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Every woman very much wants to be attractive and very eager to have a happy family, career and life.
However, the reality of this society is always undesirable. In the Norwegian Forest by the contemporary Japanese writer Haruki Murakami, Reiko Ishida also has a happy family, but unfortunately enters Ameliao (a "mental illness" sanatorium), and unlike Naoko, forty-year-old Reiko can actually return to normal society in spirit and spirit.
In the whole work, Reiko is the only "narrator" besides Watanabe, which is also what many people like Aboutriko, with a transparent, open-minded, open-minded, open-minded and mature charm, even the wrinkles that accumulate because of laughter make people feel very warm and loved.
As for why she refused to return to the outside world, in her own words: "I just went out from here, and there was no one waiting for me, no home to receive, no decent job, and almost no friends..."
What kind of encounters have caused such a perfect woman to fall into such a tragic situation?
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a piano dream that began practicing at the age of four, but somehow buried</h1> it
Reiko's first part of life was very smooth, perhaps you will think, no one's life will go smoothly to the end, this sentence is not effective at all for Reiko. Because anything because of her, if there is a possibility that something is not going well, the family and friends around her will also make it smooth, which is the first twenty years of Reiko's life. So, probably because of her good luck, when Reiko was in college, in order to prepare for a very important concert, she practiced hard to become familiar with the score, and the little finger was unexpectedly unable to move...
Reiko began practicing piano at the age of four, and her biggest dream in life was to become a professional pianist.
However, this accident brought her smooth life to an abrupt end, and the doctor diagnosed it as a mental cause. Although after a period of hospitalization, she returned to college to complete her studies, Reiko clearly felt that something important in her life: something like a vitality condenser, disappeared from her body forever.
She became nervously weakened, she would cry at every turn, and when she heard the news that someone worse than her had won the first prize or the second prize in a certain competition, she was like a pufferfish. From a proud little girl to a stingy ghost!
People around you are also starting to give advice, your mood is too unstable to be a professional pianist. As a result, the piano dream that she could not continue for some reason completely changed the trajectory of her life.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > met a completely morbid liar at his happiest of times</h1>
In the short few decades of a person's life, Reiko has never encountered any setbacks in the past twenty years.
So a small accident, like sprinkling a drop of ink on a perfect sheet, made her whole life seem to leave a stain. Fortunately, she still insisted on keeping herself, and met the one who brought the light to her again, until she met him, and it felt like, for Reiko, was like being fished out of the "violent and cold" seawater, wrapped in a towel and put on a warm bed.
As everyone knows, when Reiko's life is not easy to get back on track, she meets a thirteen-year-old lesbian middle school student. In order to protect himself, the "child" can indiscriminately slander anyone with no care, and is a completely morbid liar.
In the time of making up lies, he will first make himself believe in the truth, and in order to make his fabricated lies not reveal flaws, he will even spend all his energy to change all the related things around him.
Reiko was designed by the liar, because she did not get the desired benefit from the teacher, so after coming out of Reiko's house, she disguised herself as a bully, deliberately tearing the buttons of her clothes, messy hair, and a swollen and blood-filled little face, etc., which successfully deceived her parents and all the people around her.
No matter how Reiko argues, people are only willing to believe what they believe, who could have imagined that a thirteen-year-old child would design everything from beginning to end so perfectly?
Despite this fact, Reiko became the object of everyone's hatred and insults, becoming a perverted piano teacher who sexually assaulted minors.
Before Reiko meets the other half of her life that is worth entrusting, all that supports her to continue to live in this world is a tight string in her brain, which is "hissed" and broken.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > people to middle age, give up everything, but also a new life</h1>
Watanabe was thirty-eight years old when she met Reiko at Amiliao. However, even as she enters middle age, she can still feel the mature charm of Reiko as a woman from the inside out. During her seven years at Ameliao, she worked part-time and studied half-time, giving up everything she once had and choosing a new way of life.
Without Reiko's narration and "bridge-building", communication between Watanabe and his girlfriend Naoko may not be smooth. In front of the two young people, she did not feel that she was an outsider at all, and even constantly encouraged Watanabe and encouraged her roommate Naoko, and from Reiko we saw the light of angelic kindness. It was a divine light that people sincerely believed in, perhaps because Reiko had already given up everything and had nothing to be so frank.
