Our lives are rich and colorful, and our world is complex, so we will have more troubles and more stress. We often encounter such a situation: a friend makes an appointment to talk to you about business in the afternoon, and when you come as an appointment, the friend first says hello and asks if you are working well. note! The friend began with this sentence like a flood that broke the embankment. The gushing went on. You will hear complaining about the unfairness around you, the injustice of life, and the misfortune of life; complaining about the undeservedness of others and your own little back... At this time, you will continue to cry bitterness in your heart, and it is over, this afternoon is a waste.
There are many grievances in people's hearts, but in the final analysis, they are all caused by people's stubborn opinions. Don't say that you are educated, highly qualified, and generous to people, that is only a one-sided appearance, in fact, everyone will have a stubborn side, and once stubborn, it will be difficult to change. But how do you know your stubbornness? Consider comparing the following questions to make a diagnosis of opinion.
A friend recently often complained to me: saying that I have too many troubles, that I have busy things all day, that I can't solve problems, and that I am dominated by plans all day long. Of course, I advised him to let him put down some things for a while, try to relax, go to the scenic area to relax, or take some time to exercise to relax and relax the muscles... Although he said that what I said was reasonable, he did not do it, because he was still reluctant to abandon his plan, could not forget to solve his troubles, and kept chasing his dreams.
In my opinion, he has lived a very full life, and he should be satisfied with his current situation. He didn't waste his time by doing nothing, he was well aware of his predicament, what he had to do every day, and more importantly, he was always trying. He is happy because he recognizes his troubles and overcomes them. He is improving every day, improving himself every day.
Thinking from another angle is only part of cultivating a self-pleasing mentality, you also need to be happy with yourself in action, which does not require you to do something too deliberately, but through some trivial daily things around you, you will subtly turn your emotions and views into positive and optimistic.
In general, an optimistic mindset can make you full of curiosity, willing to accept the sudden arrival of opportunities and challenges, dare to face the uncertain future, on the contrary, the pessimistic mentality will lead you to be conservative everywhere, avoid mistakes, psychologists say: conservative mentality can not make you experience new and strange things, will only lead to your life becoming more and more boring, so if you want to become optimistic, you must actively try new choices, here is not to say that you must do something out of the ordinary, you can start by changing the route home, Or try making new choices for lunch, not ordering the same set menu every day, and rearranging your wardrobe, giving nails a new color you've never tried before, and spraying a new perfume, all of which are little thrills that make you feel happy.
Difficulty and uniform standards, if you think it is a barrier it is a barrier, sooner or later you will cross this hurdle; if you think it is a spring, it is a spring, you are riveted enough to pull this spring to lose its elasticity; if you think it is a stumbling block, it is a stumbling block, and after moving away, a wide sunny avenue will immediately appear in front of you; if you think it is a small dish, it is a piece of cake, you will certainly have full confidence to eat it in a few big bites. Of course, if you must admit to death, if you have to believe that difficulties are difficulties, then you will most likely be deterred and stagnant in the face of this difficulty.
There are many difficulties in this world that are not difficult in the first place, but they become difficult only because we think it is difficult in our hearts. There are no difficulties in the heart, there are no difficulties in the eyes, and of course, there will be no difficulties at any time.