Friends who have seen the Dream of the Red Chamber know that Grandma Liu is the character who threads the needle in the whole Dream of the Red Chamber, and through the perspective of Grandma Liu, she takes us to see the scene of the glory and prosperity of the Rongguo Mansion on the surface of the Rongguo Mansion.
She originally guarded two acres of thin fields to live, and there was only one daughter under her knees, because her daughter and son-in-law were busy with their livelihood, so she was taken to her daughter's home to take care of her grandson.
Speaking of how an old woman in a rural area wins the favor of a high-ranking family and lives a well-off life, what places are worth learning from and learning? Let's take a look.
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Because his family was poor and there was no food for the winter, his son-in-law's dog was drunk at home, and Grandma Liu gave him the idea to let him go to Chang'an City to walk around. "The plot is in the people, the success is in the sky, and some opportunities are unknown."
It turned out that this dog's grandfather had once been an official with Feng Jie's grandfather, and both were surnamed Wang, so they were even Zong. By the time the dog father's family business has been depressed, then the dog's life is even more difficult.
Listening to Grandma Liu's words, the dog was a little moved, but both of them couldn't give up their faces, and only pushed Grandma Liu to take her grandson to go. Grandma Liu thought about this situation at home, so she cheekily touched it, even if there was no silver to see the world.
When Grandma Liu went to rongguo mansion, it was difficult to meet the so-called "true Buddha." First he was teased by the janitor, then he asked zhou Rui's family to smile, then he asked Ping'er for peace, and then he waited for a while, so that he could see Sister Feng, and even did not see Madam Wang's face.
Twisting and explaining to Sister Feng, he got twenty-two pieces of silver and went home with a hanging of money, solving the family's economic crisis.
Grandma Liu gave up her face and dared to go out for help, so that the family could get rid of the dilemma of life.
Just as the so-called sacrifice is to have gains, if you always run away in the face of difficulties, complaining about the world, even if others want to help you, you can't catch your hand. Therefore, when encountering difficulties, the degree should take the initiative to find a solution.
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Grandma Liu was able to obtain fengjie's funding, and it was indispensable to the bridge matchmaking of a key person, that is, Madame Wang's companion Zhou Rui's family.
Zhou Rui's wife's companion room is somewhat facetious, first finding Sister Feng's confidant Ping'er to explain the situation of Grandma Liu, and then trying to help Grandma Liu say good things in front of Sister Feng, encouraging her to open her mouth and explain her intentions.
All this Liu Grandma saw in her eyes and remembered it in her heart, so she got Feng Jie's silver, thanked the Zhou Rui family for her kindness and took out a piece of thanks to the Zhou Rui family, although the Zhou Rui family is a slave, but her own family also has hired people to serve, where will this bit of silver be put in the eyes.
But this move to give is very good, proving that there is no white help to help you this person, the so-called "help you is a sentiment, not to help is also a duty."
Whether people accept or not is a matter of others, and whether you give or not is your heart, and let people know that you are not a white-eyed wolf, at least from the heart. This left a good impression on the second transmission of zhou Rui's help later.
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The second time I saw Grandma Liu enter the Rongguo Mansion, according to the previous stereotype, I thought that I had come to fight the autumn wind again. Of course I was narrow-minded.
It turned out that Grandma Liu had brought something to everyone. The vegetables and fruits at home have just been picked, and before they are sold, they will first carry large bags and small bags to Jia Fu for everyone to taste. Those who know rural life know that most farmers who beat rice or fresh fruits, fruits, vegetables and vegetables will first take them to the market for money.
How can such a person who has gained the benefits of others and returned to others within the scope of his own ability not be liked by everyone? Although these melons and fruits are nothing to the Jia family, what is even more rare is this piece of sincere intention.
If the first time I entered the Rongguo Mansion was despised and disrespected by everyone, then this time I should have won the favor of some people. This grandmother is simple and sincere, and everyone has gradually changed their impression of her.
It is also because of Grandma Liu's zhi'en tu that Sister Feng also left her for a night of rest, thinking that the last time she came, she only ate a meal.
In real life, I am also willing to associate with such people, and there is still feedback between people, whether it is money or emotion, people who pay unilaterally will be very tired, and over time they will fade. Therefore, the people who know the gratitude map are more worthy of deep friendship, which can be seen in the whole picture when the Jia family fell later.
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Zhou Rui's family sent a message to Sister Feng that Grandma Liu had come, and it was just overheard by Mother Jia, who was old and wanted to talk to an old man from Jigu, so she asked Grandma Liu to come and meet her.
The next plot is the highlight of Liu Grandma, here we can find that Liu Grandma has a lot of interpersonal wisdom, the most important thing is reflected in her speech, she says different things to everyone, but can make others like her and be willing to communicate with her.
For example, Jia Mu said: "I am old, I am not used, my eyes are flowered, my ears are deaf, and my memory is gone." So as soon as relatives and friends came, I didn't see them, and my daily life was to be able to eat a few bites, sleep, and joke with my grandchildren when I was bored.
Grandma Liu said, "This is exactly the blessing of the old lady." We can't think of it either."
Liu Grandma's words are very good to please Jia Mu, Jia Mu also enjoys such a life of children and grandchildren around the knee, but there is a person who feels completely different when he speaks out of his heart, compared to Liu Grandma, who is a few years older than Jia Mu, a person who asks for help from other families because of hardships has only slightly improved, and it is even more that Jia Mu is indeed blessed.
