<h1>We often find that after the passage of time, the last sentence we want to hear is actually the most crucial sentence: He does not love you at all! </h1>
In the feelings we experience, we do not find that the other party does not love me, usually through a third party such as friends. You hear what your friend says to you, and it's not the person you're going to leave who doesn't love you, it's your friend. Because you cannot doubt your own perception, you believe in yourself, 100% sure of yourself.
In the process of feelings, we must learn to choose.
Once watched a movie, very impressed, a girl is enchanted to love a boy, one day, the boy came home and told the girl that he felt that life was a bit boring, he brought back a girl, from then on to do 3P every day, three people live together. As a result, the girl agreed, because she loved the boy very much.
But one day, the girl's mother came to visit her daughter, saw the clue, took her daughter home, and questioned her. When she learned about the three of them living together, the mother said to her daughter, I can't accept a man treating you like this! To mom's surprise, the girl replied, but I thought it didn't matter, I loved him, and I could bear everything he gave me. Mom went crazy and smashed all the dishes in the kitchen. Later, my mother said a word, if you tell me that you are in pain, I am better off.
This movie seems to tell the audience that the mother cannot bear that kind of pain: she does not want to hear and see her daughter bearing others, in patience, in giving tolerance to others. In my mother's view, the light of my daughter's pearl shines on others, and the pearl is conceived from the inside of my stomach in pain.
This movie is about him not loving you, but as a victim, not only herself, but also her own family.
A person who is still obsessed with not loving himself at all cannot be simply understood morally. For example, the other party is vaguely aware of their own good and bad, especially the bad part, which is a bit humiliating to themselves. So, sometimes I deliberately choose to turn a blind eye. When something humiliating is pointed out by a third party (like the mother in the movie about her daughter), the sense of humiliation will make the face unbearable. So, the girl in the movie convinces herself that she can accept everything about boys, and she wants to prove it to all the people who sing down.
Another deeper problem is that if you meet people who don't love you at all all your life and become a pattern, you have to look at your own heart, is there a subconscious: feel that you will not be loved well? Many children whose parents die early will have such a subconscious, they will feel that if there is no good effort, or if there is no punishment to exchange, then I will not have love.
We often see that some girls like to be with boys who are inferior to themselves. That kind of mentality is to fall in love with weak people, and they will feel more secure. I am with you on this condition, and when I encounter quarrels and disputes, you will always let me go. Therefore, with this kind of strong little vanity mentality to fall in love, you say that she is so obsessed with and unenlightened and sacrificing herself, is it worth it?