Wuxia novel Taidou Jin Yong has written countless love stories of idiot men and women. And he himself has had three marriages, and his love life is quite exciting.
Looking back in the past, he once said with shame in an interview with CCTV: "I am sorry for her..." With Jin Yong's status and influence, who would this person he was deeply ashamed of? It turned out that the "she" in Jin Yong's mouth was his second wife, Zhu Mei.
Get married and work hard
Zhu Mei, formerly known as Zhu Luxi, was born in the United Kingdom and graduated from the University of Hong Kong.
Zhu Mei, who has bright lips and teeth and is as bright as a rose, speaks fluent English and writes a good article, which can be called a talented woman in Xiangjiang.
When they first met, Jin Yong had just ended his first marriage and was in a very low mood. Zhu Mei, who is young and beautiful and decisive and capable, has been engaged in journalism since graduating from the University of Hong Kong.
The young Jin Yong, with his talent and elegance, complements Zhu Mei's temperament, appreciates each other, and has a common career pursuit. As a result, the young Zhu Mei fell deeply in love with Jin Yong.
Although the later Jin Yong, known as the "Talent of Xiangjiang", became a highly respected writer. But at that time, Jin Yong, who was eleven years older than Zhu Mei, was still an old divorced man, and from a secular point of view, he was really not a good match for Zhu Mei. Therefore, their love affair was strongly opposed by Zhu Mei's family.
Zhu Mei has a strong personality, and it is difficult to change the things she believes. Despite the opposition of her whole family, she has an iron heart to marry Jin Yong, a 32-year-old second-married man.
On May 1, 1956, 21-year-old Zhu Mei and 32-year-old Jin Yong cultivated positive results and tied the knot, and soon gave birth to their eldest son, Zha Chuanxia.
Jin Yong and Zhu Mei wedding
There is a saying that Zhu Mei is not married, so that she becomes pregnant before marriage. When the two got married, no one in the Zhu family went to the wedding, and Zhu's father even directly severed his relationship with his daughter.
For this marriage that was not blessed by her parents, Zhu Mei paid a huge price.
Regardless of whether the rumors are true or not, in the tug-of-war for marriage freedom, Zhu Mei's character has already begun to emerge.
At the same time as starting a family, Jin Yong's career also began to take off. In the process of founding Ming Pao, the husband and wife experienced hardships.
Zhu Mei wears several positions, is not only Jin Yong's life partner, but also the best partner in her career, and the earliest and only female reporter in the newspaper.
In the most difficult moment of Ming Pao, it was Zhu Mei who took out the gold and silver jewelry of her mother's dowry and sold it into cash to maintain the publication of Ming Pao. In the later period, he was directly involved in management and served as president.
At the beginning of the business, on many decision-making issues, most of them were decided by Zhu Mei.
Ming Pao
This may be related to the personality of the couple. Jin Yong once analyzed that his personality was closer to Zhang Wujie, too gentle and gentle. And Zhu Mei's strength just makes up for Jin Yong's lack of decisiveness. In many things, even if the two disagree, they will still follow Zhu Mei's ideas in the end.
It can be said that she is a woman who fights the world with Jin Yong, and her credit is even above Jin Yong.
Capable as Zhu Mei, whether it is family or career, she has done her best.
After marriage, the couple had four children. Jin Yong is too busy with his career to take care of his family. Zhu Mei is alone in running the housework and raising children; she also has to take care of the affairs of the newspaper and take care of her busy husband.
On the tenth anniversary of the founding of Ming Pao, Jin Yong wrote: "My wife Zhu Mei cooked from her home in Kowloon every day and sent it to Hong Kong to give me food", and the warmth was revealed. During those difficult years, every night after settling down the child, Zhu Mei had to deliver food to Jin Yong and accompany him to work overtime until late at night; due to financial constraints, the couple could only share a cup of coffee.
Holding a baby in her left hand and working with her right hand, Zhu Mei fully experienced the hardships of modern working mothers more than half a century ago.
