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There are sixth-grade elementary school students in the family, and they are naturally particularly interested in the theme of "Xiao Shede", which directly faces the beginning of the xiaosheng.
Of course, a story like "Little Shed" is naturally inseparable from the twists and turns of parents, for example, although it is aimed at the beginning of the child's ascension, it does not leave the pain of the original family experienced by the child's parents.
I think the story will slowly unfold and bring us different excitement. Now that 4 episodes have been broadcast, what I feel more deeply is the conflict between the two groups of families in terms of educational views.
The protagonist of the story should be two groups of families, after the marriage storms of the older generation, and now the hostesses of these two groups of families can also be regarded as sisters.
NanLi and Xia Junshan are a group of couples, with high education and high income, who have unique achievements in their respective fields, and the family has both children and daughters, and the family atmosphere is happy and happy. The most important thing is that the husband and wife have the same view of their children's education: children are not products of assembly work, but living people.
Therefore, they do not seek children to be able to get good results, nor do they rush to pursue the so-called famous school effect, but only hope that children can grow up physically and mentally and wait for the flowers to blossom.
They let the children act according to their own interests and hobbies, such as their daughters like to sing, perform, and host, so they cultivate well, do not seek any results, only hope that the children can work hard for their own goals.
In the state of the child's test score is very unsatisfactory, when Tian Yulan is anxious for the child to score 86 points and the fourth place, they look at their own happy 45-point test paper, the noun at the bottom, and do not blame the child too much, but can empathize with the understanding of the child:
First of all, I was worried about whether the teacher would publish the results and hurt the child's self-esteem, and then I returned home to reduce the pressure for the child first, and finally I looked for the root cause with the child, found the reason for the failure of an exam, and summarized the reasons to encourage the next progress.
To be honest, this really requires the concentration of parents.
Not all parents can do so meticulously in the face of their children's achievements, and even some parents will hate iron and steel to satirize their children, invisibly destroying their children's pride, so that children no longer have confidence, and thus more defeated.
Take the child to audition the course of the homework tutoring class, look at the excellence of other people's children, not moved, not blindly pressurized for the child, see the continuous 2 and a half hours of the course, but also just think that such ampere is particularly detrimental to the growth of the child, so finally decided to accompany their own efforts, personal counseling to improve the child's performance.
Yes, in today's troubled training army, how many parents want to give their children a happy and happy childhood, and finally have to let their children devote themselves to uninterrupted training classes and cram schools?
Even if it is "to eat bitterly and be a superior person", if you blindly put pressure on the child, so that the child has no escape, or even no chance to breathe, how can you harvest a physically and mentally healthy child?
Yan Ziyou, the representative of "other people's children", the typical of "xueba". One of the cabinets in his home was full of medals for his growth.
Tian Yulan is Yan Ziyou's mother, a mother who can do her best for her children, and devotes herself to her children's learning. Yan Peng, Yan Ziyou's father, a big boy with a more casual life, although he understands the child and does not want to add too much pressure to the child, but suffers from helplessness and love for the child's mother, so he has to be a wise adjuster.
Although Tian Yulan and Yanpeng do not have a unified view of children's education, their family atmosphere is still very good, the father loves the mother, the mother loves the father, which is the key to family happiness and the premise of the child's happiness.
I have to say that Tian Yulan is really a mother who fights very hard for her children. A simple enumeration of two points is enough to prove:
1, from the performance of getting Xia Ziyou's math test paper, you can also feel: the mother knows the child's learning progress and mastery of the situation, including what types of topics the child should know, what topics the child has not yet learned, and even super-program, as a parent, the heart is like a mirror.
How many parents just ask and pay attention to their children's academic performance and test scores, but they don't know anything about what their children are learning, or they don't pay attention at all?
2. It can also be glimpsed from Xia Ziyou's class notes: the notes made by the mother are more detailed than the children's, and with different color pens, with summaries, experiences, etc. Even when Tian Yulan waited for Nan Li to meet during the tea break, she was also carefully doing the child's test paper.
How many parents really accompany their children to learn together and be the real guides of their children's learning? Although not all companionship will necessarily have results, not all parents can do this.
Of course, it does not mean that parents must accompany their children to learn together, but it is still very necessary to pay attention to their children's learning, at least to do something, rather than false guidance!
Therefore, we can't say that Xia Huanhuan's parental education concept is not right: the child has a high starting point, there is nothing missing from childhood, childhood is only once, happiness is the most important; such a child, at every turn, spell this, spell that, listening to it is upsetting.
It can't be said that Yan Ziyou's mother is so hard at work: our family does not lack anything, but parents and children earn their own income is two different things. Eat bitterly, be a superior person; where there is any equality, it is all self-deception; people go to high places and water flows to low places, so children's achievements must not relax, and if you hurt him now, it is equivalent to harming him in the future.
In fact, no matter what kind of parents, what kind of educational philosophy, and no matter what kind of plans you want to make for your child's future, one thing is certain: the child's growth is irreversible, only once!
In the final analysis, the difference in parents' educational concepts does not mean right and wrong; the future of children is not equal to the success of parents' education.
The so-called "seeking kindness and benevolence", as long as parents can face their children without guilt when they are dying of old age; as long as the children are grateful to their parents after they become adults; it is enough!