I don't know when it began, a popular word on the Internet began: "chicken baby education", which means that parents give their children "chicken blood" in order to make their children read good books and get good grades, and constantly let their children work hard and study hard.
So the child has prenatal education from the beginning of birth, there is early education after birth, and after going to primary school, in addition to the learning tasks stipulated by the school, the child also has endless tutoring classes and interest classes, and the pressure can be imagined.
In this regard, in July 2021, the General Office of the Central Committee and the General Office of the State Council issued the Opinions on Further Reducing the Homework Burden and Off-campus Training Burden of Students in the Compulsory Education Stage, which clearly proposed the "double reduction" policy.
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In simple terms, the total amount of student homework is comprehensively reduced, the first and second grades of primary schools do not assign home written homework, the average completion time of written homework in the third and sixth grades of primary schools cannot exceed 60 minutes, and the completion time of written homework for junior high school students does not exceed 90 minutes, and it is strictly forbidden to require parents to correct homework.
Once the double reduction policy was introduced, it was generally recognized and supported by the society, but there were also some discordant voices.
Some time ago, a mother from Guiyang, Guizhou Province, angrily exposed such a thing.
The mother has a daughter, 7 years old and just entered the first grade of primary school, everything was going well, but one day the daughter suddenly came home and said to her mother that she did not want to go to school, because she was unhappy at school, and her classmates all ignored her.
What are the reasons for school violence in schools for children as young as 7 years old?
The reason for the matter is actually very simple, because the daughter's class has a "very responsible" class teacher, although the double reduction policy clearly proposes that the first and second grades of primary school do not assign homework and do not take exams. But in order to improve students' academic performance, the teacher still hopes to bypass the policy and assign homework to the children.
The class teacher then came up with a way to communicate with the parents in advance, hoping that the parents would sign and agree to their own practices so that they would not be reported. The mother, who hoped to give her children a happy childhood, rejected the teacher's proposal in the parent group, and said that other parents have the right to agree, and they also have the right to disagree.
Maybe other parents are "chicken babies", maybe it is the lack of communication with the teacher, in short, because of the mother's opposition, the teacher's "new deal" can not be smoothly implemented, and the little girl is unanimously excluded by her classmates in school.
What made the mother even more dissatisfied was that the families of the other 37 students then set up a parent group without the mother, and jointly petitioned the school, hoping that the 7-year-old girl could voluntarily withdraw or transfer the school.
It is said that women are weak, for the mother is strong, this mother heard her daughter's words, the heart is angry and distressed daughter, the little age because of their own "chicken baby", in the school was excluded, resulting in the little girl to have a shadow on school.
So the mother chose to fight to the end, and finally the education department also intervened to investigate the matter.
The follow-up to the story is: the teacher was dismissed for announcing the ranking of test results, missing questions before the exam, receiving gifts from the parents' committee and many other violations, and the 7-year-old girl finally transferred to a school smoothly, but the scars on the little girl's heart need time to heal.
In fact, looking at this matter, in addition to the improper practices of teachers, what is missing is the mutual understanding between parents and teachers, and timely and effective communication.
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1. Parents take the initiative to communicate
Parents only need to face one or two children, but the teacher is facing thirty or forty, or even fifty or sixty students, after all, the teacher has limited energy and cannot do everything, so parents should take the initiative to communicate with the teacher, timely understand the child's situation in school, and cooperate with the teacher's work.
2. Control the frequency and time of communication
It is good for parents to take the initiative to communicate with teachers, but also pay attention to controlling frequency and time, otherwise if all parents contact teachers frequently, teachers will not have to rest. Parents can control 2-3 times a semester, each time the process is as concise as possible, but it takes up more of the teacher's rest time.
3. Mutual trust and respect
The most important thing in communication between people is trust and respect, no matter how high the parents' academic qualifications and status, the teacher is professional in education, parents should give the teacher full trust and basic respect, even if there is a doubt about the teacher, we must try to avoid child communication, and can not question the teacher in front of the child.
4. Objectively recognize children
When many parents face their children's problems, their first reaction is that my child is not wrong, but in fact, only parents who objectively recognize the advantages and disadvantages of their children can educate their children with teachers.
Parents need to recognize their children's shortcomings and work with teachers to help their children correct them, rather than blindly beautifying their children's shortcomings. In addition, do not expect too much from the child, even if the child is already very good, or feel that the child is not as good as "someone else's child".
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