Her ability is beyond doubt, even if she did not choose Jin Yong as a potential stock, she could completely break out of the world on her own.
Jin Yong poses with his children
Success and fame, but ushered in a huge change in marriage
After twenty years of all-out efforts, Jin Yong's career has ushered in great success.
Ming Pao has become a bright rising star in the Hong Kong press, and more than a dozen martial arts novels written by Jin Yong have swept the Chinese world, so they have become the leading figures in Hong Kong and even the whole country.
Four children, academically successful, well-behaved and sensible. It can be said that this is the time for Zhu Mei to taste the fruits of victory. However, accidents followed!
When the two began to start a business, Zhu Mei's personality was indeed of great help to Jin Yong's career. When Jin Yong's career was in full swing, Zhu Mei still had a temperament and did not have much admiration and respect for her husband.
The two gradually had differences in their work, and their feelings also cracked. The couple often gives in and quarrels for some small things, and the estrangement is getting bigger and bigger. Jin Yong, who is depressed and borrows wine to pour sorrow, meets Lin Leyi, a 16-year-old bartender, and has an extramarital relationship with him.
The already precarious relationship between the husband and wife was completely broken, and finally ended in divorce.
Jin Yong's friends Ni Kuang and Chen Fei all regretted this. Ni Kuang also went out of his way to say peace, and said to Zhu Mei: Her husband became rich as the boss, and there are two wives who have something important... Zhu Mei interrupted him and said: You wait. After a while, she came out with a long broom, frightening Ni Kuang into fleeing into the wilderness.
Dai Maosheng's interpretation was to the point: Zhu Mei was a good woman, but it was a pity that she was a little sharp. Mr. Cha is a writer, he has romantic feelings, Zhu Mei can't bear it, repeated quarrels, how to maintain the feelings.
Jin Yong and Ni Kuang, Lin Yanni and other friends
At this time, Jin Yong has achieved fame and fame and fortune. Most women face this situation and, after weighing the pros and cons, will choose to compromise and be patient.
However, Zhu Mei was the exception.
In his later years, Jin Yong once revealed that he was remorseful, personally tore up the divorce agreement, and said to Zhu Mei: We don't want a divorce.
But Zhu Mei refused to accept, she said: Divorced, don't do things back.
At the same time as the marriage changed dramatically, the news came that the eldest son, Zha Chuanxia, who was studying at Columbia University in the United States, hanged himself.
It turned out that Cha Chuanxia heard about his parents' marriage change, tried his best to save it, and finally failed. When he was depressed, he had a disagreement with his girlfriend and committed suicide without thinking for a while.
The failure of marriage and the suicide of the eldest son have greatly stimulated Zhu Mei. Since then, she has been disheartened and depressed, and in the years since, she has not been in contact with Jin Yong's old age.
It is said that after the breakup, Jin Yong once met Zhu Mei, who was single, at a wedding. At that time, they were sitting in their respective corners, there was no opportunity to communicate, and Jin Yong silently watched Zhu Mei toast and wish with the newcomers in the distance.
After the wedding, just as Zhu Mei turned around and left, Jin Yong rushed forward and said: Do you want to send you home? Zhu Mei looked faint and unconscious, and replied: No need. After saying that, he stopped a car and left alone.
Zhu Mei should hate Jin Yong, hate his thin feelings, and hate the non-people she trusts even more. So much so that soaking yourself in bitter water eventually dragged down the rest of his life full of devastation.
Jin Yong and his third wife, Lin Leyi
The evening scene is desolate, lonely and dead
When the two divorced, Jin Yong divided the shares of Ming Pao and the mansion of Jardine Hill to Zhu Mei. With these assets, Zhu Mei should be materially abundant. Even if the eldest son dies early, and there are three other biological children, according to common sense, she should receive the care and support she deserves.
But Zhu Mei's relationship with several children was not good.
Jin Yong's young daughter Cha Chuanne
When the youngest daughter Cha Chuanne recalled her mother, she once said this: I hate my mother, because she always forced me to learn to draw, and my father was very good, and she never forced me to learn anything.
