As the saying goes, "Marry a wife and don't marry a pastoral woman."
Pastoral feminism, the Internet buzzword, the abbreviation of "Chinese pastoral feminism", refers to the group that requires equality between men and women but requires men to bear the main responsibility, and pursues the maximization of women's benefits under the pretext of feminism.
Pastoral feminism generally refers to a kind of "unilateral, self-interested" feminism, which runs counter to the goal of achieving equal rights for men and women.
The term "Chinese pastoral feminism" itself constitutes a kind of teasing of feminism because it forms a semantic association with words such as "Chinese pastoral dog".
Many of the statements in the name of feminism deviate from what the feminist movement hopes to achieve, and there is a real stigma against the overall meaning of feminism.
The ancients believed that marriage pays attention to "the door to the door".
The old point of the social and political status and economic status of the families of both men and women are comparable, and it is suitable for intermarriage and marriage, from the "West Chamber".
In ancient times, the hierarchy of different levels of household doors was very strict.
Architecturally, it is part of the "door pillow stone", commonly known as the door pier, also known as the door seat, the door platform, the door drum, and the stone drum for the drum stone.
Because the drum is loud and majestic, as strong as thunder, people think that it can avoid ghosts and respect, and the people believe that they can avoid evil, so the folk widely use door pillow stones to replace "door dang".
Household pair refers to the brick carving or wood carving used to fix the door frame on the lintel, because it is an even number, so it is called "household pair".
"Household pairs" are usually cylindrical or square, each about 30 cm long, parallel to the ground.
The cross-section of the "household pair" is engraved with patterns, because they protrude from the eaves to resemble the hairpins on the heads of ancient women, so they are often called "door hairpins".
The number of "household pairs" is directly proportional to the wealth of the host family.
Door-to-door pairing refers to the status and wealth of the families of both men and women, which is suitable for marriage.
Pre-Qin Confucius's Analects of Wei Linggong: "The Tao is different and does not conspire with each other. ”
Confucius said: "We must not conspire with each other if we have different ideas and propositions." "The Word, the meaning of keeping promises; the meaning of conspiracy, the meaning of the person who associates."
With different ambitions, we can't plan and work together.
In other words, the truly tacit cooperation should be based on a common ideological foundation and goal of struggle, and breathe and share a common destiny.
"Walking with the King, the road is far away."
Whoever keeps his promise can associate with him, discuss things with him, be friends with him, walk together, and say happily: "Walk with you, no matter how far the road is, you can't feel it." ”
The door is right, and a new meaning is derived, and the two parties to the marriage, their respective families are on a par with each other in terms of social status, economic strength and professional situation.
There are also clouds in ancient times: "Things are clustered in groups, and people are divided into groups." ", then with "near Zhu is red, near ink is black".
As the old saying goes, "The same thing or the same people always come together." ”
Roughly the meaning is the same, this is seen from a static eye, if viewed with a dynamic eye, there is a saying that "close to the good people become good, close to the bad people become bad".
There are no immutable principles and forms of things, and the things in the world, the qualities of people, cannot be distinguished by good and bad.
People are the product of the environment, the same growth environment, the husband and wife way of thinking, behavior mode must also be compatible, in order to go long.
Zi Yue: "If you are a threesome, you will have my teacher." Choose what is good and follow it, and change it from the bad. ”
Confucius said: "Three people walk together, and one of them must be able to be a teacher worthy of my learning." I choose his strengths and study them, and if I find his shortcomings, I take them as a warning and correct them. ”
Xun Quan also said: "When you see a person of high moral character, you think of being the same as him, and when you see a person with poor moral character, you reflect on yourself (don't be like him)." ”
The role of a friend is a mirror, use it as a reference, to observe yourself, to speak carefully and act cautiously, to reflect on yourself many times a day, and you will make progress.
The idea of the same is not spiritual intercourse, but the communion with what they each need.
People are not born with the same ambition, but caused by later causes, why?
Looking back at what is "pastoral woman", pastoral woman is a popular Internet word recently, and marrying a wife without marrying a pastoral woman is also a recent colloquialism.
When the portal is equal, the material basis of man is formed; the qualities of man are formed when taught by parents and teachers, and the words and deeds and practices of friends are formed.
If there are many people who have a lot of love, they will also do good things, and those who have a bad quality of communication will also do bad things, and it can also be said that people who teach him good things will become good, and people who teach him bad things will become bad.
Pastoral women refer to those women with average birth conditions, average abilities, and even average appearance.
The pastoral woman itself has no pejorative component, it is only a concrete reflection of the current situation of society.
They are extremely demanding and very demanding about mate selection. Many people are keen to escape from reality and not face it.
People who think differently will never work with him.
Communicating with such a person is like playing the piano to a cow, even if he is very sincere, he cannot be understood, and even if he is righteous, he cannot move us.
Huge estrangement runs through the heart, there is no common language in speaking, there is no same place in doing things, it is not my kind, the thinking must be different from mine, so I cannot work with it.
The mate selection criterion of "pastoral girl" is "tall, rich, handsome", which corresponds to another Internet popular phrase, "You are responsible for making money to support your family, and I am responsible for beautiful flowers." ", the man is used as a "cash machine" and a "long-term meal ticket".
Man's character is formed when he becomes an adult, and by observing the impermanence of life, the unpredictability of the human heart, the great calamities, and the great sorrows and joys, he knows the good or bad of the world and the elusiveness of the human heart.
As the saying goes: "If you eat bitterly, you will be a good person." ”
The so-called "superior person" is not an ordinary utilitarian idea; it means that he can be more open-minded and open-minded than ordinary people in life, have a far-sighted vision, and can do things with ease and gain the respect and love of others.
Let him suffer, people become strong, but also have the psychology of guarding against others, so the mentality can be stable.
Therefore, there is a basis for man's cautious words and deeds.
The three views are not in harmony, going to go their separate ways, and two people who are not on the same channel are sometimes really difficult to get along.
Pastoral women, without princess life, have long developed princess disease.