For another example, Grandma Liu tells stories to everyone (in fact, it is open and closed, hehe). Saying that on a snowy day, someone mysteriously came to steal firewood and grass, and everyone was guessing who this person was, and it turned out to be a beautiful girl of seventeen or eighteen years old. Have you found that Grandma Liu is very powerful and understands the essence of storytelling.
It's as if you're telling a story on it, and the people below are listening intently, either the story is novel, or you have empathy with the characters in the story, and Grandma Liu cleverly uses these two points. Because the room is full of beautiful teenage girls, when it comes to talking about themselves, of course, they will listen carefully.
Unexpectedly, a big fire pulled everyone back from the story to reality. Even if the fire was extinguished in time, most of the people's interest had been lost, and the elderly people were easily superstitious, thinking that it was talking about smoking firewood that caused the fire.
But it doesn't matter, our grandmother will immediately turn the tide, and the second story will come. This time it is about a ninety-year-old grandmother whose grandson died, and later sincerely recited the Buddha and touched Guanyin Bodhisattva, regaining a big fat grandson. It can be seen that there are gods and Buddhas.
This time the story fits the hearts of the two people very well. First of all, Madame Wang, who originally had a very good eldest son, but died young, and later it was difficult to get the treasure jade, so she ate all day and prayed to the Buddha. Madame Wang listened intently, here she should have found a resonance, the death of the eldest son made him sad, and the arrival of Baoyu made her see hope. Grandma Liu's story comforted her. So this is also why When Grandma Liu left, Madame Wang generously gave a hundred taels of silver.
Jia Mu is not to mention, everyone knows that Baoyu was raised in the palm of her hand, and the new grandson in the story is not Baoyu. The most important thing is that it also talks about the old man in his nineties, when Jia Mu was only in his early seventies, and if he could live to more than ninety years, he would be a long life.
Of course, there are many, many more fragments such as these, so I will not list them here. Interested partners can go and look at it thirty-nine to forty-one times.
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"Old Liu, old Liu, the amount of food is as big as an ox, eating an old sow does not look up", most people who have seen the dream of the Red Chamber know that this is our grandmother's famous golden sentence, which makes everyone laugh and diverg.
There is also Feng Jie who teases Grandma with gold chopsticks and silver chopsticks, causing Grandma to be unable to pick up vegetables and simply use her hands. Sister Feng said: "Silver chopsticks are good, if the dish is poisonous, you can still try it." Grandma Liu said, "If this dish is poisonous, then our dish has become arsenic." Even if you are poisoned, you will eat it all."
Originally, Sister Feng said that testing poison is actually a more sensitive and serious thing, but when it came to our grandmother, she directly changed the style, which not only eased the atmosphere but also achieved the effect of praise.
Sister Feng dressed Grandma Liu and planted a flower on her side. The crowd laughed uncontrollably. Grandma Liu smiled and said, "I don't know what blessings I have cultivated, but I am so decent today!" Everyone laughed and said, "You didn't pull it out and fall on his face, and you dressed up as an old goblin!" ”。 Grandma Liu smiled: "Although I am old, when I was young, I was also affectionate, and I love a flower powder, and it is better to be an old person today."
If you change a narrow-minded person, you don't know how many times you have been angry. It can be seen that this old lady is really wise, and through such jokes, she not only brought joy to others but also successfully resolved her own situation, and smoothly integrated into the big group of Jia Fu. It has become a source of happiness for everyone. It's hard for such a grandmother not to circle the fans!
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When we saw Grandma Liu enter jia mansion for the first time, she was very cautious and afraid of making a mistake, but slowly you will find that her ability to integrate into the environment is very strong.
Jia Mu took her around the garden, and she had to walk around generously, and she also commented that this garden was ten times stronger than the New Year painting. Jia Mu then asked Xi Chun, who could paint, to paint one for her to take home.
Later, all the way to the garden also went to the house of several protagonists to rest in the middle, Grandma also expressed her feelings about their respective houses, saying that the things in the room had to be seen, the more they looked, the more reluctant to leave, this has gradually relaxed like a guest at the home of relatives and friends, no longer have the restraint in front, and then the back actually carried out the liquor order, and the catchy is very suitable, and the previous cautious grandmother judged the two. In the end, he was also drunk and robbed Baoyu's house.
All this shows that the old man's ability to adapt is extraordinary, and only those who are accustomed to the environment will relax and then show the best state. If we go to an unfamiliar place and have the ability to adapt quickly, it will definitely be more convenient to do things.
Sure enough, Grandma Liu did win unanimous praise from all over Jia Fu with her own wisdom, and the smile on her face when she thought of her was unstoppable.
The second time I entered Jia Mansion, I did get a lot of silver and things to go home, and from the fact that I sold the field property and family goods because I rescued Sister Feng's daughter QiaoJie, it seemed that Liu Grandma's family had actually lived a well-off life.
From the family can not open the pot to a well-off life, completely rely on others to fund, I think it is still impossible to achieve, after all, others can help for a while can not help a lifetime, the most important thing is to rely on their own business.
Grandma, who has so many excellent qualities, I believe that her wisdom in life is enough to make her live her life better and better.
Being able to play a bad hand so wonderfully, the wisdom of Grandma is worth learning.
I haven't observed enough, you can read the original text carefully if you like it.
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