There is no way, do not handle the relationship with colleagues, nothing more than less contact with each other after work or no contact, and, for the sake of "face", many people will be more or less scrupulous. But if you don't handle the relationship with the leader well, hehe, wait to be worn in small shoes.
The relationship with the leader should be avoided the following two.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="44" > dangerous relationship one: ambiguity</h1>
Although "ambiguity" can be interpreted as a special relationship between men and women that transcend friendship but are not lovers, I would like to use the meaning of "vague" here.
The basis of our relationship with the leader is work, that is to say, the cooperative relationship based on work is the right solution, but if we can't figure out our own positioning and understand the core of the relationship, it will definitely be us who will be hurt in the end.
There are really such people who do not have long brains, especially the little cute people who go out of the school and enter the unit, who have not been beaten by society, do not know the depth of the puddle, are praised by people for two sentences, send some "ambiguous" words, and they are fluttering, thinking how different they are, they are the chosen sons of "the sky will descend on the big task", which can make the middle-level or even higher-level leaders of those units look at her differently.
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At work, there are so many people who see each other and hate late, and it is difficult to find a voice! It's all routines, full of routines!
Don't think that there will be no "ambiguous" relationship between gay men and male leaders.
Some leaders like to make promises, but some people like to listen to promises that cannot be touched in the eyes of the clouds. If those who promise have more or less permission in their hands, those people are really willing to run east and west with the promisee, "love is stronger than gold."
He does what the other party wants to do but dare not do; he does what the other party can do but does not want to do; he conveys the other party's unspoken meaning.
In fact, if you think about it, what kind of brilliant future can the other party promise you, and is it worth paying so bottomlessly for the other party?
In the long run, there are only three final results, either hello, me, everyone, everything is fine; or a nest of adultery; or someone is wise to protect himself, and someone retires from office.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="43" > dangerous relationship two: opposites</h1>
I often hear colleagues around me complain about their supervisors, saying that they are acting in a posture or blindly pretending to be high. Even myself was not very satisfied with my own leadership, feeling that the other party was not responsible enough and did not have enough courage.
But all these dissatisfactions are only private complaints or complaints, and never go on the "opposite" side - because they are dissatisfied with a certain point or point of dissatisfaction with the leadership, until they see that the other party is not going well anywhere.
This is really unbelievable!
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Once the "opposite" relationship is established, where do the two sides find the balance of the relationship and where to seek opportunities for cooperation?
For leaders, they can be leaders in this unit, and they can also be used in another unit; subordinates are not smooth to use, and they are required to be allocated. But for us, before we enter the leadership position, we do not have the ability or even the qualifications to sing with our superiors - our luck is often not in our own hands.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > only relationship: cooperation</h1>
As mentioned above, between us little soldiers and the leaders, we cannot engage in ambiguity or confrontation, and the only relationship is cooperation.
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In the process of cooperation, mutual achievement, this is the most ideal state, but also the most suitable for personal interests of the solution.
I have been employed for more than ten years, and I have seen more "divisions and combinations" between subordinates and leaders, and between them, there will be no real friendship or lifelong friendship, only mutual constant temptation, perfunctory or cooperation. Because both sides understand that "iron camp and flowing officials", all kinds of leaders are like leeks to be cut, stubble after stubble.
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