"Nineteen or twenty years old is a crucial period for the maturity of personality," Reiko said to Watanabe. She knew that she had missed the best age to establish her personality, and she did not want the confused young people in front of her to follow in her footsteps. "If you fearlessly spoil yourself in this period, you will be very miserable when you are old, this is absolutely true", a woman's greatest kindness is nothing more than this, advising people to consider carefully, cherish the present, and cherish themselves.
After being reborn, Reiko is all because of letting go.
Watanabe curiously asks Reiko if you want to go back to see your family. Reiko replied, "They have their new life, and it would be painful to see me." It's best not to see it. Without looking back, Reiko turned a new blank page and continued to write about her future life.
In our real life, the twists and turns encountered can be described as innumerable, small, large, and even almost impossible to step through. This is not any sin, but it is a common thing in the world, do not have to be so distressed, along with the nature in the heart, the long river of the world will still flow in the direction it conforms, there is not much we can do: we do not have to rush too much to put life into the track we think.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > life advice obtained in Reiko</h1>
Haruki Murakami wrote in "Norwegian Forest": "In our youth, we will always look into the distance unconsciously again and again, full of longing for the distant road, although it is sudden and full of confusion. Sometimes it is like being surrounded by a thick fog, and the confusion and helplessness that only you can understand. Although I was a little lonely, despite my confusion and helplessness, I still bravely faced it, because this is my youth, not someone else's, only mine. "
First of all, when encountering changes, it is not bad, not waiting, not relying
There are many beautiful moments in life, but helpless life always has a length. Many women, when they encounter the changes in their lives, will always complain to God, "Why me?" Lai, on this unfair encounter, was hesitant to get back on his feet.
The so-called good is to stop complaining and accept it calmly. When Reiko was twenty years old, she suspended her life, stopped because of a bad time, waiting for the so-called vitality of life, and did not know that waiting itself was a mistake.
And the last not to rely on, is to be reborn from the fire, no one in this world can really save anyone, if you do not pull yourself, others will only choose to let you fend for yourself, the way back of rebirth starts from refusing to rely, independent and strong.
Second, humor is far more worthy of women than pretty
Women who are good at creating humor can not only make themselves feel like a fish, left and right, but also laugh at life and be open-minded. Humor must have a certain cultural heritage, so a humorous woman is also a wise woman.
"It's okay to come over in the middle of the night, but don't make the mistake." The body without wrinkles on the left bed is a straight child. After Reiko said this, she resolved the awkward atmosphere between the three of them, not without caring about her age and appearance.
However, the humorous and humorous language style is the externalization of women's inner temperament in the use of language, which also pulls in the feelings between each other and narrows the psychological distance between them and the listener in laughter.
It's important to be a beautiful woman, but being a humorous woman is far more important than being pretty.
Finally, bravely take responsibility for yourself
In life, if you accidentally bump into the corner of the table, most people's first reaction is to blame the corner of the table for being too hard, the position is not right, etc.; the second time will think that it is caused by their own carelessness. Embodied in subtleties, the instinct of human nature is to find a scapegoat.
One of the most important things in Reiko's conversations and letters with Watanabe is that she exhorts Watanabe to take responsibility for her choices. This is what the confused Watanabe lacks, and patients who go to see a psychologist often think of it.
For example, some of their weaknesses and eccentric behaviors are due to "psychological problems", and the reason why they have become so is actually an unwilling act of responsibility.
To bravely assume their responsibilities, make fewer excuses, bravely adapt to the environment, and assume their own share of responsibility, and only in this way is a truly mature person.
If you find a problem and don't change yourself in time, it is like letting the weeds grow without removing it, so that even the most beautiful garden in the world will soon become a wasteland.
The things that are commonplace in the world do not have to be so distressed, and along with the nature in the heart, the long river of the world still has to flow in the direction in which it conforms. If you can't stop someone from being hurt by doing your best, it's better to drop everything, start over, and start a new life, a new self.
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