Speaking well is a strength. And to obtain this power requires wisdom and experience.
On April 20th, the cultural brand "Citizen Culture Living Room", jointly created by Shanghai Poster Industry Group and its listed company Xinhua Media, held the 5th event at Xinhua Bookstore Xuhui Riyueguang Store: "Talk to You, Talk to the Magic". The event was led by Xia Lei, author of the book "Little Orator" and former SMG host.
Xia Lei, a former news anchor at Shanghai Television, is a well-known "news veteran" in Shanghai. He laughed and said that he had loved "nonsense" since he was a child, and could not repeat a sentence in its entirety, such as the teacher asked him to read "Nightfall, stars come out", he would read "Nightfall, stars come out, chickens are also called". In the long run, he developed the habit of speaking without reading the manuscript, and playing freely on the stage according to imagination, and his yearning for the host was also buried in his heart.
Today, Xia Lei has left the position of news host, and at the lecture site, he shares with the children the "magic of speaking" accumulated over the past 20 years, in his view, the essence of speech has always been "words for the voice of the heart, confident expression".
Xia Lei
Coexist with fear
"Do you feel nervous when you speak?"
In the face of questions from the audience, Xia Lei frankly said: "A good speaker cannot overcome fear one hundred percent, and more importantly, coexist with fear." ”
Fear, he mentioned, is an emotion written in the human genome. Tension can get people to secrete adrenaline and boost their spirits, but when tension reaches a certain level, people may have cold hands and feet and incoherent speech, which will affect expression. The difference between a good speaker and a normal person is that they can control this emotion.
How to overcome tension? Xia Lei made three suggestions: take a deep breath, warm up, and quiet field. In his opinion, deep breathing can increase the oxygen content in the blood in the brain, warming up can make the blood flow smoother, and all the speakers and artists who appear alone need to be quiet before taking the stage, and after half an hour of silence, they can ignite themselves.
In addition to nervousness, the speakers are most worried about the cold field, forgetting words and other issues, Xia Lei also answered one by one at the lecture site. "Humor is the best way to defuse a cold scene." For example, Xia Lei, who is about 1 meter 7 tall, always laughs at himself in the face of obvious height differences when he partners with a female host who wears high heels, "The only thing I can do today is to pursue the height of the soul", such humor can resolve embarrassment.
He suggested that the speech could be written in an outline format, listing key points, and allowing the speaker to play freely on the stage in order, rather than prescribing it in a strict form, so as to avoid forgetting words. In his eyes, the real speaker does not disrupt the rhythm, but Tarzan collapses in front of him and does not change color, and only by maintaining complete concentration and calmness can he complete the most wonderful speech.
Have the courage to say how you really feel
"In Traditional Chinese culture, there are such sayings as 'too much is lost, silence is gold, the gun shoots the head bird, and the wood show will be destroyed by the forest wind', and Confucian culture is more subtle, and I don't want to express too much." Xia Lei said, "But now China has become an international stage, whether it is communication with others or cooperation, it needs language, and language is the boundary of thought." ”
When he visited the school, he found that the biggest problem of today's children is the lack of true self-expression. He once heard a principal tell a story: in the entrance interview, a girl answered like a stream, full of confidence, and finally, the teachers no longer asked questions, but asked her to ask a question, the girl's face suddenly gushed out two tears, she said: "I have prepared so much, how can I ask questions?" ”
"If there were no problems, even if Newton's apple hit the head, there would be no result." Xia Lei said. In his view, children should not be bound by the same standard answers, but should have independent thoughts and self-opinions.
A parent once told him that there was a fill-in-the-blank problem in the school, and the first half of the sentence was "Autumn is coming, the leaves are fluttering", and asked to complete the second half of the sentence. The child wrote," the child wrote, "Autumn has arrived, and the leaves are fluttering, like a rural word." After being deducted points by the teacher, the parents asked the child why he wrote this, and the child said: "The rural characters are a skim plus a stroke, just like a leaf falling." ”
In Xia Lei's view, this is the answer that belongs to the child full of spirituality and sincerity. He recently read a poem written by children: "The wind burns a hole in the night, the lamp burns a hole in the night, and everyone will be sad; when we are happy we will fly, and only by doing sad things will I fall to the ground." "I can't help but feel the infinite beauty and freshness of the children."
"Who says that fallen leaves can't fly like the country word?" Standard answers will always limit us. Xia Lei said that if children want to be "little orators", they must speak their own words, and the exit is the article, and there is a sound on the ground.
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