Author | Half window bright moon
Source | Confucius old book network dynamics
I have always liked to read books on celebrity anecdotes and affairs, and recently I was reading columnist Xiao Xiao's book "This Life and This Life: The Love Affair of famous ladies of the Republic of China", which has an article about Meng Xiaodong, who is born in Peking Opera, saying that "Meng Xiaodong is Du Zhisi's wife Yao Yulan's girlfriend, equivalent to the girlfriend who has nothing to talk about now", is it accurate for her to use the word greasy friend here for same-sex relations? The first time I saw the word "greasy friend" was in the book "Liaozhai Zhiyi", and Pu Songling commented at the end of the novel "Jiao na": "Yu Yu KongSheng, not envious of his wife, and envious of his greasy friend also ,...... When we talk about feasting, when we talk about this good friend, it is better to 'give the soul and the soul', especially to 'turn the clothes upside down'. "Color giving souls" comes from Sima Xiangru's "Shanglin Fu", which says "color giving souls and enjoying the side", which means that the beauty is charming and fascinating, and it is difficult to sustain itself.
The ancient admonitor Zhang Yang said: "The other color comes to teach me, and my soul connects with it", and the color comes to the soul, referring to the spiritual love between men and women. "Poetry Qi Feng" said: "The East is unknown, upside down clothes", the original meaning is to wear clothes and clothes upside down, describing hurried disorder, in the "Liaozhai" novel implies the sexual relationship between men and women. Here, the author uses the words 'color to give souls' and 'upside down clothes' to distinguish between two words, indicating that the relationship between the gritful friend is a male-female relationship, not the same-sex and girlfriend relationship mentioned in the book "This Life and This Life". So, what kind of male-female relationship is it? Generally speaking, the relationship between men and women has several kinds of husbands and wives, lovers, confidants and sexual partners, from the chat we can see that the greasy friend is a special feeling of the opposite sex friend, and the current red face confidant or blue face confidant is almost the same, some people say that this is called the "fourth party", the first is themselves, the second is the spouse, the third is the lover, the fourth is the greasy friend, this is a green emotion, it is between the spouse and the lover, it is closer than the friend, a little farther than the lover.
Therefore, the greasy friend is a special relationship between men and women, and the same sex cannot be called a greasy friend. By the way, do you have any friends?
