Many people think that love is the right of young people, but in fact, it is not, and today's elderly marriage market is also in full swing.
With the opening of people's minds, some elderly people who unfortunately encounter divorce in the middle of life, or whose wives leave them first, are afraid that they will be too lonely in their later years, or there is no one around to take care of themselves, so they have the idea of remarriing.
However, the word remarriage is easy to say, but it is not so simple to actually implement.
Older people remarrying is not like young people, it is just a matter of two people. Most older people have children of their own and have to take their opinions into account when they remarry.
There are many people who talk a lot, and there is no guarantee that everyone's thinking is the same, and it is precisely because of this that the needs of the elderly to remarry, although not small, are full of contradictions.
The neighbor's 58-year-old aunt had such a problem.
The aunt divorced in her forties, and her ex-husband was an unlearned man, not only did not work hard to earn money to support the family, but also betrayed the marriage, and the aunt divorced in anger.
After the divorce, she single-handedly offered her son to college graduation and married them separately. The house price was too high for her son to buy a house, so she reinstalled the only house in the family as a marriage house, and the younger family lived.
Although her son and daughter-in-law blindly advised her aunt to live together, she refused, saying that she was older and was not used to living with her children, and renting a small single room was enough.
She has an open-minded personality, loves to talk and laugh, and has not been idle after retirement, and has been doing the work of a nanny, helping anyone with children, or which old man can't move in bed, she also took over to take care of it.
Don't underestimate the work of the aunt, who earns about 6,000 yuan a month. She said that while she could still move, she would save some pension money for herself, and not wait until she was sick in the future to add a burden to her children.
However, Uncle Zhang, an employer that the aunt took over this time, because of her clean and neat, meticulous work, and diligent people, she could still sit with the uncle and chat with her when the work was finished, and she had the idea of marrying her aunt.
Uncle is a retired cadre, with a salary of almost seven or eight thousand, living alone in a three-bedroom apartment, and savings, and his son and daughter have their own houses.
It seemed that the uncle's conditions were quite good, but when he expressed his thoughts, the aunt refused.
She said: "Although I have no money and no house, I will not marry again. When I was young, I thought that I would get married with a man, thinking that I could hold hands for a lifetime. I took care of the home and children like a nanny, but he betrayed me.
Now that the children are married, I don't have much of a burden. Idle at home is also idle, it is better to come out and earn some pension money, at least the rest of your life is a guarantee.
Although Uncle Zhang's conditions are very good, after marrying him, it means that I have no income and no financial resources. If he can really treat me well and not let me suffer for the rest of my life, this is my luck.
However, I dare not rush to make this bet, after all, I have suffered losses from men, they did not get you before the set, after getting another set. Especially the remarriage of the elderly, there are also the opinions of the other party's children.
If unfortunate, I would most likely become a free au pair. In case the other party comes to himself, then his children have nothing to do with me, which means that I will end up in vain for his pension, but nothing will fall. ”
Auntie's words sound realistic, but they are also indisputable facts.
Many elderly people who remarry may encounter this problem. People with good conditions find a general condition, nothing more than the other party can take care of themselves, then the poor conditions to find good conditions, the figure is also economic security.
If these two requirements of both parties cannot be met, then the purpose of remarriage cannot be achieved, and it is estimated that they will be embarrassed to get along. Instead of turning the other cheek at that time, the damage has already been done.
In particular, some elderly people who are nannies have developed feelings with their employers, from taking care of each other with a salary, to living with each other or getting married with a license, and eventually becoming a free nanny.
If the other party has feelings and righteousness, there is nothing wrong with it, in case it is just calculated by the other party and wants to enjoy being taken care of in vain, or the other party's children do not agree to the marriage between the two, the marriage certificate cannot be obtained, and it is likely that the chicken and egg will eventually be beaten.
It has to be said that the marriage market for the elderly is much more complicated than that of young people, because there are too many interests involved.
After all, at this age, it is difficult to say that you only talk about feelings, you pay sincerely, and maybe the other party only thinks of interests.
There are too many examples in reality, and some of the elderly who choose to live together are afraid that the calculations are more than true feelings. Men may want to be taken care of in vain, and women may want to get financial convenience from it.
Even if some elderly people really want to find a wife who can stay for life, it is still very difficult.
Because, although your children have already established a family and moved out to live their own little lives, they will also consider your remarriage from many aspects.
One is whether the benefits they may receive in the future will be lost; the other is whether the partner you are looking for is just an attempt to plot your property. Both of these points are very realistic and unavoidable points.
There are many elderly people in life, both sides have a sincere attitude, want to accompany each other together, spend the rest of their lives, but in the end, because of the opinions of their children, so that they will fly apart.
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