Love, is it selfless or selfish?
Love is a very subjective feeling, but it has its commonality, throughout real life and even ancient and modern Chinese and foreign love stories, all tell that love is a complex and contradictory emotion that is intertwined by the layers of selfless nature and selfish instincts.
In Amsterdam, two men with special identities fall in love with the same woman, opening a tortuous fate between the three. The heroine Hui Ying, is a painter who longs for love, Fang Ling 25, standing tall, longing for the first love, but never thought that the first love will suddenly come like a shower.
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She fell in love with the strange man who had built a bridge for her and delivered her daisies every day, although she had never seen him; she fell in love with Zheng Yu, whom she had imagined to have known for a long time, even though she did not know his true identity at the time.
After Zheng Yu left, she missed and unconsciously fell in love with Park Yi, who waited for her every day and learned to read her lips. Her love, selfless and vigorous, does not hesitate to give and sacrifice. When you are young, who has not longed for a vigorous love?
Jeong Woo makes Hye Young mistakenly think that he is the person she misses day and night, but as long as Hye Young can be happy, even if the people around her are not herself, she also sincerely wishes; Park Yi knows that his love is a moth to put out the fire, but still chooses to appear in Hye Young's world, but only wants to be by her side. Their selfish and selfless love is strung together into silent lies that are inextricably linked.
The English novelist Maugham once said: "Love needs to have a feeling of weakness, to have a requirement of thoughtful love, to help others, to please others—if not selfless, at least cleverly covered up selfishness; love contains a certain degree of shyness and cowardice." 」
Wrapped in cowardly love, catalyzed by enthusiasm, step by step towards the abyss of no return; good and evil are not opposed, two men with special identities, Interpol and professional killers, while falling in love with a pure and gentle painter.
"Daisy" is a story of love entanglement, which cleverly portrays the contradictions of identity, selflessness and selfishness, lies and truth in love.
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The movie "Daisy", which means "deeply buried in the heart of love", a killer fell in love with an art painter, destined to bury this love deep in his heart, but when we fall in love with a person, reason can no longer overcome love, we give ourselves a reason for connivance, even if we can only look at you from a distance, but also let my love have a belonging.
Maybe the people who have a crush are silent "flower senders", a pot of daisies, is a silent love, but also the hope of love, hope that the love of the payment can blossom and bear fruit, hope to pass on the warmth of love to you, I hope you have been looking forward to my appearance.
But there is some hope, but the first sprouts have been stained with dark dust; some love is beautiful, and it can only be regret.
That's the regret we have had in love. Maybe they met each other at the most beautiful age, but they were not ready for themselves, to love someone maturely, and despite the struggle, they still drifted apart; perhaps they were full of hope and still missed the one who, even if they loved each other, they understood that two people were not necessarily suitable to come together.
In several loves, after experiencing willful and selfish possession, several imitations, and finally release, the selflessness of love makes us learn to give and choose to let go, because it is not anyone's fault to understand, because it is enough to understand that fate allows us to meet.
The hesitations, misunderstandings and reluctance that were once in love eventually turned into indifferent blessings and memories, and the moments of love are eternal. So, we learn to miss faintly, bless from afar, and finally understand that some loves are beautiful because of the subtle distance.
As Park Il said after seeing the painting that Hye Young gave him, "It would be nice if I could meet her before I killed her for the first time." There is a kind of love that if it can't be in your life, then I'd rather miss it far away.
A moment of true feelings, can not say that it is false, love is eternal, can not say that there is only that moment - sanmao
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Loving someone is contradictory, and we are willing to give without asking for anything in return, but we are eager to get the same love from the other person. We are trapped in a cycle of selflessness and selfishness, but we forget that true love is considered from the other person's point of view, and we want him to be happy.
What is true love? Scott Pike, hailed as "the most brilliant psychiatrist of our time," elaborated in his classic book The Road Of Few: "Love is a willingness to improve oneself in order to promote the maturity of oneself and the minds of others."
People think that falling in love is love, but he pointed out that love is a long-term and gradual process, and the effort of love is made to make the soul of self and others grow together.
When we understand true love and ascend to the level of the heart, can we get out of the cycle of contradictions?
Zheng Yu is contradictory: "I can't say I'm that person, and I can't say I'm not that person." He does not respond to Hye-young's questions, thinking that he will be able to stay with her in this way, but the happiness wrapped in lies will one day be exposed.
Park Yi is also contradictory: "The only person I want to be close to is gone, and now I can live well, but at this moment, how can I feel hopeless?" 」 If his identity is not revealed, will he be able to stay with Hui Ying by his side?
I confess that there is nothing under heaven more painful than the punishment of love, nor is there anything happier than serving it—Shakespeare
Zheng Yu and Park Yi both hope that Hye Young is happy, even at the expense of humility, thinking that the other party is the person who can bring Hye Young true happiness, however, seemingly selfless love, but forget to consider Hye Young's position, if you really love a person, reach the level of the soul, compared to selfish possession, or selfless giving, should be more priority, is not Hye Young's feelings?
If it is Hui Ying, does she want to know the truth? If it was Hui Ying, who would she choose to be with?
If she can be happy, then even if her happiness has nothing to do with me, can I let go? Leave the decision of happiness to Hui Ying herself, because if you really love someone, don't you want her to be happy?
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True love, after all, is difficult. Although the love of Zheng Woo and Park Yi has moved from selfishness to selflessness, it is still one step away - respect and let go, respect for Hye Young is the master who determines his own happiness, let go of the love that should be buried deep in his heart.
Maybe we also felt conflicted in love. Prepare for surprises, see each other's smiles, and rejoice; in order to get to know him a little more, take the time to learn his interests, listen to him share music, and watch movies that you wouldn't have watched.
Support his ideals and admire his professional performance. We do not hesitate to shrink ourselves to the minimum, selflessly pay, although the lips say that we do not ask for returns, but in our hearts we silently hope that he can care more about himself.
Sometimes, we also make up our own minds, subjectively doing everything for each other, but not necessarily what the other party needs, we can't help but complain, obviously paid so much, why does he always not see? But true love is to grow together with the other person's heart, try to think from the other person's position, hope that he is happy, even if his happiness has nothing to do with me, I also sincerely wish.
One day, when we are no longer entangled in the form of love, the return of love, but the love that gently nurtures the growth of the soul, we may find that there is a kind of love that is buried deep in the heart but cannot be kept, although it is regrettable, it is not a pity, because the moment of love, there is quiet happiness, and those happiness, let her stay in the most beautiful youth.
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Not to disturb, not to be humble, but to respect, to guard this good memory, to leave the last tenderness for each other.
Mature love, respect, loyalty is not easy to show, its voice is low, it is humble, concessional, latent, waiting and waiting. --Dickens
Hui Ying's two loves, vigorous, although there is pain, but also happy, although the truth has been obscured by lies, the happiness in the memory has not faded, she always remembers that there is a very gentle person in this world, built a bridge for her, planted a house full of daisies for her, and is willing to give everything silently for her.
Taste the classic movie "Daisy", experience the delicate and subtle love, unforgettable love, and look at yourself in love, love more calmly, more gentlely, close to the essence of love, perhaps, we are closer to happiness, closer.
Thank you for watching, paying attention to me, and learning more about it.