People fight for a breath, Buddhas fight for incense, rather than be ashamed of their bones. Face is the Chinese's top priority.
Chinese society is a society full of human feelings, and face can basically be interpreted as the social influence of Chinese.
If you exaggerate a person's face, you are praising his influence, and the size of the face also directly reflects a person's ability, achievement, and status.
If a person wants to survive and gain a foothold in society, he must rely on others to determine. "Face" best embodies this spirit, and thus becomes the core content of various social relations Chinese.
Therefore, saving face has evolved into the top priority of our daily lives. The head can be broken, the blood can flow, and the face cannot be lost.
It can be said that we have the best face, and we are the most tired of face. Face eventually became a shackle that bound our words and deeds.
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As the saying goes, to die is to suffer with face. Living for face, dying for face, ruining a life for face, but it is a true portrayal of countless people.
In the late Qing Dynasty, in order to gain greater benefits in China, foreigners always went to the Prime Minister Yamen to "visit", and the ministers of the Prime Minister Yamen did not dare to offend the foreigners, and basically agreed.
However, when the foreigners are sent away, they are sent out from the side door and the foreigners are not allowed to go through the main entrance, so that the foreigners are considered to have no face.
Foreigners have no face, Chinese naturally have face, and they earn it. In this way, the ministers felt that they had face at the same time, and at the same time, they also raised the prestige of the country.
This logic is almost absurd. Even the inside is gone, where do you get the qualifications to face!
People live, sometimes they just wander between the inside and the face. Inside and face are two parts of our lives, we can't be outside of these two, but how to deal with the relationship between the two.
In the final analysis, the inside is for oneself, and the face is for others. No matter how good the face is, in the end, it comes down to the inside.
Yi Shu wrote in "The First Half of My Life": "Face is the most difficult thing for people to put down, and it is also the most useless thing." ”
Chinese like to pay attention to "face" and "lizi", if face is respect, then lizi is strength.
When you put down your face, focus on improving your strength, and do a good job, the face will naturally return to you, and you can't shake it off.
Face is always the foil of The Inside, and the Inside is the real source of face.
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Every time I mention "face", the first thing that comes to mind is Han Xin.
The "Chronicle of the Chronicle of the Marquis of Zhuanyin" records that there were insulting believers in the Huaiyin Massacre.
A: If you grow up, you will bring a sword, and you will be timid. The Word of All Insults: Faith Can Die, Stab Me! Can't die, out of my crotch! So the letter looked at it well, and pulled out of the crotch, pu prostrate. Everyone in the city laughed and believed that they were timid!
At that time, in the Qin Dynasty, Hu Hai ascended to the throne, and after Zhao Gao indulged in power, the officials were corrupt and corrupt. At that time, there was no just law, and bullies generally had the support of the government, oppressed the people, lawlessness, and the death of a few people at will.
The bullies expected that Han Xin would not dare to stab them with his sword, so he taunted them, "Surnamed Han, see that you are tall and tall, and you always love to take a broken sword and turn around blindly." If you are not afraid of death today, stab me with your sword; if you dare not stab me, crawl under my crotch! ”
Han Xin looked around, didn't worry much, really crawled under the bully's crotch, and the whole street laughed at him.
In a cynical irony, Han Xin endured the "humiliation of crotch", and the man's face was lost, which was a great shame. However, he also escaped the catastrophe, and then step by step worshiped the general and became a marquis, and embarked on the peak of his life.
Han Xin's approach at that time was desirable. Han Xin is a rational person who can take a long-term view of the problem.
He knew exactly what he wanted, and he was afraid that his ambitions would be in vain, that his efforts would fall short. Dead, everything is impossible, as long as you live, there is still hope.
As the saying goes, stay in the green mountains, not afraid of no firewood. Sometimes, only by putting down one's face can one live a more faceful life.
I feel that my face is bigger than the sky, and I am afraid that my life will be tragic.
I agree with a quote from Li Ka-shing:
"When you put down your face and make money, it means that you have understood things. When you use money to earn back face, it means that you have succeeded, and when you can make money with face, it means that you are already a character. ”
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In the book "Ghost Valley", there are two people who are the most faceless, one is Yi Yin, and the other is Jiang Ziya. In fact, the success of both men has something to do with cheekiness. And these two people are the only places where the ancients are recorded in the book "Oniguzi".
For example, Yi Yin chose between the Xia Kingdom and the Shang Kingdom, eating the huitou grass five times in total, and finally choosing the lord. And Jiang Ziya is the same, he also wandered between the Shang Kingdom and the Zhou Kingdom for a long time, and finally ate three times to choose the lord.
The "Ghost Valley" records: Yi Yin five on the soup, five on the tang, five on the can not be enlightened, and then combined with the soup; Lü Shang three on the King of Wen, three into yin, and can not have some understanding, and then joined with the King of Wen.
Yi Yin jumped the groove five times, swinging between Xia Shang, and finally he was dead set on assisting cheng tang. Why do they keep choosing and keep eating back grass? What makes their faces so thick?
Quite simply, because they understand that if a person wants to achieve something, he cannot be bound by face.
Yan Jiehe, former chairman of the board of directors of Pacific Group, once said something controversial, saying: What is face? We who do big things never want faces, and the skin can be torn off and thrown to the ground, kicked a few feet, and gone away, dismissive.
He believes that not taking himself seriously, not taking face as face, and treating face as nothingness is the demeanor that a person who really does great things should have.
Although his words are biased and sharp, for enterprises, the biggest problem they face in the early stage of entrepreneurship is the problem of face.
In fact, face is the first obstacle in life, smart people will never be "dead to face to live to suffer" people, too much love for face, will lose the opportunity, people who value themselves too much, it is difficult to achieve great things.
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In life, we must understand:
The most intelligent way of dealing with the world is to both cast a blank eye on the world and to conform to it. The reason for casting a blank eye on the world is because of the ideal of loneliness and arrogance, and it is inevitable to live in the same stream.
When you feel faceless, you have to see if you have a lizi first. When you are too obsessed with face, ask yourself if it is worth dying for face.
Slowly people get old, live to understand, but also look away, then you suddenly find that all the original face is no longer important, you are too small, in the vast world, in the ever-changing rivers and lakes, has long been the object of obsolescence, life is still so realistic, accompanied by only Lizi, what was the original, and later it was still like that, nothing has changed.
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