Li Yan was suspicious at first, but she did not make a sound, allowing Pan Song to "be a demon" with all her strength.
Li Yan went to work as usual, picked up her son and daughter to and from school, and when she returned home, she had to be busy cooking, Zhang Luo ate with her two children, and after eating, she had to take the children out for a walk. The two children are only one year apart, one is in the middle class, the other is in the small class, although there is no need to help with homework, but it is also a worrying age. After putting the two children to sleep, Li Yan still had to wash clothes and do housework.
Li Yan is really busy, before her daughter went to kindergarten, there was still a mother-in-law at home to help, but when her daughter went to kindergarten, her mother-in-law said that she would go back. My mother-in-law said that I have helped you send your sons and daughters to kindergartens over the years, which is also the end of benevolence and righteousness, and I will have to live my own old age in the future.
For her mother-in-law, Li Yan has always been grateful, and without her mother-in-law's help in recent years, she may not even be able to keep her job.
Even though he was busy every day, Li Yan still detected Pan Song's abnormal behavior.
Li Yan is very calm, she first reflected on her marriage with Pan Song: married for seven years, the marriage of two people is quite flat, Pan Song's participation in the family is relatively low, and most of the children who were busy before were her and her mother-in-law, pan Song is like an outsider. Pan Song is still self-motivated, and he doesn't need Li Yan to worry about anything at work. The two of them have not quarreled much, and if Pan Song cheats, he should be tired of the bland marriage.
After not sleeping for several nights, Li Yan tossed and turned, thinking about how to save her marriage.
She felt that Pan Song was not a helpless person, but should just have an ambiguous chat partner.
Finding something wrong but not panicking, Li Yan soon had new evidence: Pan Song had a small mobile phone, and the woman Li Yan, who often talked about on WeChat, did not know. Li Yan got the small mobile phone when Pan Song returned from a drunken drink, and she read pan Song's chat history with the woman, and then took a photo with her own mobile phone.
That night, Li Yan cried and cried, she felt that there was no way out of her marriage, but she really did not want to have two children. A son and a daughter, what a perfect family of four, is it difficult to be separated because of that woman? She was not willing, and she did not want others to reap the benefits of the fisherman.
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The next day, Li Yan hurriedly sent her two children to kindergarten, and then she took a leave of absence with her boss.
When she came home from delivering the children and doing everything, Panson was still asleep, panson worked relatively freely, and if he had drunk the night before, he would usually get up later the next day.
After Pan Song got up, Li Yan brought him a bowl of porridge, and he wondered why Li Yan did not go to work, but he did not ask anything more. On the contrary, Li Yan took the initiative to show off with him at the dinner table: Let's talk.
Li Yan took out her mobile phone, and she showed Pan Song a screenshot of her chat history, pan Song was dumbfounded and angry, "You peeked at my phone while I was drunk." Li Yan still didn't panic, just said: "Well, I know that you are in contact with her, but I want to know where you have developed, how long." What don't you have to worry about? I just want to know the truth. ”
Pan Song did not speak, and Li Yan continued: "We have been married for a long time, seven years, we have children and daughters, and our lives are plain but happy." I sometimes feel very happy, after all, there are not many women like me who have everything, and I am not a woman who does not know how to be satisfied. Don't look at me as busy every day, but I feel very energetic because it is for our two children. But if you cheat, our family will be scattered. ”
Pan Song felt a little guilty and whispered, "I just talked to her, nothing happened." ”
"I'm sure nothing happened to you, you may just have a crush on her, right?" In fact, even if we are married, we will meet people who are moved, and I can understand that no one stipulates that we only love one person in our lifetime. I will also be interested in good men, but I will actively refuse this temptation, I know that there are some things that cannot be touched after marriage. You're just chatting with her now, in an ambiguous period, but if you have a relationship later, it's hard for you to turn back. ”
Although Li Yan is dissatisfied with Pan Song, she can also understand this kind of good feeling, people, are emotional animals, it is very normal to have good feelings, and what she is afraid of is not good feelings, but the next development.
"If you really like her, we can both get a divorce, that's fine, but you've thought about it, the road to reorganizing the family is not so easy." If we are separated, how do you face our children, how do children accept a stepmother. ”
"Li Yan, I didn't think about divorcing you, it's impossible."
"If you don't want to divorce, you really have to stop with her." Actually I know why you cheated? It's nothing more than freshness, you think there are endless words to talk to her, but at first, aren't we both like this? We are always passionate when we are in love, but when it comes to marriage, there is no passion, because if there is passion all the time, tired will be exhausted. There's nothing wrong with our marriage, it's that there's something wrong with your perception of marriage.
To be honest, if you really get married to her and live for a few years, you will find that it is not as good as the two of us now. Because there is still a difference between the two of you, our daughter and son, and we are both completely united. When you have passion, you are confused; when the passion is gone, there will be contradictions. Really, if you like her we can get a divorce and leave early and clean. ”
When Li Yan said this, Pan Song felt deeply guilty.
"I just talked to her, and I won't talk anymore."
Pan Song deleted the woman's WeChat in front of Li Yan.
Since then, Panson has not behaved strangely. You may say that Pan Song is just a lost and returning, what if he will do it again in the future? Li Yan said: "I am not worried that he will repeat the crime, but at this point, if he commits another crime in the future, we will only have a divorce." Pan Song is not a person who does not know good villains, he and the woman are just beginning, but there are signs of extramarital affairs, and it is better to save. ”
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The true face of marriage is bland, if a man cheats on a sense of freshness, then he will regret it in the end, and he will find that he will marry later than his ex-wife, which is certain.
TV series "The first half of my life", Chen Junsheng's cheating is partly due to the novelty, Chen Junsheng gradually looked down on Luo Zijun at home, he was annoyed and tired, Luo Zijun had a problem, but Chen Junsheng did not want to help her out of the predicament, but used infidelity to solve his marriage problems. As a result, a different person, still living a life of chai rice oil and salt, before with Luo Zijun is still the same heart, to Ling Ling, not only to help her raise children, the money is given to outsiders, even their own children can not be raised.
After Chen Junsheng married Ling Ling, how tragic it was, it was not his own children, but also the cash machine of Ling Ling's mother and son.
Whether you are a married man or a married woman, you must realize that once you cheat and divorce, you marry a third party, it is difficult for you to be with him, the relationship you face will be more complicated, and it will change the life of your children.
Love is passionate, marriage is just the blandness of the years, no matter who we marry, we will eventually return to the pots and pans and the blandness of raising children.
Blandness is the essence of marriage.
What kind of marriage is happy? It's the kind of person waiting for you when you're late, it's the kind of two people who mess around for housework, it's the kind of person who gently holds your hand when you're powerless to give you strength and warmth. A bland marriage is solid and truly happy.
Detecting the signs of an extramarital affair with her husband, the woman's words make her lost.
I hope that people who are cheating and have the idea of cheating can stop the loss in time, turn back to the shore, don't think that the marriage is better to change people, you are just complicating the relationship. Believe it or not, if this is a different person, it will certainly not be as good as the original.
Today's topic: Is it better to marry someone else? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.