Recently, there has been a tricky thing. Because of family reasons, it was not very pleasant to make trouble with the village. So I live a life of fear every day.
It can be said that the mood these days is very bad. Most of the time in bad mood.
Would not have slept enough every day. Now I don't go to bed until 12 o'clock or one or two o'clock every day. After waking up at 5:00 a.m., I can't sleep anymore. The intensity of work during the day is also very large. Very tired.
This has had a huge impact on our lives and work. If you don't get it right. It is also necessary to fight lawsuits and enter into cumbersome legal procedures. Now the emotions of almost everyone in the family are tense. As long as there is wind and grass outside, people are afraid.
That's when it happened. I came across the book Emotions, Please Open the Door.
The author is Zhang Weiyang, who advocates releasing himself trapped in emotions. Learn about the beginnings of a variety of different emotions, from five perspectives: energy, body, reality, state, and motivation. Re-examine your emotions and finally learn to deal with them. Deal with cognitive misconceptions about emotions and accept emotions.
Let emotional sensitivity become an advantage, not a nuisance.
In this life, people have always been constrained by their surroundings, so they attach great importance to freedom.
For example, "Rich Dad" teaches us to be rich and free. The purpose of the book "Emotions, Please Open the Door" is to guide us to break through the fog of emotions and achieve emotional freedom.
The philosopher Adler said that all human troubles stem from interpersonal relationships. All human experiences stem from emotions.
The purpose of emotional healing is to solve one's own problems and thus improve oneself and get along with emotions. The ability to cope with emotions and transform them.
It's said in the book that we all live in emotional reactions. So there's a director behind all this, and that's your own reaction system.
Nothing can be recognized as a good thing or a bad thing under any reaction system. And our emotions make our lives now.
And even if there is no distinction between bad emotions and good emotions, the appearance of each emotion indicates that a condition has appeared in your body. Even the most uncomfortable emotions are testimonies to the existence of life. Because of the emotions you participate in the world are closely linked.
When bad emotions are encountered. We shouldn't focus on the sad things that make us feel bad, but we should pay more attention to how we generate those emotions.
Be aware of your body parts. If you encounter tension, you will shake your legs, and if you encounter fear, your breath will be short. If you encounter fear, the brain will break.
Sometimes something will make people feel uncomfortable, but in fact, there is no right or wrong in itself, but the reaction system activates bad emotions.
For example, for things like being late in the morning, if you want to deduct the bonus. That must be a bad thing. But if it happens, this morning the company will have to assign a task that I am very reluctant to do. But I happened to be late, and the leader forgot about me, so you may be glad that you are late.
It can be said that depression is very common now. But before depression. There is an emotion called anxiety, which is anxiety disorder. It is also being paid more and more attention.
In fact, the things that make people feel anxious have generally not yet happened.
Anxiety is actually a very normal emotion. Let's be sensitive to the environment.
And depression isn't that scary. It is a higher emotion peculiar to humans, above anxiety.
In fact, people are often so frightened that depression will associate it with death.
Depression arises because some people are too concerned about the external environment or things. And ignore the feelings of the real inner self. That is to say, I take myself too seriously and pay too much attention to the evaluation of you by the outside world.
This is the time to take advantage of the separation of Adler's life topics.
How you do is your freedom, and what others think is their life issue. Only when there is a sense of boundaries will you be happy.
And depression can make people recalibrate their purpose in life. Find the meaning of survival.
In fact, many times, you don't have to care too much, emotions will come and go. This is the conservation of energy.
For example, if a child cries, in fact, you don't have to think that he is a flood beast, you must stop him.
When he finished crying, it was natural. It's a way for him to vent his emotions.
And a child who never cries is what really scares people. He may have grown up. It's easy to go to extremes in the face of things, or simply no emotional control.
Some people say that fear is the most ancient strong emotion in human beings. And the strongest fear is the fear of the unknown.
The book says that fear also has a very important function, and a person without fear is likely to be in a very extreme state. He may have entered a state of madness, or he may have fully achieved some kind of inner harmony.
Emotions, as an energy, can also be transformed into each other.
If you're very impulsive, don't make any decisions.
You can focus on your breathing, preferably with a duplex breath. Slowly wait for the mood to stabilize. It's a way to unblock emotions.
Every emotion is the embodiment of the mind, which can better help you accept yourself and feel the thoughts of others. Achieve a state of harmony.
In fact, if you encounter emotional problems, you don't have to deliberately suppress them. If you suppress emotions once you have suppressed them, it is difficult to convert them again.
What should we do if we have emotional problems?
"Emotions, please open the door" is said in the book.
The first step is to observe the external sensation. Lock your attention on your body.
The second step is to observe the body. For example, do you sweat? Will it tremble?
The third step is to focus on the breath. For example, when you are nervous, people will become breathing, and when they are excited, their breathing will become short. The fourth step is to focus your attention on the present moment. Don't analyze, don't judge. Put yourself in a state of continuous observation of the body.
Finally, label these emotions.
If the emotions are more complicated, you can observe first. Do not do any evaluation and processing. Existence is the reasonable acceptance of what has happened. See where emotions go, enjoy the feelings that emotions bring, and move toward true inner freedom.
Seen in "Dry Firewood" performed by Gu Tianle and Yang Qianwei. If Miriam Yang encounters something unpleasant at work, she will pour water into the wishing bottle. Then tell all these bad emotions to the wishing bottle, and after listening, pour out the water.
This way of expressing it in words is also a good way to vent emotions.
Or the expression of emotions through artistic carriers. You can practice yoga, running, dancing, etc., and use your body to express your emotions.
I hope that after reading this book "Emotions, Please Open the Door", we can no longer rely on external things.
As the author says, as long as you make your own inner changes, the world will live in harmony.
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