On the weekend, talk to a friend. She complained that seeing her former classmates work better than her, with higher salaries than her, living a good life, feeling very bad in her heart, feeling that she was really unlucky, and mixing people without ghosts and ghosts was simply a happy insulator.
She said,
At work, endure the inaction of the boss every day, the laziness of the colleague's throwing pot, their own conscientious work for several years but still have no hope of promotion, can only keep fighting the fire for the leader, filling the pit for the colleague, often stress to insomnia, the hair is a handful of drops;
In life, because she was still single immediately, her mother was impatient, while mobilizing relatives and friends around her to introduce the blind date, while calling every day to ask about the progress of the blind date, after learning that the blind date was fruitless, it was inevitable that she would be counted down, and the two would argue continuously.
I asked her: Do you want to change the status quo in the past?
She said that every day after work is already physically and mentally exhausted, but also to face the mother's questioning and blows, the brain has been tired like a mess, where is the energy to do other things? It is rare to have their own time, just want to lie alone in bed brush Weibo to chase variety shows, weekends are not about friends to go out to eat and drink, or sleep at home in the dark, changing the status quo is also an accidental idea.
But, what I'm trying to say is that if you don't change yourself, good things don't come on their own, and bad things don't end on their own.
Look at the classmates around you who are better than yourself, and think back to whether this is the case:
When they listen carefully to the lectures in class and practice hard after class, you are wandering and thinking wildly;
When they are discussing life and discussing the future, you are avoiding thinking about it;
When they work overtime or continue their studies in order to work, you choose to leave work early and go home to Ge Youli;
……
In fact
Their ability to have the good jobs they have now and the high salaries you envy are the result of their hard work.
Your dissatisfaction with your job and salary, and your inability to adapt to the pressures of life, are also the consequences of your greed for comfort along the way.
We can't go back to the past, there is no if in life, and everyone's current state of life is the result of countless choices.
If you want to live a satisfying life in the future, you have to act now, you have to change your current work lifestyle.
The writer Lian Yue once said: You must live according to what you want, otherwise, sooner or later, you will think according to your life.
Yes, what kind of life you want to live, the decision is always in your own hands.
Many people plan their vacations more than they plan their lives. There are only two possibilities in this world: either you plan your life yourself, or someone else plans your life.
My friend's work and life are gradually losing control of her, but as long as she realizes her problems, reinvigorates herself, and makes a new life plan, it will be too late.
Happiness is earned on your own, and perhaps the process will be very difficult and difficult, but it is better than standing still and waiting.
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