Jin Yong and Zhu Mei are a typical combination of "strict mother and loving father", and several children prefer gentle and loving fathers to be close to strong and strict mothers.
After experiencing a series of blows such as divorce and loss of her son, Zhu Mei owed a lot of debts due to investment failures. The personality becomes more and more irritable and paranoid, and it is difficult to communicate and get along, which makes the already bad parent-child relationship worse.
In her later years, she was poor and unsupported. It has been revealed that Zhu Mei has more than four million debts in the bank, and even took to the streets of Hong Kong to sell handbags to earn living expenses.
Falling to this point, it is in stark contrast to Jin Yong, who was beautiful in his later years!
When Jin Yong and his children learned that Zhu Mei was setting up a stall on the street, they were shocked and incredulous. It can be seen that even if it is difficult to live, Zhu Mei has never turned to them for help.
Jin Yong is not a cold-blooded and ruthless person, he once helplessly said to his friend: I have always wanted to get close to her and help her, but she rejected me, did not want to see me, I let my son take care of her, she did not want to see.
Even when Jin Yong asked his friend Wang Shiyu to send money to Zhu Mei, Zhu Mei said dismissively: I am not rare in his money...
In his later years, Jin Yong and his young daughter Cha Chuanne
Cha Chuanne said: Mom is very similar to Dad's Huo Qingtong.
Huo Qingtong, the yellow-shirted Huo Qingtong in the Book of Swords and Vengeance, is so fierce and determined, how can he accept the alms of negative people?
Lin Yanni once commented on Zhu Mei: Also a person with strong attributes.
The fierceness in her personality makes her not rub sand in her eyes, and she abandons her impure marriage; it is even more because of her fierceness, even if she falls down, she refuses to show weakness in front of people.
Most of the good things are not firm, and the clouds are easy to scatter and the glass is brittle.
In 1998, Zhu Mei was admitted to The LudunZhi Hospital in Wan Chai, Hong Kong, due to lung disease, and none of the three children came to accompany her. On November 8, Zhu Mei, who had been tormented by lung disease for several months, died in loneliness and poverty at the age of sixty-three.
The person who took the death certificate for her was neither her ex-husband nor her children, but the staff of the hospital, and the desolation of the evening scene was lamentable.
In fact, Zhu Mei can live better. When she was divorced, she was only in her early forties, with money, connections, and three children, whether she was concentrating on her career or finding a good person, there was no problem.
Even if you are discouraged for various reasons, it is not so difficult to accept the help of your ex-husband and children. After all, Jin Yong's career territory contains her twenty years of youth and hard work.
However, Zhu Mei chose silence and loneliness.
Strong and fierce, is the most prominent feature of Zhu Mei's personality, throughout her life, it has not changed in the slightest.
Strong and capable, let her sing all the way in her career, becoming the most dazzling strong woman in the Hong Kong press at that time. Unfortunately, in marriage and family, there have been huge ups and downs. It is also because it is too strong that it has led to the end of Zhu Mei's life of "wisdom will be hurt, too rigid and easy to fold".
The second half of Zhu Mei's life was very bad, which may be a punishment for Jin Yong.
Jin Yong in his later years
Jin Yong looked back on his life in his later years and thought that the only person he was sorry for was Zhu Mei. He said: There is no shame in the heart, whether it is friends or children, it seems that they are all worthy, as if they have not done anything bad. The only thing I felt bad about my conscience was that after I married my wife, I had an extramarital affair and couldn't afford her. This matter is over and there is no way to remedy it.
However, the misery and sadness of the second half of life are only exchanged for the "shame" of her ex-husband, and a sentence of "I can't stop her", what is the meaning?
Today, Jin Yong and Zhu Mei have become ancient, and the love and hatred between them have also disappeared. What is right and wrong is left to the world to comment.
For us, life is short, don't always struggle with right and wrong; learn to shake hands with the past; and most importantly, for the rest of your life, you must not embarrass yourself.
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【Text| Millet Girl 】
【Editor| Daniel Lee 】
【Typography | Drizzle】
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