One of the biggest breaking points of the Spring Festival file is probably Jia Ling's rise to the top of the highest-grossing female director in the history of Chinese cinema with "Hello, Li Huanying".
A film about the relationship between mother and daughter, with a super high reputation of 8.3 points, counterattacked to the top of the single-day schedule and box office champion. Tear-inducing, the regret that the child wants filial piety and does not wait... Behind the fire of "Hello, Li Huanying", the public is paying for the mother's love and affection, which is the reflection of the creator's secret psychology, and it is also the concentrated embodiment of the group resonance triggered by the "festive season".
In the Spring Festival of 2021, many wandering wanderers responded to the initiative of "local New Year" and were unable to reunite with their families. However, "Hello, Li Huanying", without the help of blockbuster visual effects and innovative narratives, but only the warm narrative with tears in laughter, and the simple presentation of the true feelings between mother and daughter, poked the softest part of the audience's heart, and also triggered the emotional resonance of "thinking of relatives during the festival", making many viewers tearfully "break the dike", which is also the key to the film's success in "going out of the circle".
The mother-daughter relationship is the most important relationship in human life and is the great influence that women have with each other. Everyone has a unique mother in their hearts, but mothers are also the people we are most likely to fail. "Hello, Li Huanying" is based on personal experience by the director and comedian Jia Ling. In 2001, 19-year-old Jia Ling was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, and shortly after she enrolled, her mother Li Huanying fell off a car full of straw and died on the spot.
The pain of "not being able to say goodbye" has been haunting Jia Ling's psychology, even though it has been nearly 20 years since her mother's death, she is still immersed in sadness and cannot let go.
That's why there are sketch versions and movie versions of "Hello, Li Huanying" - in a psychological sense, she is using the artistic way to say what she did not have time to say to her mother, to do what she wanted to do but never had the opportunity to do again.
She needs to make up for all her regrets and completely release her sorrows before she can complete her final farewell to her mother;
Otherwise, even if her career is in full swing and her career is very popular as an artist, in the depths of her heart, she will always be the child who cannot forgive herself - some things were not completed at that time, and in this life, there will be no chance to complete them.
Therefore, this movie, it is not a memory, not a memorial, in fact, it is Jia Ling's final farewell to her mother who has passed away for 20 years, and it also makes us think:
If one day, we also need to face the "breakup" with the closest person, how can we complete this "farewell of love"?
The compensation for the lack of "children who want to raise and do not wait" is one of the reasons for the emotional resonance of many audiences. Behind this, from the psychological level of analysis, is the psychological presentation of "unfinished events".
In psychology, there is a branch called Gestalt therapy. The core idea of Gestalt therapy is that a person's life, from birth to death, is to do one thing, that is, to complete the "unfinished" wish. In the process of growth, the psychological "unfinished events" have a strong psychological drive, so that people are constantly in the process of "Gestalt" all their lives. At the same time, these "unfinished events" are also the source of psychological suffering. Therefore, an important way to solve people's psychological pain is to help people to "Gestalt".
As ordinary people, we always leave some regrets in our hearts. Or about love, or about affection, or about friendship.
Although life never stops moving forward, will those unfinished things and unhandled emotions have an impact on today's life?
[Incomplete Events] (unfinished business), it refers to unexpressed emotions, including: regret, anger, resentment, pain, anxiety, sadness, sin, abandonment, etc. Although these emotions are not expressed, they are linked to vivid memories and imaginations. Because these emotions are not fully experienced in the perceptual realm, they linger in the subconscious and are brought into real life unconsciously, thus hindering their effective contact with others.
It should be emphasized that the "unfinished event" on the psychological level is a complex, not a matter of unfinished business in daily life. Unfinished events often persist until the individual is brave enough to face and deal with these unexpressed emotions.
Because the "unfinished event" has been pending, the individual is in a state of incomprehension, incompetence, or unsupportability, and the trauma has always demanded to be healed, and the demand for healing is sometimes denied, sometimes submerged, sometimes rationalized, and it seems that this fixed Gestalt (fixed coping pattern) is adapted.
This is the basic mechanism by which unfinished events cause people to be troubled. When people's distress comes from lingering similar situations, or when their energy and attention cannot be fully relaxed into future and present affairs, it seems that they are often reliving old creations, and still seem to be trying to solve the initially overwhelming fears, energies, or struggles that are at the heart of unfinished events.
Everyone's "unfinished events" need to be paid attention to, when we find that "unfinished events" in life and work have a greater impact on ourselves, it is recommended to actively seek professional psychological counseling or supervision to achieve personal growth.
"Unfinished events" are like the "reefs" that we continue to face in the voyage of personal growth, learning to carry out our "unfinished events" to the end, actively facing and dealing with them in time, we can make our life's voyage smooth sailing and see beautiful scenery farther away!
In the new year, Yijin Psychology will continue to accompany you to grow and harvest a better life!
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Jia Ruqi