Baby Mou Yan: Happy 10th Birthday!
Every year for your birthday, you are at school. Unlike in the past, this year may be your first birthday alone. Because no one at the new school knows your birthday yet.
In the past, when you were in the college, every birthday, the teacher and classmates would buy you a cake, sometimes open a tea party, and the teachers and students would spend a ceremonial birthday together. Sometimes parents are invited to participate, and there is a link that makes you kneel down to worship your parents, remember?
It is to make you understand the meaning of birthday, that is, the child's birthday, is the mother's good friday.
Let you know how to be grateful to your parents from an early age.
Sixth birthday
I wonder if you will miss the old days today? Remember the teachers and classmates who have accompanied and helped you?
Days at the College
But Mom was grateful to them.
Over the years, because you have been studying in the residential school, I have spent far less time with you than the teachers. Seeing that you have grown up, sensible, healthy, kind-hearted, lively and lovely, and loaded so many classic books in your head, I used to think that these things should happen naturally.
Until this year, you go back to elementary school.
The first day of school
Just entering elementary school, we are as confused as you, even a little flustered and overwhelmed. There are too many courses to learn. In addition to the normal fourth-year curriculum that needs to keep up with the progress, you will also have to make up for the courses owed in the first three years.
Mathematics to make up, writing to practice, composition to learn, of course, there is a new environment to adapt to...
Both Mom and Dad know that you have no problem studying, you just need time. However, in the first month of school, my mother still showed anxiety and uneasiness.
I'm worried, I'm afraid. I am afraid that you feel the pressure of studying, that you have a bad relationship with your classmates and teachers, that you will suffer from school violence, that you will be discriminated against because of your poor grades... The episodes of those TVs always pop up in front of me from time to time.
The home is full of traces of children's love
It was hard to get home on the weekend, and we were all too late to enjoy the warmth of mother and daughter, so you were urged to hurry up and do homework, do homework, and do homework. Or it's a broken thought in your ear: sleep, clothes thrown around, homework procrastination...
Your eyes are full of your flaws, and you ignore the still beautiful you.
You see, mom has also lived a life that she hates.
All along, people around you think that you are very good and smart, because you can memorize tens of thousands of words of classics word for word. They think you are either gifted, or you have a strong memory, or maybe they think that I am a good godchild as a mother.
Of course I know that you are not a genius, that you are no different from most ordinary children, even less memory than many children in the class. Certainly not what I did for you.
I just know the concept of Bible reading education, that is, honestly and a lot of recitation, familiar with the recitation, every child can do it in this way. There's nothing incredible about that.
In the process of learning
Although I understand this principle, my mother has never experienced the process of your recitation. A new book, you don't know anything from the words you don't know, to memorize it in its entirety, what it takes to go through, what your mental journey is like, I don't know anything.
I just sent you to the academy, this month you told me what books to memorize, and then after a few months, I saw the message from the teacher in the group that the bag book was recited, and sure enough, you passed. I thought it was all supposed to happen, and you should have memorized it.
Bao Ben's Book of Verses
But, child, the mother is wrong. I used to think that memorizing a book is easy for children, children have a good memory, that is, they keep reading and reading, and they will memorize it when they read it.
But I overlooked how much mental tempering a child is in the process of repeating a lot of recitation, and how much concentration and determination is required to memorize it word for word.
Last week, I took the I Ching you had memorized and read it for 2 hours at a normal pace. I asked you how many times you had read it over the weekend. You said it calmly about 400 times. My heart was pounding hard. 400 times, 800 hours, according to 5 hours per day, but also read for more than 5 months, and repeat the same content every day.
This is just the I Ching, as well as Mencius and the Book of Poetry, which will take me more than 3 hours to read even if I read them well. And you, memorizing them all, I think you haven't read them more than 500 times, you should not be able to do it.
Seeing these books you have read, which are patched up and patched with tape, my mother is really touched.
Reading tens of thousands of volumes
I want to say: Boy, you're amazing.
If you can have such an experience in your life, what else can be difficult for you in the future? In the face of those crooked and uninteresting ancient texts, you can be patient and nibble down word by word, what else can temper your heart so much?
Yes, I did not accompany you through this process, it was the teachers who witnessed your growth and transformation day by day. I can't see all of your shining points, only your shortcomings. Come to think of what an unqualified mother I am. And these so-called shortcomings, in fact, many of them are caused by our family environment.
Parents are originals and children are photocopies. The child's problems can most likely be rooted in parents and families.
To this end, the mother also has to reflect on herself. I should unconditionally believe that every child is bright and good.
And my baby, you are so kind, loving, and so hardworking, Mom can only sincerely bless, should not let the senseless emotions disturb the mind.
In fact, this month, you are also studying hard. When Dad was making up the math for you, he found that you were actually working very hard. You've been great to catch up in just one month. And writing is getting better and better.
When I went to pick you up last week, in the bedroom, your quilt was the best folded, it was the kind of square tofu block. When your life teacher saw me, he said: You are very capable, very obedient, and often help others.
Loves to cook good food
You see, you have a lot of advantages. You are so beautiful, your mother must have done a lot of good things in her last life to have you 10 years ago. You are God's most precious gift to your mother in this life.
Thank you, my baby. It was you who gave me the opportunity to be a mother. Because of you, I started a second life. I love learning so much now because I want to be a good example for you. My life has changed because of you.
On the occasion of your 10th birthday, mom also wants to say a word to you:
Let's accept our clumsy selves and work hard enough to be mistaken for talent.
It's okay if we're a little bit behind now, accept ourselves completely, but don't stop learning. Quietly work hard when others can't see it.
One day, they will say to you: Mu Yan, you are so powerful.
Just like you read the classics, after going through the process of wrapping up the book, your mother believes that you can overcome all the difficulties and finally achieve your wishes.
Bless you, baby! Mom and Dad love you forever!
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