Carnegie advises women (refuse to measure their own worth by the eyes of others)

If a person wants to live happily in the world, self-confidence is essential, and having self-confidence can help you withstand the wind and rain of the world.

It makes you more able to retreat in the face of malice, and also gives you more confidence to complete what you want to do.

Master Carnegie proposed 3 ways to get women to become confident (both men and women):

1. Refuse to measure your own value by the eyes of others

A thousand people have a thousand thoughts, and one of them thinks you're not good, that's all too normal.

How can we possibly be recognized by the whole world? Even the best people will be hated, and there will be bad comments under the news of the goddess Lin Chiling.

Living in the judgment of others, you will be very hard.

Carnegie suggested that women:

"Each of us is not living for others, but you have to live for yourself, live out your own value, so that you can gain self-confidence." 」

Unless living for others is your dream, like Momoe Yamaguchi wrote about in recent days, her dream is to build a happy family, she gave up the highest fame and fortune at her fingertips, and took up the identity of a housewife, for her, this is happiness.

Don't measure your life by other people's standards, as long as it doesn't affect others, you can have your own unique way of living.

Just like some people like to look around the world and don't want to start a family and have children, then why not? He knew that if he had a family, he couldn't walk on his stomach, so he chose to be single, and I think it was also very good.

Don't criticize people who don't want to get married just because you chose to start a family, and don't be bothered by the unique choices you made.

This choice will make you a very special person, you are a unique being, whether good or bad, it is your life.

Others are better off than you, we bless him, others are worse off than you, and you can't look down on him.

2. Appreciate yourself and accept your shortcomings

Carnegie advised women to learn to appreciate themselves and embrace their flaws.

It is not that you lower your standards to live a life, but to accept that there is no perfect person in the world, and you cannot demand that yourself or others be perfect.

What you think of as a disadvantage, may be an advantage, is that everything is one and the same.

You are more cautious and cautious, and others find you difficult to get along with, but you have fewer chances of making mistakes.

You have high requirements for hygiene, the proportion of things that are not clean is low, you have always been very concerned about the preservation of items, and once you pour out something, you can't return to the body, because it may have been stained with dirty things.

But people around me may not have this habit, and will put back the extra upside down, and if that thing is shared by us, I will stop it.

The other person may think I'm a jerk, but it's my way of protecting myself, and he doesn't think it matters, but I know it will have an impact.

It's my weakness for him, and caution is my strength for me, so do I feel bad about his reaction? Why lower your own standards because of others?

But can't I have a little bit of negative emotions or thoughts? Of course I can, and I will accept my own negativity.

3. Recognize yourself

Carnegie suggested that we should fully understand ourselves, and then control our lives, believe that we are capable and valuable, and accept that we have shortcomings.

When you clearly understand your strengths and weaknesses, you will not be so easily influenced by others.

If you don't have that merit, and people still praise you, you will know that this person is insincere, untrustworthy, and will not be overwhelmed by this.

You know that you are good, and you are not afraid of criticism from the world, just like Baihui withdrew from the show business at the age of 21 under pressure, she clearly knew what she lacked in her heart, and the warm family life could make her happy, so she made this choice.

After understanding yourself, you can distinguish between priority and priority, so that you will not live to the end of the world, and finally get an unwanted result.

Some people pursue fame all their lives, money, family can be abandoned, and finally get a moment of fame, nothing else, no money, no affection, nothing around, this is still what he wants?

We always have something that we must not give up, that is, the most important thing for you, to live with it as the core, in order to live like yourself and gain self-confidence.