If kindness can be monetized, greed will follow

It is often seen that some people say that others are not kind and do not know how to be grateful. It feels as if some people take their own kindness as a contract, just like Huang Shiren takes an abacus and collects rent from tenant farmers. I don't know when it started, kindness became a prop and shortcut that could be realized, and it was used by some people as a reason to do good things for themselves and then ask for returns. Therefore, it is often seen that we should "know the gratitude map", "be grateful to Dade", be "kind", not "ungrateful", otherwise it is a "bad person", it is "unkind", and so on. In this way, people are "kind" without knowing or preparing, and they have to use kindness to return "kindness", so that they are not shameless, they know how to be grateful, and they are kind people... It's really speechless. The reason why kindness is kindness is because the starting point of kindness must be to solve problems for people, and what reduces troubles must be based on the good of others. If it is the goodness that is done in exchange for benefits, and what benefits are thought out, how many benefits are thought out, this goodness is not necessarily bad, and occasionally people will be treated as courtesies, but if it is always so, this kindness will become a burden on others. For no one has enough resources to exchange this unpredictable but seemingly necessary exchange of goodness. Although kindness is priceless, there are always a number of resources in everyone's real life, and the kindness that must be exchanged is not something that people can often bear, to bear. Therefore, if you really want to express kindness, you should at least let people know whether to accept it, otherwise the frequent extra courtesy exchanges are a burden for anyone. Expressions of kindness also require respect, at least the right of others to know and decide to determine whether they are able to accept such kindness. At the same time, there is a respectful goodness so that it will not resent others for being unkind, not understanding gratitude, being bad, being shameless, being ungrateful, and being a villain...

It is really not good to blame anything for kindness, but what you hope to get through kindness, especially if the other party is not aware, because the expectation is not met and accuse the other party of being ungrateful and ungrateful, which is really difficult for yourself and for others. It is not that good deeds cannot be reciprocated, because people cannot regard nobility as the inevitable bottom line, but the good other party who needs to be rewarded should at least have the right to know and decide, which is both respect and does not embarrass each other.

It is good for people to do good deeds, and it is their duty to do bad things. People can demand of themselves and others without being kind and noble, but at least they have to do their part. Respect the decision-making power of others, and respect the true thoughts of the heart that want to reciprocate. Not respecting the decision-making power of others, ignoring the real thoughts of the heart that wants to reciprocate, and finally this kind of kindness that often makes people unprepared will become a burden on the other party and a resentment in their own hearts. So for the good of everyone, please let the kindness have more respect, inform the other party in advance, and make the words clear, which is the real kindness. If others don't get the right to know, then not expecting anything in return is a goodness, otherwise, kindness becomes a way to monetize benefits and becomes a trade. Kindness is not a commodity of realization, nor is it a printing press for the realization of profits, and respecting kindness itself is also a kind of kindness.