There is no one in this world who does not want to succeed, so success learning will be popular. People envy the achievements of successful people, but no one wants to see why he is successful. Is it true that other people's successes are attributed to good luck, and that they are just unlucky, otherwise they will also succeed?
I'm not going to explore how a person succeeds now, and today I want to write about how a person fails.
First, if you want to grow yourself, you need to dare to make mistakes and dare to choose.
We choose to be a child, or to be an adult, the child's model, that is, everything needs to be arranged for me. I need someone to give me advice, I need to support me, whether it's financially or in the direction of investment. I need to affirm me more, and I am afraid of being denied by others. If others raise doubts, they feel bad in their own hearts. In the end, he even said that if there was no opposition from others, he would succeed.
Afraid of making mistakes, they dare not make choices, others help them choose, and finally encounter setbacks and difficulties, they will blame their family and friends. As if making your own choices, there will be no problems, just make your own choices, and everything will go smoothly. And forget about life, no matter how you choose. There will be setbacks and problems on your life path. Because encountering problems and solving problems is the way for a person to grow. If you run away from the problem, you won't solve the problem.
To avoid responsibility is to escape growth. Because when you encounter a problem, it is the simplest thing to push to others. It's someone else's fault, and I'm always right. This situation is actually that they are afraid of seeing the problems in their hearts, and it is too late to avoid them, of course, they are more afraid of others seeing that they have problems, and whoever wants to say that they have problems will turn their faces with him. And to hide their own problems deeper, family and friends have to say that they are good. If you don't approve of yourself, you're not your friend. The reality is that you need some fake friends, whether I'm good or not, you just say I'm good.
Second, do things in a hurry, always want to ascend to the sky one step at a time, and encounter problems that are not solved, but procrastination.
Doing things in a hurry, always wanting to achieve good results immediately, immediately retreating when the work is not satisfactory, afraid of being instructed by others, and wanting to be the boss to instruct others when they go to the unit, but they can't see that they lack leadership ability. I don't want to listen to the opinions of leaders and elders, and I feel that the opinions of others are useless to me, and my own ideas are the best ideas. In fact, in my heart, I am very good, I am very good, you can't do it. Blindly looking down on others, blindly exaggerating one's own abilities.
Therefore, it is easy to become a low-handed master, and what you can do is not to do it, and you feel that you have lowered your identity. Gao himself did not dare to fight for it, and even thought that others did not value him. No one listens to themselves, no one respects their own ideas. These are the problems of others, even the problems of society, and they are definitely not their own problems.
When encountering difficulties at work, you will not lower yourself to ask for help from others. If you feel that this is very humiliating, will others look down on you? What will my colleagues think of me in the future? What do the leaders think of me? Will it affect their judgment of my values in the future? Therefore, when encountering problems in the work, they will procrastinate, do not solve the problems themselves, fantasize that the problems will disappear, and finally find that the problems are getting bigger and bigger, and the work is accumulating more and more, and finally they can only choose to resign and go away.
Third, there is no patience, lack of persistence, and always regard complexity as simple.
Many people form this kind of thinking when they are students, they are smart, they don't need to work so hard. The achievements of such hard work are not to be proud of. So it's formed since I was a kid, and I don't need to work hard to succeed. Maybe with their own little intelligence, they will achieve good results in elementary school and junior high school. Many of these types of students have problems in their second year of high school, and as the curriculum becomes deeper and deeper, even smart students need to work hard, otherwise they will not learn.
If this stage can be passed, this thinking will not change. Even at work, in the same way, setbacks will follow. Because extremely intelligent people are rare, most people rely on hard work to succeed. Nothing is simple, in this world it is not simple for students to learn, it is not simple to want to achieve outstanding results in the work, and it is not simple to want to fall in love. It is not simple to want to enter marriage, and it is not simple to want to be a good, qualified mom and dad.
So the more people think that everything is not simple, they can be down-to-earth and do things well. They can have patience and persistence in life and work. They will solve problems when they encounter problems, rather than running away from problems. Escape at work, escape in marriage, and escape from education of children.
Some people think they have lied to others, but in fact they have only lied to themselves, but we don't want to see ourselves like this. A person sees, a person has the possibility of change, and to see is to be aware. Choosing not to see the truth is to escape, and to escape from the truth shows that you are living in falsehood. How can a person who lives in falsehood succeed in the real world? Because you can't see the real thoughts of your lover, you can't see the needs of your children, or you don't want to see the real person, you don't want to see this real world, then in this real world, you can only hide in the black hole. That's why it is said that seeing will change, that changing your own, will always be yourself, because the power and awareness are in your heart.
Teacher Sanqing is a national second-level psychological counselor, an international hypnotist, a contracted author, the teacher is good at looking at the problem from different angles to analyze the problem to solve the problem, in the teacher's mind, no one is abnormal, no one is sick, the heart changes the world. Like the teacher's article, you can follow me.