Introduction: If women feel that being a stay-at-home mother is not understood, the life is very sad, do not think that choosing this identity is wrong, but the men around them are choosing the wrong one.
It has been five years since the TV series "The First Half of My Life" was broadcast, and in the past five years, Luo Zijun has become a warning role for women. It seems that being a housewife and "palm-up" should eventually be derailed.
I remember that when the drama was broadcast, even the retired aunts in the community could not help but remind that women were not financially independent, and the end would be like Luo Zijun.
However, Luo Zijun is obviously a victim, and the identity of a full-time mother cannot be criticized.
If you have to find a problem with Luo Zijun, it is to listen to the person who says that he wants to raise her and cannot keep his promise.
If men want to cheat, they always find an excuse to excuse themselves.
In the play, Chen Junsheng cheated on Ling Ling, and most people felt that Luo Zijun's full-time mother could not keep up with Chen Junsheng's pace, and he was also sensitive.
But Ling Ling can be considerate of Chen Junsheng's difficulties, and can assist him in his work.
However, not to mention that Luo Zijun was a full-time wife, which was the result of his promise, that is, he could fight for his career without any worries, which was also directly related to Luo Zijun's contribution to the family.
When Luo Zijun was a full-time wife, she was very dependent on her husband, happy to circle around her husband, and also loved to play some small characters, but these small troubles were at best a small woman who was overly pampered.
Morally and behaviorally, there is nothing wrong with Luo Zijun, as a wife and mother.
In the final analysis, when a woman is loved, in the eyes of men, pampering is also a personality, making trouble is also cute, and when she is not in love, these are all wrong.
Later, Chen Junsheng and Ling Ling got married, and the old man mixed with chai rice oil and salt, and the two children clashed, and Chen Junsheng felt that Ling Ling was not so considerate, and even regretted marrying Ling Ling.
Chen Junsheng's derailment is completely just a picture of freshness, and it has nothing to do with his wife's full-time wife status.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" >, a woman is a stay-at-home mother, and she can see through her husband's nature the most. </h1>
A family, like a real society, has a warm side and an ugly side.
If a woman wants to see what kind of a person her husband is, don't look at what he has done for himself when he is at his most beautiful and proud. And to see how he treats himself when he has no income or is at the lowest point in his life and is most vulnerable.
I remembered that the neighbor used to have a little sister, beautiful and generous, and her husband pursued her and put a lot of thought into it.
The sweet life after marriage soon came to an abrupt end because of the birth of children.
Because there was no elderly help in the family, she could only stay at home with her children full-time at the request of her husband.
Once I saw her holding a cute child, I made small talk.
She said with a tired face that she felt that she was about to be depressed, that the family relied on her husband alone to make money, and that her husband was full of superiority and cared less and less about her.
Face the boring life every day, accompany the child to spend the most difficult night, and be prepared to deal with the child's various emotions.
She can endure the life of chicken feathers in this place, but she can't stand her husband's indifference. The two often quarrel over the life of chai rice oil and salt, and even add a new dress for themselves, they will be blamed.
In fact, this little sister is not incapable of working, but after giving birth to a child, there is no way to make a choice. She said that if her husband could bring his baby at home, he would not make less money than he did.
Even so, she said she didn't regret being a stay-at-home mom because she had no choice.
But I regret that I didn't choose the right man.
In fact, the normal operation of a family has always been the result of the joint cooperation of two people.
If a man feels superiority just because his wife is a full-time mother, just because he bears the pressure of the family economy, then it can only be said that the man lacks responsibility for the family.
So, women have to know that men are good to you at your highest stages, and that doesn't prove anything. But when you are most vulnerable, you can still be understood and cared for by him, and this talent is worth cherishing.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="69" > Second, women meet good men, and what kind of choices they make is right. </h1>
"Parenthood" is the only profession where you can work directly without exams. Positions are easy to obtain and responsibilities are great.
Now many families are also more and more demanding of women: they want to be able to juggle the family and take on some of the responsibility of supporting the family.
Some mothers will also complain that if they have no income with their babies, their family status will become lower, and it is not easy to live with their palms facing up. And when a working mother can't take care of her children, she will also be accused of lacking the responsibility of mothers.
In fact, no matter what kind of choice you make and how well you do it, people who are not satisfied will always be picky.
But the only thing that can really affect your life is the attitude of your husband.
Women struggle with how to choose, which is nothing more than a lack of trust in the person in front of them.
Because when you meet the right person, whether right or wrong, there are also people who will understand and encourage, and the problem itself does not matter. And when you encounter the wrong person, everything will be magnified, at that time not only full-time mothers are wrong, but also may be wrong when working mothers earn less.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="71" > Third, women follow their inner choices and are more likely to be happy. </h1>
Sometimes life is faced with such and such forks, and at this time you must follow your own wishes.
If you are a woman who has the patience to take care of the family, and it just so happens that the family has such a need, then being a stay-at-home mom is the best choice.
If you can't face the trivial things of the family, you feel that the identity of a stay-at-home mother will make your life gray. Then resolutely enter the workplace and balance work and family relations with your husband. Because even if you go against your heart and be a stay-at-home mother, you will not be in a good state.
The truth of marriage is not that there is no way out when you are a stay-at-home mother, but whether you have met someone who can support you.
Men with hearts will rejoice because their wives have wiped the floor spotlessly, will be moved by eating their wives' meals on time, but will not reduce their respect and love because their wives have no income as full-time mothers.
Only selfish men will be picky about their wives and will snub their wives because of economic income problems.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="72" > fourth, no matter what kind of choice a woman makes, she must first know how to protect herself. </h1>
In less than extraordinary times, it is difficult for women to tell how long a man's true feelings will last. This is why many mothers struggle to balance family and work, even if they work hard.
After all, only the money you earn will give yourself a full sense of security.
In fact, it is not that men cannot count on it, but that the man next to him makes himself unsure.
Therefore, whether it is a stay-at-home mother or a working mother who loves herself more first, it is true. Especially stay-at-home mothers, they should understand that if men despise themselves because of their full-time status.
At this time, you can't feel self-pity and self-pity in life, and really feel that you are asking for life from the other party, but you must cherish everything about yourself more.
It is his fault to know that he does not value your efforts, but it is his fault that you do not treat yourself well.
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