"Wolf Disco" has been popular for a year. In the past year, Gem, known as "Uncle", has appeared on the stage of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, becoming a regular guest of major evenings, participating in public welfare activities such as "Believe in the Future" during the epidemic, and constantly writing songs and sending songs. In the past year, Gem Gem has gradually grown from a rap musician who drove a ride-hailing car and sold faucets to a qualified artist, but it seems that he has not really adapted to the status of an artist. In full swing on the stage, he showed a hint of restraint at the beginning of this interview.
When talking about whether as a "stalwart youth", whether there was ever a sense of pressure, Gem Gem really began to open the conversation box: "For example, sitting in front of the camera, I have been anxious, afraid of timidity, and can't answer questions well. "I was still whirling the details of other work, such as recording and writing songs. This, he thought, is probably the norm for an adult.
Whether it is gem Gem or actor Wang Ning, there is no doubt that they are typical "backbone youths", fading the appearance of stardom, and their "confusion" and "gain" are also felt by the general public at the same stage. From the perspective of age, they are "post-75s" or "post-80s", or even "post-90s", with the embarrassment of a typical "middle generation" - the tide cannot catch up with the back wave, and they cannot catch up with the previous wave; their identities have become complex and diverse, there are old and young, and the responsibilities they bear are becoming heavier and heavier - they are "backbone youths" who are forced to grow up by reality. But they still forge ahead, looking for the truth of life. The steadfastness and love of life brought about by that growth made them firmly believe that they were not the "invisible people" in public opinion - in their own world, they would always stand in the C position.
<h4>▶ Life forces you to mature and learn to "play" every role well</h4>
"When we have more identities, children, husbands/wives, parents, these identities also mean that more responsibility will fall on our shoulders."
Actor Wang Ning has been in the film and television circle for 20 years. He has appeared on the CCTV Spring Festival Gala many times and participated in dozens of film and television works, but the comedy can be a positive drama, and the drama road is wide. As an actor, Wang Ning already has mature acting skills and can instantly capture the most luminous qualities of the character. However, Wang Ning outside the play also has to run a life like a play.
For Wang Ning, who is an only child, the real growth may be when he finds that he has become the pillar of the family. He talked about the time when his father was hospitalized a few years ago, Wang Ning ran forward and ran, "can't think about emotional things", until the moment of his father's death, Wang Ning "realized that his father was gone". The tight tendon suddenly broke.
"That's when I had time to be sad. Because when Dad was in the hospital, you were sad, you fell down, and no one could do the work for you. "Many middle-aged people like Wang Ning, who are stalwart young people, must begin to slowly understand the various tests of death. Each age group will face the corresponding life problems and tests, such as the backbone of the youth, most of them are only children, there are old and young, the family burden is heavy is also a fact that must be faced by themselves, but do not have to be too harsh on themselves, as long as they have exhausted their full strength, so that they have no shame. "When Dad is gone, I will also think that I have done my best to give him everything I can do under the current conditions, and I feel that I have no regrets."
Sandwiched in the middle of this generation, as they enter the society and form a family, they begin to face the transformation of multiple identities and play multiple roles, and when these roles are intertwined, it is inevitable that a lot of trivial things will be spawned, making people have no time to take care of, a little "screwed", and even a little collapsed.
"I was forced by life to mature." Gem Gem, who is also a stalwart youth, joked that as a Cancer man who was "forced to grow up", he learned to be an "actor" in front of his family instead of an actor. After becoming famous, Gem Gem became busy, but even if he was tired from work, when he was out of town, he would immediately show his happiest smile and best state when he was in the field with his family on the video or phone. Because he didn't want the people in his family to worry about himself and show the best side of himself, he called it a "white lie".
<h4>▶ Ignorant teenagers love to join in the fun, but the middle-aged youth enjoy loneliness</h4>
There is no word "easy" in the adult world, on the Internet, there is a very resonant paragraph, many married men, before going home, will be alone in the car for a while, and even enjoy the pleasure of going to the river in the middle of the night to fish. GemGem understands this very well. In his teens and twenties, Gem Gem likes to join in the fun, whether it is a class reunion or an after-school date, Gem Gem will always rush ahead. "But in your thirties, your life is lively enough", Gem Gem said the voices of many 30+ men: children are making trouble, daughters-in-law are "noisy", parents are educating you, and you have to think about how to "cope" with leaders and get along with colleagues... "What to do?" You want to stay on your own for a while. Even if it is only for a short time, it is either to escape, or to relax and sort out your emotions, so that you can better take care of your family. ”
For Wang Ning, it is more like the space where a person is alone and does something he really likes, he said that he is a very lucky person, and it just so happens that his hobby is his career. More well-known as a comedy role, Wang Ning joked that he was a "cold field master" in life. At the dinner table, others love to talk about cars and rooms, these topics, Wang Ning does not care, he loves to talk about drama, but also prefers to immerse himself in the state of pondering drama. Once, Wang Ning was thinking about the drama while walking, completely unaware that in front of him was the fish pond in the hotel lobby, and his feet were hanging above the fish pond, thanks to others pulling him back. But he didn't think there was anything wrong with this, he felt that the middle-aged youth needed to focus more, only concentration could make himself more confident, if there would be some loneliness, then he was willing to enjoy this loneliness.
