Text/Jiang Wanyu
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When many people talk about efficiency, they talk about a natural enemy - the comfort zone.
Everyone has their own comfort zone and you will feel comfortable doing anything in this mode. So there is invisibly a kind of resistance that prevents us from stepping out of the comfort zone, and many behaviors outside the comfort zone will make us feel very uncomfortable and difficult to adapt.
Therefore, challenging the comfort zone has become an inevitable choice for change and progress. Excellent people are often good at stepping out of their comfort zone and constantly expanding their comfort zone, so they can be so powerful, and Dong Qing is like this.
This is inextricably linked to Dong Qing's family background.
Dong Qing's father was a college student who came out of the countryside and served as the editor-in-chief of a newspaper after graduating from Fudan University, which can be said to be a typical example of "knowledge changing destiny". Because of his own experience, my father believed that a person's fate should also be in his own hands, how far he could go and what kind of life he could live, all depending on how hard he could work.
Therefore, when she was young, Dong Qing was always strictly taught by her father, who constantly forced her to step out of her comfort zone, do things that she might not like so much, meet the harsh challenges, and then gradually adapt. This habit of extending the comfort zone is what Dong Qing has developed since childhood.
Who doesn't like to stay in a comfortable environment, go to bed late and get up late every day, and spend the day leisurely? Who doesn't like to live a lazy life, but to work hard? But Dong Qing was not allowed to be lazy since childhood.
She had to get up early every day, run a kilometer first, and then start learning. Usually, the work of washing dishes and wiping the floor at home is covered by Dong Qing, and his father believes that labor can make Dong Qing learn self-care and self-discipline.
Dong Qing looks beautiful, generally speaking, her daughter looks good, and her parents are always more proud, but Dong Qing's father does not want her to be proud of it.
The beauty of the skin cannot represent everything, and if a person wants to be independent and self-reliant and grasp the fate, he must have the ability to stand. Until then, paying too much attention to appearance may not be a good thing.
In order to let Dong Qing put all his energy on the improvement of connotation, his father not only did not like to praise her, but also liked to hit her appearance.
He often told Dong Qing that her appearance was as ordinary as a potato, and no matter how she dressed, she was just a potato.
Therefore, Dong Qing even feels a little inferior because of her appearance, which makes her shift all her attention to appearance to the internal improvement, just as her father hoped. Instead of spending time on self-appreciation and self-indulgence, she spends that time reading, copying classical poetry, and desperately enriching her spirit.
When she was young, Dong Qing did not understand why she had to work so hard than others, nor did she understand her father's high-pressure management of herself. But when she grew up, she said, "My father is right."
If a person stays in a comfortable environment forever, he will never be willing to take a step to withstand the wind and rain, and he will not be able to grow. It is precisely because she has always climbed in an environment that she is not suitable for that she can go so far.
In an interview, Dong Qing said: "No one can be born as if he were a determined revolutionary, and everyone grew up from such a delicate age: willful, lazy, fond of pleasure, fond of beautiful things, liked to be hurt, pampered... But I don't know when I started, I slowly became more and more determined, willing to endure hardships, willing to fight under pressure, and exercise my ability to resist pressure. ”
Growth is like that. In fact, she used to be an ordinary face, an ordinary girl, and she did not become excellent, self-disciplined, and intelligent at the beginning. But for a long time, when you are still hiding in your comfort zone and looking in place, she has gone far into the distance that we can't see.
Speaking of her own changes, Dong Qing said that it is because she always remembers that "people should rely on themselves."
No one can stay in a safe zone forever and not think ahead, because there is no eternal security. If a person wants to stand firm, he should not rely on a safe environment, but always rely on himself. It is precisely this thought that forces her to keep moving forward, constantly changing, always soaring in the wider world, and winning refuge on her own.
You should also know that this is true of each of us, parents, couples, children... No one can rely on forever, parents will eventually grow old, lovers may face separation, children have their own lives, and you can only rely on yourself.
And past efforts cannot protect you forever. If a person does not want to make progress, but only wants to use old ideas and old abilities to live for a lifetime, he will eventually be abandoned by the times.
You see, the Internet a few decades ago is still a new thing, and now it has become an indispensable part of life, if you have been sticking to the old ideas, no learning or understanding of new things, it is difficult to even go out now.
The world is changing, and we feel this clearly like never before. Therefore, we are also facing unprecedented challenges, we must always move forward, and go faster, faster, so as not to be abandoned by the times. Following the changes in the world, constantly meeting challenges and being exposed to new things has become an inevitability.
This makes us have to always step out of our comfort zone.
Many people are reluctant to take the initiative to step out of their comfort zone, because most of the time it means "asking for trouble". For a person with poor language skills, asking him to learn a foreign language is pushing him out of his comfort zone, and every minute of learning will make him feel tormented. However, the person is very adaptable, he can eventually adapt to such a rhythm, and this is the manifestation of the subtly expanding the comfort zone.
Eventually, he will learn a foreign language well, and even experience the fun of it, at which point learning a foreign language will be included in his comfort zone. If we can always stand on the edge of the comfort zone to expand it, maybe it will be uncomfortable at first, but looking back, we will find that we have overcome all kinds of difficulties, and most things are difficult for us.
That's what it's like to step out of your comfort zone. It allows us to reach out more, to endure more in the storm, and to grow into more inclusive people, which is what growth means.
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