Wang Ning's comedy film "Warm Hugs" will be released on New Year's Day. More well-known as a comedy role, Wang Ning joked that he was a "cold field master" in life.
<h4>▶ Being needed is a kind of happiness, and I am happy when my family is easy</h4>
Gem, the father and husband, has many times when his life is filled with trivialities. "Screwing" is his norm. He wants to create, to come out to work, to perform, and to think about the end of the work and hurry home to see how the child's test results are this time. He described this kind of "twisting" as tying a lot of buttons to himself, some even dead buttons, self-reconciliation, is the process of unbuttoning one by one.
Gem Gem remembers a New Year's Eve performance, he wanted to perform twice, the child and his wife with him, he thought about taking care of his wife and children after the performance, taking them around the local area. As a result, before he could enjoy the joy after the performance, his parents called, it turned out that the second elder made a little contradiction, "so I have to think about taking care of my wife and children, thinking about work, but also solving my parents' problems, so I have to solve it in an orderly manner," Gem Gem recalled, he enlightened his parents one by one on the phone, returned to the hotel to hug the child, coaxed him to sleep, and then communicated with the staff to work, "so that everyone can rest easily, if I don't do anything, all pile up on myself, The next day I continued to screw it up."
After becoming famous, Gem Gem became busy. The picture shows the Guangzhou youth "War Epidemic" song "Rise" created by Gem Gem, which was staged on the stage of CCTV's May Day Party
Instead of letting yourself fall into a state of "screwing", it is better to focus on the present, one thing at a time to deal with, slowly unbutton one by one, and look back, in fact, these things are nothing. "And it's a real sense of accomplishment to be able to satisfy your family."
Wang Ning also said that being needed by others is a particularly fulfilling thing, maybe it is only a small matter, but why do family members and colleagues come to you? Because of their dependence and trust in you, if you feel that they are important enough to you, you will naturally develop a sense of pride after helping them solve the problem, which is a natural thing.
<h4>▶ Don't ask others, do what you have to do, life will naturally come to embrace you</h4>
At 30+, the two biggest problems faced are that life is difficult on the one hand, and we must be strong on the other. Gem Believes that hardship is the norm in life, and being strong is what people who are really at this age should learn as soon as possible. He likes the harmonic stem of "backbone youth difficult and strong", the image is vivid and appropriate, "difficult" and "strong" are the responsibilities of both sides of the shoulders of "backbone youth", "put two shoulders well, go on with dignity, life will come to embrace you." ”
Gem GEM
In the interview, Wang Ning also shared his own philosophy of life, and he talked several times about the "highest task" when studying acting, such as what is the highest task of this play, as long as it is fixed, it will be done without distraction, and there will always be good results. The same is true in life, when you are wandering in a strange city, the highest task you set may be to make one of the lights in this city shine for you, "then work well, don't be lazy." The highest task is clear, corresponding to the chain of action, step by step step by step, the result is naturally good. But he added: "This is just my philosophy of life, I don't like to preach to others, everyone's life trajectory and experience are different, put on others, not necessarily easy to make, not preach, may be my self-cultivation as a backbone youth."
<h4>▶ The life philosophy of the backbone youth, from another perspective, serious life</h4>
Wang Ning is a person who especially does not like to compete with others, maybe he has a kind of "Buddhism" that is rare among the backbone youth, but he himself said that this is a manifestation of "living seriously from another angle", when you encounter some difficult problems, blindly drilling the horns and tips can not solve the problem, try to jump out of the problem itself, let go of "self-grasping", try to think about this matter from the perspective of others, maybe everything can be solved. Or, try to let yourself work and live in a state of excitement, when you are too tired, you may wish to take a little rest, do some of your favorite things, give yourself enough relaxation and then start, maybe there will be better results.
Gem Gem also appreciates the phrase "live seriously from another angle". He enjoys the moment, including his work and the daily life with his family.
In life, there are many moments worth cherishing, always let us smile, and even feel the beauty of the world, when encountering troubles, may wish to try to change the perspective to see the problem, everything will be solved.
Wang Ning
Gem Gem shared a small story about his son, which made people can't help but be funny at the same time, and even very philosophical. A while ago, when Gem Gem took his son out, he smoked a cigarette, and the son asked him, Daddy, why do you smoke. He didn't think about how to answer this question at that time, so he casually replied, "People are often annoyed, and when they are annoyed, they often smoke." As a result, his son actually asked him if it was the same as "crying" and could not solve any problems. ”
After a while, Gem Gem was addicted to smoking and smoked another one, and the son said, "Look! My dad is 'annoyed' again! ”
Gem Gem lamented that sometimes children can also say very wise and philosophical words, and children always inadvertently make you feel the beauty of the world. As a "backbone youth", instead of complaining that life is not easy and lamenting the passage of time, it is better to seriously feel the small happiness of life.
Whether it is Wang Ning or Gem Gem, as a backbone youth, they are still growing and learning continuously, perhaps these "puzzles" and "gains" will slowly change over time, but they have one thing in common, that is, to enjoy the current life, like their current self, which may also be the experience they most want to share with many "backbone youth", that is, every serious life of us, is the best of themselves.
【Writing】Southern Daily, Nanfang + Beijing correspondent Liu Changxin
【Author】 Liu Changxin
【Source】 Southern Press Media Group South + client
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